[Melmo]

So for those who are cranky and *****y all the time (basically,like me :/ ) how do you control your anger without meds?

[venusss]

Channel it. Figure out why you are angry and try to resolve that situation.....

imho, medicating anger sounds countraproductive. And something controlling spouses and governments would do, eh.

[Trippin2.0]

Anger is a secondary emotion, I find it helpful to do as Venus suggested and address what lies beneath.


Also, if the anger is not expressed in an effective manner and the reason behind it is not addressed, the anger just boils beneath the surface indefinitely.and that's a very heavy toxic feeling to live with.


I was never the daily irritable b!tch type, but more the "SURPRISE! Here's explosive rage" type, and since I've taken to analyzing my anger before it reaches boiling point, I have not broken any windows, mirrors or furniture in over a year!

[barbella]

Anger's important. It is telling you something is not right and needs to change. It's good to recognize when you're angry and to work with it a bit to understand why it's there. If you don't like your reaction to your anger and feel you could do something different with it, that's good too. Don't know if this is a suitable suggestion for you but I have found mindfulness meditation is giving me a bit a room around the anger so I can deal with what's bothering me rather than lashing out at others.

[Melmo]

I have no idea why I am angry, other than being overwhelmed all the time but I can't do anything about that. Im a single mom, just the way it is.

[Ocean Swimmer]

Can you get some help? Like exchange room rent for housekeeping and babysitting for a college student?

I think having too much to do makes people mad. Also if they are protectionists. Then less gets done.
Exercise relieves stress. Maybe throw a frisbee to your kids in the park.

[Melmo]

I find it's a lot worse in the winter, because I can't go out as much. In the summer we go out to the park a lot so my mood is better. I can't wait for summer time. My mood was also a lot better when I used to go to the gym. I lived a 5-10 min walk away and I only had one child then, so my dad would come over and babysit at night time so I could work out. I loved it. Now I don't live close by anymore and I have 2 kids so no gym.
And babysitting isn't helping my mood. I am already overwhelmed with my kids, babysitting more makes it worse. I babysit a couple times a month already. And I only have a 2 bedroom apt, no room for someone else to move in.

[intergalactictraveler]

Melmo,

I deal with anger all the time. Part of it comes from feeling helpless and hopeless; no longer being able to work and being dependent on my wife for a roof over my head. The other part is my wife. She's been emotionally and verbally abusive for the 23 years we've been married. And since I haven't been able to hold a job in 6 years, I have to swallow my anger, unless I want to be homeless. I understand why my body is breaking down but I can't figure a way out of this.

We all have a hard road to travel and having to have your own back is exhausting.

[Row Jimmy]

I have a bunch of anger issues and my psychologist is trying to teach me to be mindful and "frontrun" the anger before it occurs. Right now, I'm learning how to set up my mind/thoughts to deal with stressful situations, triggers, and other things that put me over the top. The goal is to re-train the mind to simply "be" and not react or go overboard.

It is a lot of work - life gets in the way. I find that I forget to do the things I need to do in order to put my mind in that state of peace. For example, work is a big trigger for me. On the way to work, there's traffic, thoughts about work, thoughts about bills, thoughts about other things to do, and I am working hard to focus on the mind only so when I get to work, the mind and the spirit are ready and willing.

[ComfortablyNumb5]

Originally Posted by Melmo

So for those who are cranky and *****y all the time (basically,like me :/ ) how do you control your anger without meds?

I wouldn't say that I'm able to control it...yet. I haven't been in therapy for awhile. Worst comes to worst I sleep it off. I just stay far away from people and triggers, hide like I have a horn growing out of my head and I don't want anyone to know. And I do depend on meds for it because since I'm not in therapy, it's the only solution I'm able to grasp. No it's not Healthy but it's all I got.

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[Wanderlust90]

I have a so far unidentifiable source of anger that shapes my whole world. So I've began avoiding almost everything that I sense night cause me to feel agitated because the feeling is so unconfortable.