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Old Mar 06, 2013, 08:34 AM
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In the beginning of December I started taper down the Ativan. I was doing great. I also got off seroquel. My husband and I started going back to the gym. I was feeling better.

Than on 1/3/13 our only child dies in our arms. Seroquel and Ativan are saving graces right now. I would be psychotic without them. I am so depressed leaving the house, dressing are impossible useless tasks. So much for plans!!!

My mom committed suicide when I was 22. I lived my adult life without a mom.
Now at 56 I lose my only child. How ever much life I have left will be without my beloved Jason. No grandchildren, my buddy Jason is gone. I am surprised I am breathing and writing this. I am sobbing beyond belief, it feels like there is a dagger in my heart. How do I go on ?????????
I am just so sorry for your loss, and given your circumstances, Speed, can see where you are coming from! I can also see why you need some "numbing" right now, from the Ativan and Seroquel. Been there and done that! I hope you'll be careful with them, though. They are good for your purposes, but I know they can cause problems, as well. The best, Speed!
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Old Mar 06, 2013, 08:38 AM
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No, there's more than that in life, Speed. You know that, too. You're in a state of depression which has thrown your chemistry out of whack.

Please get another psychiatrist and get on one of the newer medications such as Lamictal that will help correct the chemical imbalance and enable you to see things more clearly.

I know you're sure that what you're seeing is correct, but what you're seeing is the correct view of a negative state. There is another correct view, as well, and that is the understanding from a positive emotional state. You can have that again f you will get the professional help of an excellent psychiatrist. Even go out of state to get it if you feel it's necessary.

Take care; let us know how things are and please forget about suicide.
I use the Lamictal also, and find it helpful. I understand that not only is it a mood stabilizer, but that it has a mild antidepressant effect on some. Not for everyone, I know, but maybe worth considering. I know meds can make a lot of difference in some people's lives!
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Old Mar 06, 2013, 08:53 AM
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No,but the Ativan is helping the very bad anxiety I have. Not being able to go out side, I have started picking at my lips non stop ,on and on. I know I need to come down on Ativan, hence that was why I started in December. I have been on 12mg for about 5 years. I don't want to feel withdrawal symptoms right now. Actually I wish I could have more Ativan. I would take any med that would ease the emotional pain right now. I hate seroquel and was so happy when I got off right before Jason died. Now I am surviving between seroquel/Ativan dose to the next dose. I have been thinking about sending someone out on the street and getting me some drugs illegally, WTF - at this point it doesn't matter.

Mom, Jason ME.
That would add to your problems, Speed! Hang in there. Try to distract yourself if you can with whatever would work for you, music, comedy, etc.
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Old Mar 06, 2013, 11:54 AM
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That would add to your problems, Speed! Hang in there. Try to distract yourself if you can with whatever would work for you, music, comedy, etc.
I have an intake appointment for intensive outpatient treatment on Monday.It is covered by my insurance, only 15 minutes away. The hours are 9:30 o 3:00 M-F. I hope I like it. It will get me out of the house. I don't know how long I will go.

Maybe they can help me find a therapist.

I took Lamictal a few years ago and got the dangerous rash, so I can't take it. I did think it helped me. This always happens to me I find a med that helps and then I get some really bad side effect and can't take it.
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Old Mar 06, 2013, 12:02 PM
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I hope the treatment goes well. I think it is good to get out of the house, even for appointments. Your house can become more of a prison than a house.
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Old Mar 06, 2013, 12:44 PM
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Speed3 i too am highly allergic. And insurance refuses to increase my medication of the name brand. Insurance wants me to take the generic brand...did i mention i am highly allergic...hives, rash, swelling, breathing problems...but what can you do? Tried for approval, no go. So i slush through my depression on good days and make plans to end things on bad days. Thank heavens for my T and Pdoc...they hold me together. May this new place help you find a therapist and help you with the medication.
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Old Mar 06, 2013, 05:28 PM
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Oh I'm so glad to hear you will go to the program. I hope you will find a good therapist
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I'm so happy your able to do IOP I know most programs last 2+ months. If anything it's a bit of a distraction.
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Old Sep 07, 2013, 11:49 PM
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It's been a while, but checking in on you. No response needed if not desired, but I am thinking of you! Wanted you to know!
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Old Sep 08, 2013, 12:33 AM
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Let's put aside our diagnoses for a moment. I been diagnosed many things and called worse.

