I need your advice..

So here's the lowdown. Ill try and make it short

Several stressors in my life recently

-i had to have a pilonidal cyst surgically removed in june, loonnngg healing process
-the incision was left open to heal by itself, done healing as of today (it previously ripped open twice after being all healed up)
-all summer i was 700 miles from my gf, long distance, sucked, i didnt know i had bp and i trested her terribly, saying things i didnt mean and giving her ultimatums
-september diagnosed with bp, have been on lithium since 10/5, 750mg for a week
-got a new job after a long search (accounting), want to start in two weeks
-my parents want me to postpone my start date because they are worried ill have a bad day, start talking over ppl (like i did pre diagnosis/meds) and get fired

How can i convince my pafents that i am ready. I have been doing nothing sitting on my butt at home for almodt 5 months now i need to get my life back. I really do feel like i am myself again, lithium wprks wonders for me i feel.

Once in a while i get impatient but nowhere near to the extent like when i was manic at the beginning of this month.

Thanks for reading

your bored out of your skull and want to do something

the only way i can see is to do something similar to what they are worried about in a area they can see the reactions too

as for talking over ppl that is not all that bad

the only useful idea i have is get one of those fake call your phone apps .........if u are in a stressful something and know about to blow your top trigger the phone to ring make it sound important and personal excuse yourself from what ever ........get back to crap dealing mode head back in .....smile and nod

and if not take the time to heal up little more and do online college credit classes for something u enjoy ......when ever u get time take a class get another credit soon u will have a BA in something making u more money for a job u love

I have my bachelors in accounting and will be a staff accountant whenever i do start

Today my dad said he wants to test my focus so i said tomorrow ill study cpa material for a few hours then take a couple of online quizzes. I have been reading i think my focus is fine, its just i havent done one thing for hours at a time in forever. I do seem to go from one thing to the next a lot.

Another thing is once i learned of the new job i got a credit card and was manic and racked up a pretty decently big bill. I was runni g around and basically buying everything, clothes tickets etc.

Ive since cut myself off but now i want to start so i can make the payments.

Anytime i leave the house now my dad worries that im going somewhere to buy something. I am aware of it my lithium is finally working and im super eager to start my job. I cant sit around all day EVERY day playing video games ill go nuts

Congratulations on the new job and recovery from your surgery. That's all really good. Meds are one part of the equation, but not all of it. Coping skills, self awareness, sleep, healthy eating--these are all just as important. A therapist can help with the coping skills part. Are you doing that, or would you consider it? That would also help transfer some of the responsibility your parents feel for your decision-making back to you, which is much healthier.

I'm curious about the cyst surgery. I'm glad it went well. I've been needing one removed for 26 years now. Last dr. 10 years ago said mine was a 9 out of 10 on the hardness factor because of it's size.

I've lived through some excruciating pain, at times, so my question is, does it feel better?

I have been seeing a social worker. Ive seen him three times. The first time went well. The second time was terrible because i was in my low mood, being all quiet and not talking to anybody. It was very awkward as i wasnt talking much. Than the third one went fantastic, i was myself. I see him tmrw.

As far as sleep, ive been battling insomnia for years. My psych said i cant take my sleeping pills. So basically i stay up until i feel somewhat tired, which is sometimes never because im not allowed to do any physical activity or exercise. Twice in the past two weeks i didnt sleep a wink. But lately ive been much brtter with it. I read my book in bed and can only read ten pages or so because , my eyes get so tired. Last night i slept from 1:30am-10am.

Also i feel like my appetite is out of control. I eat eat eat, and have been gaining weight. When i was on zyprexa it was worse, but lithium as well i feel is going to make me into a fatty

You could try stretching exercises instead of heavier exercise. I find them beneficial as they relax the body when you are stressed and yet energize it when you are listless. You could also try yoga if the doctor thinks you are up to it. And yes, I agree with Justugh that you need to get out, even if it is for just short periods of time at first. Talking over people is something that a lot of people do, not just those with mental health issues, so I wouldn't worry about that, especially not now you feel you are successfully medicated. Good luck with the job. Once you get out to work, a lot of the other issues will probably just clear up by themselves, as a lot of them may well be due to you being cooped up at home all day.

