Does anyone else feel that their Psychiatrist or therapist doesn't like them?

I sometimes feel that I am being "judged" about my problems.

[Crazy Hitch]

I'm sorry that you feel this way Valentina.

I've had some pretty bad pdoc's in the past, and I'm sorry that you don't seem to be all that comfortable with yours, in the sense that you feel judged.

I've done some pretty crazy things with my current pdoc. But I don't think that she judges me, no. I look at it this way. In order for us to have the diagnosis of BP, we are going to share symptoms in common. The manner in which they present themselves may be somewhat different and our stories somewhat unique, but for those of us who have experienced mania, we may have very well made risky decisions, done things without foreseeing the consequences of our actions, been overly talkative etc.

You're not alone in this.

Maybe it's to do with the "mannerism" of your pdoc, how they are portraying themselves to you, or so to speak. I guess not all pdocs have what I would call a good bedside manner.

It might be my own paranoia or her demeanor. She is the one who diagnosed me with bipolar. I feel that she sometimes doesn't understand that I might "Act" bipolar. Even on meds.

[avlady]

i'm sure she understands, most likely, but hooligan was right, not all doctors have the best bedside manner but are still docs.

[Victoria'smom]

I get the same feeling from my pdoc, like he doesn't believe when I say I'm depressed. He has yet to see me manic. I'm pretty good at hiding my symptoms unconsciously. Slurred speech and leg shaking is my tall tail signs. When I'm depressed I make a lot of jokes and smile even through my tears. It sucks to only have 15 min because I naturally unconsciously cover for that long but T knows. His notes help.

[cashart10]

I had a t that I felt that way about once. Then, I accidentally missed an appt after a fairly long relationship with her. She never responded to my apology email. It was confirmation that I had been right. It happened at a time when I stopped needing therapy so it wasn't a big deal. I'm sorry you are feeling that way though. Perhaps it is time to look for someone new?

I don't know about seeing someone else. It is mainly the therapy part I am having trouble with. She is both my psychiatrist and therapist. I sometimes feel like she doesn't think I am working hard enough in therapy.

Example- I am feeling more hypo after my depression. I was talking to her about a guy I met and how I was feeling sexually attracted to him. She told me "I thought you were looking for a relationship?"

And I thought ,yes I am, but after feeling no sexual feelings for the last few months of depression, I am now thinking about sex finally.

So, I guess what I am saying is I feel differently when I am up. I am going to want to go out more, and drink more, etc. I am not out of control or manic.

I guess I feel like she is hyper vigilant about my mood changes.

[wiretwister]

my pdoc yells at me my t fell asleep on me ...

My last pdoc was so like *********. So I like so fired him and got another one. The jury is still out on this new one. She's cute though!

[wiretwister]

Originally Posted by AlwaysChanging2

She's cute though!

never hurts ........ reason to not be late .....

They're all over paid MD rejects.

[RisuNeko]

My pdoc openly dislikes me. He told me he doesn't want to work with me anymore because I don't want to use his pharmacy (which shorted me by 4 days of meds the first month I tried using it...I had to withdraw from all of my meds and it was not pretty, and they would not let me refill). He's a jerk with no heart. He feigns caring, but I don't even go see him anymore, he was that rude to me the last time I saw him when he told me he didn't want to work with me but would "put up with me" until I move out of county in a couple of months because he doesn't want to "burden" another pdoc at the clinic by passing me on.

I think my last therapist didn't like me when I was depressed. Granted I wasn't the nicest person to be around, but they need to not take things personally or get personal in return. It's not fair to us...the people who are paying them to help us.

[CopperStar]

The lady pdoc I just started seeing is extremely emotionally flat. I felt like she was thinking of me as a joke, or feeling impatient towards me, judging me, not really listening. But within a couple days of the appointment I also started having thoughts that she hates me and she is going to try to make me nuts by giving me the wrong medications and she just wants to mess with my brain. I felt convinced that she WANTS me to go crazy and wind up in the hospital, I imagined her smirking about it. I felt extremely worked up and anxious and angry. Then a few hours after that and some Xanax I figured all of it is probably my paranoia flaring up really bad. It really sucks to not be able to trust your own perceptions.

