The loop

I hate this loop. I go from feeling hopeful to a stabbing depression and I think what a waste my life's been. What waste of going to college, what a waste of time. Summers coming and I've been saying this is it going to lose weight and enjoy summer. Go to the beach, make new friends, do stuff I haven't done before, but no. I'm no where close to want I want to look like. I'm such a failure. And I'm sorry you all have to hear it.

Thanks for sharing I completely understand what you saying sorry you have to go through it

Sorry to hear that boogie

Do you have any friends you can workout with? You know, someone to help motivate you and keep you going? Or a life coach.

Maybe start with a small goal of working out once or twice a week. It can even be working out at home. I use to do workouts to YouTube videos. I do have a gym membership now. I went last Saturday. I didn't go today. One step at a time. You can do it. As far as friends...join a support group. You can meet ppl that way

Don't put so much pressure on yourself. Start with one goal and work from there.

No need to apologize for expressing down feelings here. We all get it. We understand the self-criticism and self doubt that arise as a result of feeling in a low mood.

Like the others say, go easy on yourself. You're not going to solve everything at once. You may, however, have the ability to work on one thing and make it a "win." Keep piling up small wins, and your life will look different.

Boy, do I ever hear you, Boogie, I've been quitting smoking for almost a year now. Hey, I bought the patches, then the gum and of course the lozenges. I haven't tried them, but I got them just in case. I attend a quit smoking class and have learned all the reasons why I have to quit. As I approach the quit day, I increase the smoking, so I reset the date.

I consciously know I will have to pass through 2 weeks of hell to finally be free, but I keep putting it off. I've quit everything else I couldn't live without, but this one has hung me up.

They say that quitting smoking is the hardest of all addictions.
You will need much will power and support when you decide to do this.
((((HUGS))))
bizi

Lately coming into work has made me depressed. Just realized I haven't sat down in a restaurant in years. Haven't been out in the city in forever. I'm just a waste.

Boogie you are not a waste, you are a good guy dealing with an illness.
This might sound funny but I think you should get into fishing.
It is fairly inexpensive, gets you out to enjoy the weather and the sun,
and truly get into your heart to the point where knowing you are going fishing
is enough to bring you out of feeling down. Almost everyone likes fishing once
they give it a try. For lots of people including myself it is a very deep and fulfilling
experience. The more you learn the more you fall in love with it.
If you ever want to give it a try I will gladly take you.
If it wasn't for the absolute joy that I get from fishing I don't know what I would do.
Think about it my friend.

I'm sorry you are having such a tough time. Far from being a failure, you are a warrior and a survivor. Be gentle with yourself and take baby steps towards your goals. You are not alone. I often feel the same way.

Sorry to hear you're having a rough time, Boogie. You are not a waste. You're a good person with a brain disorder. How about giving yourself a break and take yourself out to dinner? Doesn't have to be anything fancy.

I am sorry you suffer so.

I can relate. I was taking inventory of my life the other day and felt my life has been a waste. I often see no reason to continue even another day.

I just try to continue taking it a step at a time.

You don't have to look exactly the way you want to look in order to go and enjoy the beach. Go! Have fun!

You will take the weight off when you are ready.

Take the obstacles out of the way. You don't truly have to achieve weight loss before enjoying the beach, for instance. There are no prerequisites to doing what you want to do. Let yourself do them, just as you are!

(I see some beautiful women holding hands with some overweight men, every time I am out and about! These guys are not staying home because they feel overweight, They are enjoying life, just as they are.)

We get down on ourselves as a part of the depression.
Act as if you feel fine with yourself and you feel okay with going out to do them... then follow through. Little "successes" add up and help us to feel more confidant, overall. Life isn't an all or nothing scene. Give yourself leeway to enjoy life. Go and do some of these things.

Fishin' Fool's invite is so generous! I hope you two meet up for some fun!


WC

Thank you all. Feeling better today. Feeling pissed I'm not where I'm at and motivated.