Darvula.

Thank you darvula.

Im not worried about the job at all, my dad is.

I knpw itll be ok. About talking over people, that was to friends, i was giving them advice when they didnt ask for it.

I feel that in the work environment i will know my place and never have any issues.

Not being able to exercise is a toughie. I need to walk everyday, twice a day, and for a long time. I take lithium, too, and am bloated from all the extra water I drink. It's hard to find that balance. I wish you well. It's got to be hard having your parents hovering over you, looking for signs of an episode.

Yes exactly....hpverying over me, constantly telling me the warning signs that they see, that im not better.

When i really DO feel better.

I am an active guy. I box, run, play basketball, baseball, soccer, tennis, racquetball, golf...

I do a lot, and i cant do ANY of it until 2015.

Really sucks.

the buying thing i know about

ummmmm the trick i do is carry about 50 bucks at a time .........i keep one creditcard on me with about 1000 buck limit on it ..........a 2nd one that is only 300 bucks and the big one with the 12,000 limit is at home but i have the numbers in my head incase i ever need to use it for bail or a big bill

the 300 buck one is only for gas in the car ..........the 1000 buck one is for normal day stuff food something to drink pack of smokes

the 50 bucks in cash is the mad money ...........u know impulse buy that candy bar ........u only spend the cash u have on u to buy something ( if u want something big save the cash up and then buy it )

this way u can keep track of info like what u spend on using the credit cards

the trick is when u get that impulse to buy ........ask self will it be cheaper in 3 months .....do u really need this or do u just want it .........what are u willing to give up to afford this ( i have skipped eatting every other day to afford things i wanted for 2 months )

Thats a good idea having certain cards for certain things.

After i got my job offer i was so excited and was manic.

Signed up for a few different credit cards (never had my own before) etc etc

Now my parents r saying they want to pay them n off n have me postpone my start date til next year, i do not want to do that though i want to start in two weeks.

And i wont tell my dad my credit cards balance because im embarrassed of all the spending i did.

Its very tough, when im impatient and argumentative i feel guilty later on. My family needs to know that thats NOT me, its my bp taking over.

when my mom died i took that 12k card out and went to the bar for 3 weeks when i was done and had a chance to look at what i spent on it i was near 6300 bucks in bar charges /hotel rooms

accounting is one of the weird jobs u could start working from home (tele comute)

as for what u charged tell him the interest rate on the cards for a new person u are looking at 18 to 21% (every month they can charge u for that amount on the outstanding bill) for me it took 3 years to pay off that bill with the 18% they were charging me i paid them about 2k more then i spent

if your parnets have the money take it from them to pay off the credit cards and tell your parents it is a loan with a 5% interest rate (so u they are not out money that would have made them a few bucks in the bank interest )

u keep the pride .........they help u out and they make a little more then the bank would pay them ........and u are completely out of debt before u get going

The thing is if I do start the job in two weeks I'll be getting paid hopefully a month from now and I'll be spending half of my first few checks paying off the CC. Honestly I would rather do it that way and feel independent. My other expenses will be paying back student loans, I'm lucky I don't have to pay rent right away due to my situation

independent .............is when u have the smarts to know when to ask for help

doing this with your family will help them relax about your life choices .........i hate asking anyone for anything i do not like owing ppl

but these are the parents so they do not count as ppl .......they sawl u buck naked wiped your butt and kissed booboos

u asked for advice how to make them feel ok about u doing what u are about to do .........this is one of the ways

as for rent ........save up some cash and tell your parents to do a date night on u .......do this once a month as your rent /thanks for being good ppl