melted down

I just had a total melt down triggered by my 13 yo daughter.... I feel so hopeless

Sorry your having a rough time, and that's unfortunate it's caused by your daughter.

Aw, hon.......13-year-olds are enough to make even the strongest parent crazy! It's written into the contract kids sign when they reach junior-high age: "I promise I will disrespect my parents at every possible opportunity, get in trouble at school, defy authority, hang out with a bad crowd, and refuse to wear anything my mom picks out for me" for starters.

I survived four of 'em, and we're all still on speaking terms so I can tell you that it DOES get better. You may have to wait till they're in their 20s or 30s and have kids of their own, but sooner or later they figure out that you were right all along. Your job is to live through it so that you can enjoy the rewards.

I'm right there with you. I've been having them all week.

i'm sure you're a great mama to your daughter

hang in their

wondered where you been MommaR, sorry you had a melt down i know them too well
hope you're ok now? calming down?

Im sorry you had to go through the meltdown .. They are never fun.

Be kind to yourself **hugs**

She has some form of mental illness and I have had her in therapy repeatedly but all she does is lie to the therapists and it never gets us anywhere! I dont know how u can be a professional therapist and get hoo dooed by a 13 yo into buying the whole poor poor pitiful me BS! She lost her father to cancer several yrs ago and she has had a chip on her shoulder since. Her dad wanted a daughter so bad- she was the first girl after we had 3 boys, so her dad spoiled her rotten! She acts like she is the only one who lost their dad! But all 7 of my older children did. The 2 younger ones really dont remember him but the five older ones miss him as much as she does. My 20 yo never touched drugs til his dad died and now he has a problem he battles daily. My 13 yo went off cussing my 22 yo like a sailor! When we punished her she broke down on a if my dad was still alive trip... She had me and my 22 yo crying. I was sobbing like a baby- I told her thanks to her dad's disease (his last yr and half he became a totally dif person- he went from being a wonderful man and father to a terrible person that refused to even buy a $5 pack of training pants for our youngest son- I was left raising them alone long b4 he passed away. He -once a minister- left me for a 21 yo stripper!) I lost him, her and my 20 yo. My 20 yo and I used to be so close and now he is a shadow of his old self. I literally ate xanax and cried til I knocked myself out last night and woke up today very teary.

Blue, sorry I haven't been around. This has been a very tough week for me school-wise.

I only saw the therapist yesterday, I see the p doc monday. I felt good when I first left the T, we set some great goals- #1- find a new motivator for myself (I think I have mentioned b4 my main motivator is guilt) but just a few hrs after leaving I kind of felt like the T had done surgery and opened up all my affected mental areas and just covered them up with a band aid and left them til monday...

wow Momma that's a lot that's a crazy story about your ex - holy wow!

teens can be really mean, and treat us like we have no feelings. that is hard she misses her daddy... i was a daddy's girl i can relate... i still idolize him, despite all the things he did wrong.

sometimes after T appt's i get really emotional, because it does sometimes open up something, and then we're left to deal with the oozing. but it's gotta happen, those wounds need to get opened to get healed. i actually used to try not to schedule anything for the rest of the day after T, cuz i was routinely having meltdowns after each session. i was finally processing a lot of **** that had been held in. but it's gotta happen, you're doing the right thing. and we're here lovin you too

I believe mama meltdowns are our way of showing we care too damn much sometimes!!! I wish I could release my loving mama arms so bad sometimes, let them fall, let them bump their damn head and not get to the point of no choice in the matter like my oldest has done!!! Honestly if I had given him space, not been on his arse so bad about do this do that... I've learned to give him space to mess up and you know what it actually truely does get him to mess up sometimes but MOST of the time it gives him space to make decisions (adult like ones) and goals on his own that I am happy he makes....

Wow that for sure is alot to handle but i thought therapists are trained to spot ******** i hope she does hang in there sending you hugs

Thank you all so so very much!

Omg my 14 yr old puts me in the deepest depression!!! She doesn't know me cuz she's 14 and I'm breathing her same air. Attitude!!! I cry over our relationship all the time. Actually we went to a fair today and I prayed it'd go smoothly and yeah---didn't happen. I feel your frustration 100%!!!! Hang in there. Blow some steam off on me if you need to. Lol I swear my daughters gonna make me old very quickly

Hug back to MommaR

Wow Momma!!! You've been through so much. I'm so sorry. You're doing your best. You're still here and breathing. You are entitled to melt downs. I think you're amazing how your trying so hard. I think you're strong as all hell and just releasing some well needed negative emotion. Bigger hugs

back, ty so much. I cant express the strength I get from all of you.