[venusss]

At times I swear she might be bipolar as well...

I have been out of home for quite few years, so I never had time to notice her craziness...

but now I am stuck at home because of extra semmester in school... I am getting full experience of it.

She has been like that all life, but when working she didn't have time for all her crazy projects. Yet she managed to get few certificates and educate herself, to let it go afterwards, because it's not what she wanted.

Now she is retired, she is trying this and that, dating random guys to call them idiots few weeks later (I really do NOT want to this). She thought she will start mini bio-farm and sell veggies and fruits (our garden gone wild since...). Then she seen a docu about goats and now she wants a goat (it would eat the damn garden and solve things, but still). She randomly ordered solar panel (WEGONNABESOGREENSQUEE).

I just don't know how to keep with her "Let's do THIS NOAW" and meddling in my life "my friend makes LACE and your friend is in JAPAN, my friend could make LACE for your JAPANESE friend to SELL it" and following "world is a doomed place".

I am hoping I am not the same. Or won't be the same in some time.

Heh, ok well hard not to laugh at your interpretation of your mother. But yeah hope she isn't Bipolar, maybe a stage in her life?

I don't think you'll end up like your mother for certain tho, I am not like my mother or father. I've kind of taken their examples of being, of what not to do. They are good teachers.

I am kinda like your mother from that description, right now my garden is a mess right now, I did put massive hours into it in the spring, and then got busy with other ideas. We went to a fair that had sheep and alpacas the other day, I was ready to sneak one or two out and stuff them in the car, bring them home and spin wool. Lucky I don't have the resources to follow through on most things.

Maybe she is having like a midlife kinda thing tho? My mom is all over the map right now, and I think it's just her age, last time I talked to her she was moving to Peru to rebuild a house in a village my stepdad grew up in, last week she followed my into gluten freeness, and before that it was starting her own bakery. But this is new on her part.

[faerie_moon_x]

Hmmm... actually what you're describing sounds a lot like ADD to me. My husband has ADD and he's not medicated right now. When he is he is better. But once he gets an idea into his head, he has to do it right now. Sometimes I try to convince him to sleep on it at least, but no, he can't do that. It's impossible for him. So he takes up this new hobby, project, "business" idea and sometimes they last a few weeks or a few months, but usually he burns out on them pretty fast.

And yes, he will see something on t.v. or on YouTube or a friend will tell him something, and he gets into the idea he has to do this, too. But then it fizzles out. I know it can be frustrating at times, especially when the projects are expensive and it is more like an impulse or compulsive behavior.

Since you say she's been like this her whole life, it might be worth considering, but the only way to know for sure is if she would see a doctor.

[BlueInanna]

gives me a little heh too, sorry Venus. your mom sounds awesome. but i know how moms can get annoying. my mother has a shopping problem, like shopping at dollar tree and walmart and buy cheap crap that breaks in a day, more crap than we need in this overloaded unorganized house. but then she's cute how she loves the chickens and goes out to their coop and gives them watermelon and talks to them. and she is almost always kind and patient and calm and never yells, i'm not like that, more like my dad that way. i really don't want to be like her in many ways. but in other ways i try to be like her and just won't ever cuz that's not who i am.

[missbelle]

Sounds like she is trying to find her place in society again since she is retired...Believe me I know how it feels!!!!!!!!!!

AND...she sounds like great fun and someone I would like to hang with......

[unaluna]

oh venus! in america we say, "the apple doesn't fall far from the tree", but the expression in italian translates out to, "the mama goat has baby goats". hmm, is that why my mother always calls me a baby goat?

[likewater]

Haha. Your mom is goofy and maybe could use a life coach or counselor to help her focus befire she drives you batty. I looove the goat. Pleeeeaaase let her get a goat so we can read about all the goat antics later. Goats are very naughty and create havoc.

[BlackPup]

mothers!!!!! mine has OCD and has to have a spotless house - I definitely didn't get that from her!!!

Yours sounds like a lots of fun, but probably not to live with!!!!! Has she ever shown signs of depression?

