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We didn't discuss divorce a year ago??? He only even brought it up in seriousness just over a week ago. I don't want a divorce, never have, never will. If he is lying then it is fine to call him a liar. I'm not sure where your ill will is coming from.
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Even if I agree with his story, how do you figure I may be getting what I appear to want? What have I expressed that would suggest otherwise? From the time he even mentioned separating I have dated him, slept with him more often, ensured that the house was clean and organized when he got home. But, despite this, he says there is no way we can reconcile. He is being a coward by giving up on his family that consists of 3 young children.
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I hope you are right about things getting better. I have NO CLUE how I am going to walk through this. It makes me so, so sad.
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Oh, cash, this is just awful. I don't have words of wisdom or advice, but know I am thinking about you and sending hugs.
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you are correct and I did mis-speak ... sorry ... you just have had such a history with him ... that you have shared with us ... it seemed longer ... my mistake .. again sorry ... I still feel refusing to believe his answer without any "proof" ... was hurtful at the least ... guys have feelings too ...
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A four hour convo with the woman and he says she was trying to talk him into staying with you?! That's a bunch of BS I'm sorry. A lot more than that was probably discussed in that four hour period. I would be livid. I'm very sorry.
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Trust can be rebuilt but not until the persons acknowledges what they are doing is damaging. I completely fell apart, my husband has had to deal with a half a wife for the last year. I hate myself for that. But he sees that I'm doing everything I possibly can to pull out and I have been but it has been frustratingly slow. But we have built a life together and that means that we don't throw the towel in when our pride is hurt. He loves me in spite of a bad year and knows how much pain I'm in, to simply give up at this point would be cruel. To the OP: I hope he changes his mind and decides to work this out, it sounds like you love him and have been having a hard time. #Life is a beautiful lie# |
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#Life is a beautiful lie# |
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I am so so sorry you are going through this. Contact me anytime
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I just keep thinking, if only I had known the last time we made love would be the LAST time we made love, I would have savored it, made sure I didn't forget it. Now all I can do is cry and I can't even do it on his shoulder. I am very scared because I do not work and I am not on disability, I'm just a stay at home mom. I feel like this is about the worse thing that has ever happened to me. And, I'm afraid of really losing touch again, getting hospitalized, and then losing the primary custody that we both agree I should have.
My therapist has agreed to let me come in again this week because I just don't know how to process all that is happening. I just feel so betrayed.
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***** Every finger in the room is pointing at me I want to spit in their faces then I get afraid of what that could bring I got a bowling ball in my stomach I got a desert in my mouth Figures that my courage would choose to sell out now Tori Amos ~ Crucify Dx: Schizoaffective Disorder |
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Can your mom or sister come and sit with you a while? Having someone to sit with you and maybe make you some tea might help a little.
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Not tonight. It's 9:45 and everyone has to work in the morning. I told my sister that I know this will be a long night and asked her to give me a wake up call in the morning to make sure I don't oversleep. I just can't believe how ruined my innocent little babies' lives will be; they will be rocked to the core. All over someone that I still love with the whole of my heart but who has given up on me over my bipolar. That is specifically the reason he gives.
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***** Every finger in the room is pointing at me I want to spit in their faces then I get afraid of what that could bring I got a bowling ball in my stomach I got a desert in my mouth Figures that my courage would choose to sell out now Tori Amos ~ Crucify Dx: Schizoaffective Disorder |
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Call our local hotline and talk through this. It's what it's for
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As someone stated earlier, thank goodness you have a therapist right now. I cannot really imagine what you are going through. My husband and I have both said we wanted a divorce in the heat of the moment. I say it to him because I believe he deserves someone better. He says it to me because he thinks he makes the wrong decisions which go against my best interest. Leaving you just because you are bipolar is not a good answer. I hope he's able to be more honest. When you love someone, you don't leave them for a reason like that.
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My 2 cents. Hey maybe not be having a sexual affair but it definitely an emotional one.
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Emotional affairs are very real and very damaging. I hope you are doing ok. Big hugs going your way.
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Have u asked him why he wants a divorce? Like what are the actual reasons?
Whatever the reasons may be YOU CAN'T MAKE SOMEONE STAY/LOVE YOU. It's the brutal truth. I know you and him have history but before there was a you and him. There was a you. So do what's best for you and the kids. If he wants to divorce it's his lost. |
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I'm so very sorry cas.
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Perhaps it is some sort of religious relationship. I'm not kidding. Maybe they are praying together or something. It is easy to jump to conclusions, but the facts are not all in.
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I am sorry. I don't know what you can do if HE is done.
Maybe divorce is the best solution? IDK. It sounds like a hard situation. |
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Plus while I think him saying the reason for the divorce is bipolar is a really lame one (and he should explain what about thebipolar makes him want the divorce) he's probably not likely to give any other answers for the divorce that are satisfying. My ex sure didn't.
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I am so sorry cash
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