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Apr 05, 2012, 04:20 PM
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I know it's supposed to be posts about disorders and anxiety etc. My problem now is my Husband who adds to my irritabilty and anger!!!!! I am Bipolar with rapid mood changes which is not easy, he thinks it's in mt head, You got it buddy it is... So he is working the easter weekend I'm not so he got off on Tues,Wed and Today. I went to my sis with the kids (he did some work elsewhere) about an hour later he pitches music loudly with beer! Great so we bake some cupcakes and enjoy ourselves untill a person calls (don't know who) Oh they are stuck somewhere - we have loooooose sand here so he's on the phone making arrangements he gets up walks out and leaves without saying bye. That was about 1 o clock. So I went home half an hour later kiddy jumping against the walls (pink icing) took her for a swim and she calmed down. Guess what time he pitches up? After 8!!!!! That's after I phoned and shouted because 2 kiddies too much! He walks in goes and has a bath falls asleep in it!!! So I shouted a bit more. This makes him look bad and he is not a bad guy he just makes bad decisions on bad days for me. It's always "why is it about you???" Uhm maybe because I feel like throwing your kid when she shouts at me, and baby starts crying at the same time plus I'm feeling really really irritated! And you don't come home when your supposed to! When you do Your drunk and spent money that's supposed to last a bit longer than 7 hours!!!!! He didn't help me at all today, like so many times when I look like a donkey packed with everything and baby is hanging from my hip. Sometimes ( a lot ) I feel like leaving him. Our 5th anniversary is in 2 days and WOW has he changed! Sorry I just need some steam released. When I tell him these things he replies your'e crazy. You aint seen nothing yet!!! My next mania maybe I'll just load the kids and go to my mom! Or better yet just one day, maybe you'll wake up! Okay finished...
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Apr 05, 2012, 04:23 PM
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Just curious, have you ever considered marriage counselling?
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Apr 05, 2012, 04:29 PM
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Jip I wanted a divorce a few months back, he said what about counselling, and that is how far we got! Will adress this issue again thanx.
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Apr 05, 2012, 04:48 PM
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Divorce just means you WILL have to do it all yourself. Been there done that.
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Apr 05, 2012, 04:51 PM
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I know and things does get better and then not so good, but somedays I can just screeeeam. Just have to bear it kids do grow up! Just want mine to grow up as normal as possible!
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Apr 05, 2012, 05:11 PM
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wow, you sound like me and my husband sometimes! When i'm having a rough day and I need his support and attention he's too busy working on his car (mustang=obsession) and talking to his friends. All I ever want from him at those times is for him to show me extra attention and love on me, not too much to ask for
 Anywho, I know how ya feel Chihuahua, maybe you can lock him in the basement with the kids and take a bubble bath
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Apr 06, 2012, 07:36 AM
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Divorce should be a last option, but it does take two to make a marriage work. You can not carry it all on your shoulders. He needs to man up. The drinking and spending money sounds like a young person. How old is he? It took my husband until he was 25 to start settling down and stop spending money on bars and poker. We went to counseling. Thats a very good place to start. It will take time but sounds like its time you make it happen. Best of luck
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Apr 06, 2012, 08:36 AM
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Hi Chihuahua,
Sometimes it is so tough! I have put up with my husband and he with me for 23 years now and it is a constant job. Why not go on strike for an hour or two? Hand over the kids and either leave and go shopping or take a long bath with a do not disturb sign. You need to allow yourself some "me" time. When my kids were young we used to joke that I had something going with the Walmart greeter because whenever I needed a break I figured out something I needed at Walmart. Good luck! Bluemountains |
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Apr 06, 2012, 10:29 AM
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My fiance can be like that at times too...It's frustrating because you wished they understood that there really is something wrong with you. Maybe if they did, they would help a little more by helping you more on days that you really need the help. What I will say about my fiance is that he's really good about stepping in and taking care of our daughter. Homework, baths, dinner (if I bribe him), discipling, picking up from school, dropping off. I could not do it without him. Because like you said, some days my daughter can drive me crazy. It's not her fault...It's all me but I'm glad that he helps because I couldn't.
To the poster, have you tried discussing with him alternating taking care of the kids sometimes? On those days that you aren't feeling well, have him watch the kids. I mean really, what's so hard about men watching the kids so that the woman can have a break? On those days that I feel overwhelmed, I give my daughter something to do to occupy her time. Maybe we will sit down and watch movies. Besides that, I put her to bed early on those days. Now about the daughter that was bouncing off the walls, try not giving her a lot of sugar like that. I'm not saying that you didn't know that. My daughter doesn't eat alot of sweets but I don't let her eat something too sugary that will have her literally doing laps around the house. Yes, she does laps. When you get to your breaking point, make your daughter sit down in another room and you walk away before you explode. With the baby, if the baby is crying, walk away, calm down, tune the kids out, get your mind right, regroup, call him to come home if needed. I have done that before too.
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Apr 06, 2012, 01:22 PM
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He is 37 me 27 as I mentioned before we live in a very rural part of SA close to Mozambique, he works at a lodge and I am a teacher so when I have holiday he works. No going to a mall or even a shop - we have a grocer about 20km away and then just tuckshops with the neccesary things and restaurants and off course the beach. I just can't leave them both with him I'd worry too much. I know he is a great dad but taking care of them is everything I had postpartum depression after bebe 1 and was convinced she was going to die. So letting them out of my sight is very hard. Divorce is a last option I agree, just had enough pf yesterday when I he got home. Thanx all
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