Let me take you back 29 years ago. I was 28, my son was 14. This was the year I will always remember because my world changed that year. In particular the day my boss called me in the office and I never in my life seen him look so bad. He told me there had been a accident and i am to meet my wife at the lake at a certain location. He wouldn't say any more. I know it was bad. I raced over there as fast as I could. As soon as I got to the lake at the location I was to meet my wife my world came to a end. I seen dozens of cop cars and firetrucks. I seen firefighters combing the lake in a human net. I seen boats and helicopters, I seen every local news station there. I can't tell you how I felt at the moment except that I felt numb and besides myself. I got out of my car started walking and seen my wife in the arms of a police officer crying as soon as she seen me she gave out a loud scream and ran towards me. No one had to say any thing to me. I didn't have to ask any questions. They would come later and become the end of our marriage.

Up until that time I was your normal typical drug using part time criminal, proud father and of course terrible husband. That day however every thing changed. I became very cynical, I dare say even evil. I cursed God and every one living and dead. Our 14 year old son died in a drowning accident in the lake. He was suppose to be fishing with his friends, but a hot summer day the boys decided to take a swim. He felt confident he had just learned how to swim and everyone told him what a great swimmer he was. There were people every where I later learned, no one came to his rescue as his friends screamed for help. One of them ran to the road and tried flagging cars down. One care finally stopped, got out and ran in to the lake to look for my son. It was too late. The current had taken him away and we would not find his body for another 2 days of hell.

Wanna talk depression, anger, loss, hopelessness, hate, you name it? I had it all and then some. My wife suggested we commit suicide and join our son. We had the drugs to easily OD. But I didn't go for it. I was too damn angry to commit suicide. I was angry at every one including my wife who let our 14 year old son go fishing at the lake with his friends. We split up just a couple of months after that. I blamed her. From there on I started a totally reckless life with absolutely no regard to my safety or the safety of others around me. I was stuck in that life style and state of mind for 2 years! Finally I some how got admitted to the hospital, I don't even remember or know how that happened but they kept me against my will and that is when I started getting treated.

Fast forward to the present. I been with the same woman for 17 years. We have two beautiful kids boy and girl twins age 9. I been fully functional and working full time for the past 17 years. I still have a lot of problems and issues. But I'm still here. I been diagnosed this and that and some of this and that.I still need meds to function. So I totally get thinking about suicide. Been there and done that. But what I don't get is why most people just give up to despair. Anger saved me. Even tho it took my on a reckless detour. I thought I lost every thing! I did! But I eventually got a new life, a second chance.

Here's what stopped me from suicide. It's so permanent and I am so not permanent. I'm always changing my mind. I have no idea what happens after death, but what ever it is, even if it's nothing, it's permanent. My son was stolen from me early in life, I live for him in his memory. I still get depressed for different reasons, I still feel like giving up some times. I still get angry and mood swings all over the place. Why I am not sure, but I keep going. I don't consider myself any thing special. If I can do it most any one can. Chose to live!
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Old Sep 08, 2013, 09:49 AM
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Over the last 8 years my Bipolar 1 disorder has become worse and worse with very little good periods. Physically a once slender active person I have become homebound, inactive and overweight. In the last year I have spend thousands of dollars in consultations and experimental treatments. It is if I have now reached end stage cancer with nothing for the pain.

My son's death in January took the last bit of my heart and spirit.

Now the Psychiatric Unit I have had as a refuge for 12 years no longer wants me.

My Psychiatrist of 12 years, although he doesn't say it, has given up on me.

Over the last few days I have been weighing the pros and cons of continuing to live in this body.

My husband has engaged back in life already. He has his work, many friends, he went skiing yesterday and go cart racing today. I just sit around or sleep.