Haha, mine's a hoarder and I definitely didn't get that!

Mine will never retire (too many bad decisions), but did (and presumably still does, I can't deal with her) all this kind of stuff like you talk about Venus. OMG. The most ridiculous things. I totally understand.

(Heheh, it's not that I've not done a million projects, but I tend to get rid of the evidence. )

[venusss]

Originally Posted by BlackPup

mothers!!!!! mine has OCD and has to have a spotless house - I definitely didn't get that from her!!!

Yours sounds like a lots of fun, but probably not to live with!!!!! Has she ever shown signs of depression?

yeah, she gets pretty down. She feels desperate because she doesn't a man and suddenly all that was not problem to do before IS. World sucks she claims. We got revolution stolen from us and everything is doomed and she feels sorry for me that i have to live in it... you get the picture.

It does sound fun and at time it is... but it's just hard to keep up with.

[venusss]

And as for seeing doctor or counsellor... I am pretty sure she won't. She is worse than me and thinks everything can be cured with herbs from our garden.

Yesterday we took our cats to vet and my mom complained about "****ing doctors" the whole time we waited.

I guess I just need to take care of myself and don't get too swayed. And not to teach her how to use her internet banking or one day I will come and we'll have ostrich in our garden or something like that (my mom wanted me to buy ostrich eggs once so she can decorate them for easter and win some competition... so I wouldn't be surprised).

[faerie_moon_x]

I have a good friend who has very sever anxiety and possibly other things like depression if not bipolar. She refuses to see a doctor about it because her cultural heritage is all about dealing with your issues privately. So I understand where you're coming from on that.

As for the goat... if you get a goat, get a fainting goat. They pass out if you startle them. Perhaps then it can't get into too much trouble because if it's being bad you can just make a loud noise and it will fall over.

[Trippin2.0]

I WANT A FAINTING GOAT! where do I sign??? Venus, gotta love the crazy shiat your mom gets up to, but she needs to be put in time-out every now and then to maintain the harmony...

[BlueInanna]

Grow a lot of valerian and skullcap in garden
And no catnip for moms lol

[cocoabeans]

Haha, sorry, my mother is like that too. Though, she really has bipolar but won't go medicated/treated and she doesn't need it either. She is very successful. Weeks of her swinging from the rafters followed by weeks of her sleeping was my childhood. That was normal.

It was quite the shock for me to find out that going through phases of happiness and insomnia and depressions wasn't "normal" and still I don't quite believe it!

You see, I've lived with my crazy mother and family. That "bipolar" was normal to me.

Other than college room mates (and who really sleeps in college?) And my husband who has the bipolar label too, I've never lived with anyone to show me otherwise.

People will say things but, I'm not entirely aware of my own moods all the time so, why believe people?

[moremi]

Originally Posted by VenusHalley

At times I swear she might be bipolar as well...

I have been out of home for quite few years, so I never had time to notice her craziness...

but now I am stuck at home because of extra semmester in school... I am getting full experience of it.

She has been like that all life, but when working she didn't have time for all her crazy projects. Yet she managed to get few certificates and educate herself, to let it go afterwards, because it's not what she wanted.

Now she is retired, she is trying this and that, dating random guys to call them idiots few weeks later (I really do NOT want to this). She thought she will start mini bio-farm and sell veggies and fruits (our garden gone wild since...). Then she seen a docu about goats and now she wants a goat (it would eat the damn garden and solve things, but still). She randomly ordered solar panel (WEGONNABESOGREENSQUEE).

I just don't know how to keep with her "Let's do THIS NOAW" and meddling in my life "my friend makes LACE and your friend is in JAPAN, my friend could make LACE for your JAPANESE friend to SELL it" and following "world is a doomed place".

I am hoping I am not the same. Or won't be the same in some time.

Lol... your cracking me up with your expression of your mother. Idk if she is bipolar, sounds maybe she is with all of her unfinished experiments. Just try and laugh it off and enjoy your time with her. I wish I could spend a little time with my mom like that. A semester may be a long time though so make sure you have your own me time too.... Your very intellegent Venus you will figure something out Im sure!

