I wish.... opposite action?

I wish I could have an emotional support pet, since I have not found a pdoc or t who cares at all My extreme allergies prevent this.

I feel different, sometimes (like today) I feel undeserving of good.

I have had to give up a lot of things for something like ''stability''..

Today I feel sad and anxious (more than my ''usual''). Has anyone found the DBT concept of ''opposite action'' helpful?

A good friend in my forest is in therapy currently and has said the T has made several inappropriate comments I do not think this is ok My friend is not ''overly sensitive'' or ''paranoid''.. I do not understand why some professionals are like this. It's scary. Would you terminate with a therapist who has made inappropriate, invalidating comments, even though they might teach some skills? (or offer some rudimentary ''support'' until they tire of us?

What about fish? They can be pretty cool...

Thanks fern

I'm missing two of the people from here

(I deleted my rant about professionals irl grrr)

Grrrrrrr. I am feeling mad as hell And I do NOT OWN ''toxic shame''

I am not and never was ANY of those things the abusers, mostly ''family'' irl, projected onto me.

I guess this thread is ''too boring'', It's not boring to me though. I only just recently realised how my need to read people as a child, as a necessary defence mechanism, has hurt me so much as an ''adult'' (and even others too at times)

I guess nobody has found this helpful? I don't know much about it. Opposite action, This post was not intended as a ''whine'' (but what do my intentions matter, not much, the PUS always said what a ''terrible person'' I was. They were so WRONG grrrr

Yeah I've tried opposite action before, I've found it helpful I don't find this boring fuzzy

Thanks Blue Bird

What is the concept? I've never used it. I imagine maybe it includes assessing one's actions and then implementing the opposite to achieve some sort of balance?

If that is true... It conflicts with my philosophical beliefs a bit. I believe that for every action there is an equal and opposite reaction. We don't control where that balance comes from, it happens on more of a universal level.

I'm not sure the opposite is always the goal. A lot of times I need to first find neutral and then step into something else from there. Jumping straight to the other pole is often too much of a leap and feels disingenuous.

All of this is assuming I have the concept somewhat correct. Admittedly, I've never heard of it.

And I didn't respond because I found this helpful per say, but because you're my pal and the question interested me. Our west coast US friends may be just waking up. Give it a little time.

Here's a good summary of it

Using Opposite Action for Overwhelming Emotions — Mindsoother Therapy Center.

I'm not sure about it either. I think some of DBT maybe does feel a bit disingenuous, But I have not studied much of it at all, so I could easily be wrong. Thanks for your reply fern

Thanks Blue Bird

Blue Bird's article was helpful.

I stand by that comment. It may be able to fool my head and my emotions, but my heart always knows the truth. My heart is what screams when I am ill. Finding a way to make peace with it has been best for me.

I find with opposite action, the unhealthy side wants one thing and the healthy another, so I would be better to choose the healthy. Both are still actions that come from my desire.