He is a good man that has put up with a lot. It is time to set him free.
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Old Sep 08, 2013, 10:45 AM
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Let's put aside our diagnoses for a moment. I been diagnosed many things and called worse.

Let me take you back 29 years ago. I was 28, my son was 14. This was the year I will always remember because my world changed that year. In particular the day my boss called me in the office and I never in my life seen him look so bad. He told me there had been a accident and i am to meet my wife at the lake at a certain location. He wouldn't say any more. I know it was bad. I raced over there as fast as I could. As soon as I got to the lake at the location I was to meet my wife my world came to a end. I seen dozens of cop cars and firetrucks. I seen firefighters combing the lake in a human net. I seen boats and helicopters, I seen every local news station there. I can't tell you how I felt at the moment except that I felt numb and besides myself. I got out of my car started walking and seen my wife in the arms of a police officer crying as soon as she seen me she gave out a loud scream and ran towards me. No one had to say any thing to me. I didn't have to ask any questions. They would come later and become the end of our marriage.

Up until that time I was your normal typical drug using part time criminal, proud father and of course terrible husband. That day however every thing changed. I became very cynical, I dare say even evil. I cursed God and every one living and dead. Our 14 year old son died in a drowning accident in the lake. He was suppose to be fishing with his friends, but a hot summer day the boys decided to take a swim. He felt confident he had just learned how to swim and everyone told him what a great swimmer he was. There were people every where I later learned, no one came to his rescue as his friends screamed for help. One of them ran to the road and tried flagging cars down. One care finally stopped, got out and ran in to the lake to look for my son. It was too late. The current had taken him away and we would not find his body for another 2 days of hell.

Wanna talk depression, anger, loss, hopelessness, hate, you name it? I had it all and then some. My wife suggested we commit suicide and join our son. We had the drugs to easily OD. But I didn't go for it. I was too damn angry to commit suicide. I was angry at every one including my wife who let our 14 year old son go fishing at the lake with his friends. We split up just a couple of months after that. I blamed her. From there on I started a totally reckless life with absolutely no regard to my safety or the safety of others around me. I was stuck in that life style and state of mind for 2 years! Finally I some how got admitted to the hospital, I don't even remember or know how that happened but they kept me against my will and that is when I started getting treated.

Fast forward to the present. I been with the same woman for 17 years. We have two beautiful kids boy and girl twins age 9. I been fully functional and working full time for the past 17 years. I still have a lot of problems and issues. But I'm still here. I been diagnosed this and that and some of this and that.I still need meds to function. So I totally get thinking about suicide. Been there and done that. But what I don't get is why most people just give up to despair. Anger saved me. Even tho it took my on a reckless detour. I thought I lost every thing! I did! But I eventually got a new life, a second chance.

Here's what stopped me from suicide. It's so permanent and I am so not permanent. I'm always changing my mind. I have no idea what happens after death, but what ever it is, even if it's nothing, it's permanent. My son was stolen from me early in life, I live for him in his memory. I still get depressed for different reasons, I still feel like giving up some times. I still get angry and mood swings all over the place. Why I am not sure, but I keep going. I don't consider myself any thing special. If I can do it most any one can. Chose to live!

You were blessed to be young enough to have more children.

I am 57 and Jason was my only child. I will never even be a grandmother.

Sorry for your loss.
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Old Sep 09, 2013, 04:19 AM
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Speed - I'm glad to see you are back. Feel free to PM me and I'm sure I can find something for you to hold on to.
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Old Sep 09, 2013, 06:18 AM
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To you speed and Indievisible

You've just walked on ahead of me
And i've got to understand you must release the ones you love
And let go of their hand
You try and cope the best you can
But i'm missing you so much.
If i could only see you
And once more feel your touch,
Yes, you've just walked on ahaed of me
Don't worry i'll be fine
But now and then i swear i feel your hand slip into mine
God took him to his loving home
God saw him getting tired,
He wrapped him in his loving arms and whispered 'come with me'
He suffered much in silence his spirit did not bend
He faced his pain with courage, until the very end
He tried so hard to stay with us but his fight was not in vain
God took him to his loving home and freed him from his pain.

God bless you both xx
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