[BipolaRNurse]

Just curious how many people on here live with relatives or friends. I live with my son and his husband, and it seems like a lot of folks share homes with others. The reason I'm with my son is twofold: one, I'm on disability and can't afford my own place, and of course there are those times when I need help and I don't have my spouse anymore.

What say you?

I've shared an apartment with my brother on two occasions and it worked out well, although I haven't lived with family for quite a few years now.

My dad lives with my sister and her fiance and it is going well for them.

[wildflowerchild25]

I've lived with my mom since my husband died (2 years). I can't afford to live on my own on just one income. NJ is insanely expensive. A two bedroom apartment in this area is easily at least $1500 a month, unless I want to live in the unsafe city. In south jersey it's a little cheaper, $1100 a month, but I'd have to move an hour or two away from all my family. That's not worth it to me.

My mom and I are more like roommates. She usually doesn't bother me about what I'm doing in the house. I keep the downstairs clean, I buy my own food, I cook dinner for me and my son, I cook my son's food. we split costs of things like toilet paper, paper towels, trash bags. I take out the trash and wash all the dishes. I just defer to her when big things go wrong, such as when the main sewer line was clogged. I don't pay for any of that. We did however buy new couches together. I also pay for the cable/internet. She pays electric water sewer.

Thankfully she doesn't charge me rent because I pay toward running the house. When I lived with my mother in law she charged us rent, about $550 a month. But she also cooked dinner for everyone every night and we used electric, cable, etc.

I like living with my mom. I think I would be extraordinarily lonely on my own. Sometimes I feel like a loser for living with my mom at 30 but honestly it doesn't matter what everyone thinks. It's nice having someone to help out when I'm sick, physically or mentally. If I didn't live here I'd be SOL when it came to taking care of my son if I were sick. She also watches him in the morning for me so I can get to work early, saving me money on child care costs. Otherwise he would be in before care AND after care.

He likes living here too. She doesn't usually intrude on my parenting (although last night she told me to toughen up and make him eat healthier - this from the woman that fed me McDonald's 4x a week growing up!). I know she thinks things but she keeps them to herself.

I'd rather be here living comfortably and able to afford emergencies like car repair and medical bills than out on my own barely scraping by.

[Nammu]

I live with my mum. When I lived in Texas I had section 8 so could afford to have my own apartment but I moved to be closer to family and can't afford to live on my own now. We get along pretty well I pay the Internet and food we split other household stuff.

[lilypup]

I have a 29 YO daughter who has bp and a 23 YO who has depression. They are both living at home and it's working pretty well. They're just more comfortable at home and don't really want to pay official rent again. (We charge my daughter $300/ month...son is going to school so lives for free). Both of them lived away from home and they decided to come back. I anticipate they will move out at some point, but nothing would surprise me. I actually like them at home as we know they are seeing their pdocs and tdocs and taking their meds. They're highly functional with a little emotional support.

My middle son has no MI and does really well. He is at home too because he got a job close to our house. He was living 1 1/2 hours away. He pays the $300/month also. He is saving for and almost has the money for a house down payment. He is pretty comfortable at home, too, though, and can save money like crazy.

I do cook dinner for everyone. My daughter does all the dishes as she is working part time right now. We're lucky enough to have a house cleaner. I think otherwise we'd fight horribly over house cleaning.

[gina_re]

I bought this place in 2014. My mom stayed with me for a few months the following year so she could save money. It's just been me ever since. But honestly, I wouldn't mind her moving back in and taking care of me. I haven't been too well this year.

[HALLIEBETH87]

I live with my granny. I cannot afford to live alone.

[BeyondtheRainbow]

I live in a tiny house on my mom's property. I pay a small rent that hopefully will increase soon as some bills are paid off. We have supper at her house most nights. I provide dogsitting for her several days per week most weeks and don't charge her unless she's away for a week. In July she'll be away 2 weeks and I'll only get paid for one of them. I do housework as I can and she helps with the big stuff. It works. I was living in a town about 30 minutes from here in a house I owned but with disability it was too much to pay the mortgage and I needed too much help. It helps a lot to have her to help when I'm unwell and having help also helps me stay well.

[jacky8807]

I live with my mom and stepfather with my two children. I couldn't survive mentally or financially on my own at this point in my life.

[Slightlydelusional]

I live alone in a city where I know only one person who never hardly see. I really should be living with family as Im floundering by myself but its not really an option as we tried before and went really bad.

I wish I could go back to my hometown but all my family is gone from there and friends have families. It makes me sad I have nowhere to go, but also makes me not give up living independent.

used to live with my family.

but regular readers of my posts know that fell through

they are not even in the country anymore

[bioChE]

I live with my wife and four kids, all of whom I support financially. It's nice to have people around.

I live with my mom, dad, grandmother, and sister

Trying to pay off undergraduate loans, and fortunately grad school was free, so I don't have any loans for that

My ultimate goal is to get a place of my own, hopefully within the next year or two. We'll see. I'm not sure if I want to build my own house or buy an existing one. I really don't want to purchase my own condo in the city, as I'd much prefer a house.

[Wild Coyote]

My H and I share our home with my elderly mother. She is very active/very independent. She was very depressed living alone after my stepdad passed.
She's had a lot of medical issues; I enjoy going to her appts with her and enjoy having her at the dinner table with us each evening. We share living space, so we share time together most days.


WC

[scatterbrained04]

I've been out on my own with my 11yo son for about 6 years now. Didn't make enough money before that to live on my own unless I lived in a bad part of town. I have times I wish I was living with family though.

[Sunflower123]

My daughter and I live with my elderly mom. She is gone a lot with her fiancée (she is very active) so it works out well (not too much togetherness but still able to check up on each other).

[rwwff]

Originally Posted by bioChE

I live with my wife and four kids, all of whom I support financially. It's nice to have people around.

Similar setup, but I feel more than a little frightened being that sole support, and having this mess mucking about in my head. They do provide a lot of comfort and stability though...

[Unrigged64072835]

My daughter still lives here. She's working her way through college and saving up for moving out. Her boyfriend is here as well (taken out of a violent situation at his house) and he's doing the same. As long as they're still going to school I don't charge them rent. They help by cooking occasionally and keeping their area clean. She also helps with taking care of the cats. Though it's nice having them here, I'll be relieved when they move out. We can then fix up this house and sell to move to a smaller space.

[*Laurie*]

I wish my mom was still alive, because now - when my kids are grown and my husband and I don't live together - I would live with her.

[bioChE]

Originally Posted by rwwff

Similar setup, but I feel more than a little frightened being that sole support, and having this mess mucking about in my head. They do provide a lot of comfort and stability though...

I agree, being the sole provider comes with a lot of stress. I've done it for a long time though, so I'm pretty used to it.

[BipolaRNurse]

I used to be the provider for my family. Then I got sick and couldn't hold a job for squat. I lost my house, my lifestyle, and my career, not necessarily in that order. Thankfully it was just my husband and me at that point---all the kids were grown and on their own. I thought we were going to end up living in a cardboard box behind a strip mall. We almost did. Thank God our son rescued us.

I live with my husband and oldest son who's 17. My parents live with my grandparents and my oldest son who is 20. At some point my grandparents will not live there and the plan is for my husband and I to move in with my parents to assist them in their older age. I think families should do this as much as possible. People want to remain in their own homes as long as possible and this helps this happen. My grandpa will be 99 in sept. No indication he will pass on anytime soon really.