[loophole]

First pdoc was a quack... Over medicated me on klonopins. 2nd pdoc was nice but she had a different angle on meds I was t comfortable with. Hospitilized and after going iop I was give. A dr in the hospital. I've stuck with him ever sense...

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The lady pdoc I just started seeing is extremely emotionally flat.

Maybe she needs her meds adjusted. Seriously.

[CopperStar]

Originally Posted by jo_thorne

Maybe she needs her meds adjusted. Seriously.

Heh maybe. She just seemed weird to me. But again it's hard for me to trust my own perceptions, all things considered. The only time I got a smirk out of her was when she asked me if I had any OCD behaviors such as needing to clean ritualistically. I said no, that I was the total opposite, that sometimes I go weeks without showering and don't even notice, that I wished I was a clean freak. She smirked and said nothing. Then went on to the next question. It was kind of weird.

[loophole]

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[meganb22]

I have felt that way and it sucks. I have felt it from both a Pdoc and therapist. It's very important for me to be comfortable with the people who are treating me. So, if I feel uncomfortable and judged I usually try to find another doctor/therapist. After all, I am paying them so I should be treated with respect and professionalism. I don't tolerate bad Pdocs/therapist. Over the years, I have had many docs and have only had a problem with a few of them. There are a lot of good people out there- sometimes it is just hard to find them.

[Secretum]

I really thought my pdoc hated me. I met him in the hospital and I could sense that he disliked me there, but I went to his outpatient practice anyway, because I really like him (he is very knowledgeable and cares about his patients. In the hospital, we had this art therapist that talked to us like we were naughty children. My pdoc called her and told her that wasn't acceptable. That's the sort of doctor he is.)

I've been seeing him since October, the whole time believing that he barely was tolerating me. Then, two weeks ago, I saw him again. We were discussing getting me off of risperdal, which I did not want to replace with another AP. He thought that was a bad idea, but I convinced him. Anyway, I apologized for making his job harder and he told me that I was one of his easiest and sweetest patients!

So it is possible that you think your pdoc hates you when he actually really likes you.

Bipolar can cause paranoia and make it difficult for us to read people. If your doctors truly dislike you then they're the ones with an issue.

I haven't met a bipolar individual that I didn't like.

I think we're all wonderful.

[~Christina]

I had a IP Pdoc that I hated and the feeling was mutual. He was a smug asshat in his 800.00 suits looking down his nose at me and everyone .. Last time I was at his IP, yes he owns the bloody place

Before he even opened his mouth I said ,, Okay you suck and I wont blindly take what ever BigPharma drug they are paying you to push... He glared at me and said fine.. what will you take? I want you outta here as soon as possible,, LMFAO He also tagged me as BPD.. Yeah its just him I loathe. His place is 80 miles from my home. I live in a very rural area. That is the closest place. My pdoc can't stand him either.

Anyway , I no longer go there, I have my hubby drive me 110 miles away to Vanderbilt, they offer wonderful care and no stuffy asshats.

[Trixie246]

Yes I feel like that all the time. He gets very very annoyed when I dont do exactly what he says! He gets angry with me also saying things like "you don't want to get better do you" or "you want a pill for everything" and then in the meantime he is the one constantly changing my meds and putting me on different things. One day I was crying cause I was hurting and he said "ok I will give you these 2 new meds". I said "I think I will be ok its just something I have to work through and I will be ok in a week or two and I think I am aloud to have feelings and actually feel them without being numbed up and being like a zombie" . He prescribed them anyway and I didn't take them cause I wasn't suicidal or anything like that and felt like my meds were working ok. Of course next visit was difficult. I always have trouble though finding good doctors period.

I saw mine today and we discussed that I feel "blah" because i am kind of stable. She was Ok today. I think I do get a bit paranoid and insecure.

[Lonlin3zz]

I haven't been to a psychiatrist in my life at all.

Would it be weird to say that only psychiatrist who have been through Bipolar Disorder would definitely understand his/her own patient?

Mine specializes in Bipolar disorder.