[venusss]

Originally Posted by moremi

Lol... your cracking me up with your expression of your mother. Idk if she is bipolar, sounds maybe she is with all of her unfinished experiments. Just try and laugh it off and enjoy your time with her. I wish I could spend a little time with my mom like that. A semester may be a long time though so make sure you have your own me time too.... Your very intellegent Venus you will figure something out Im sure!

Yeah, I do need to live for myself.


And nice to know it's funny for others I do laugh too, though at times

I vacationed with her this summer in Ukraine and my mom was EXTREMELLY friendly with locals, trying to strike conversations with random people. In Sevastopol which is a former close city (and still has military zones that are closed to public) she came to some guy in restaurant with map, asking "what are those pink zones in the map? Are they military zones? Can you go there? I wanna see!". All the time I was thinking if you can get banished from the city. We had mom's friend with us, who thought at times she went on trip to eastern europe with two lunatics

[unaluna]

it is always a party when either I or my mother are there; both of us, and it is Super Bowl. but she becomes ashamed of me at times, that I am not like the others, that I am fat, not married, do not have children, so lately things have not been good for us. I am 60 years old, so those things are not likely to change. I once asked her, if I had a child on my own, if she would help me, and she said no, so I don't see how she can complain now.

anyway, very good thread, venus. it is interesting to read about so many others' crazy and exciting moms too!

[BlueInanna]

Originally Posted by VenusHalley

Yeah, I do need to live for myself.

And nice to know it's funny for others I do laugh too, though at times

I vacationed with her this summer in Ukraine and my mom was EXTREMELLY friendly with locals, trying to strike conversations with random people. In Sevastopol which is a former close city (and still has military zones that are closed to public) she came to some guy in restaurant with map, asking "what are those pink zones in the map? Are they military zones? Can you go there? I wanna see!". All the time I was thinking if you can get banished from the city. We had mom's friend with us, who thought at times she went on trip to eastern europe with two lunatics

Reminds me of me and my daughter, I'm the annoying chatty mom, and she's the lovely venus with the long auburn hair She's just all chill, icey and mellow, rolls her eyes at me lol. But we have a good time too! Or so I think haha.

[moremi]

My mother is bipolar too. I also watched the ups and downs growing up. Thought it was normal as well. My mother is much more out there with her ups though. She will do things like meet someone on the internet and up and move to Georgia and live there with them for three months while shes married to someone else and then bring this strange man home to her husband and totally believe there is nothing wrong with this scenario. Or she took off to Florida one day because she met a man on the internet who was about to lose custidy of his daughter because he could only provide a one bedroom appartment for her. My mother goes there and puts this strange man and his daughter up in an appartment for 3months and buys the little girl a new wardrobe and she was home by the end of the weekend. Oh my mother, I love her dearly but she worries me so.

[venusss]

Originally Posted by BlueInanna

Reminds me of me and my daughter, I'm the annoying chatty mom, and she's the lovely venus with the long auburn hair She's just all chill, icey and mellow, rolls her eyes at me lol. But we have a good time too! Or so I think haha.

I am pretty crazy too though. Climbing on statues and stuff to have picture taken (and my mom always mimics Tyra Banks and tells me to smile with my eyes and be fierce lol).

My mother is bipolar too. I also watched the ups and downs growing up. Thought it was normal as well. My mother is much more out there with her ups though. She will do things like meet someone on the internet and up and move to Georgia and live there with them for three months while shes married to someone else and then bring this strange man home to her husband and totally believe there is nothing wrong with this scenario. Or she took off to Florida one day because she met a man on the internet who was about to lose custidy of his daughter because he could only provide a one bedroom appartment for her. My mother goes there and puts this strange man and his daughter up in an appartment for 3months and buys the little girl a new wardrobe and she was home by the end of the weekend. Oh my mother, I love her dearly but she worries me so.

that sounds pretty.... overwhelming. I guess I should gladly put up with goats and stuff :O