You know you're borderline when...

you are constantly suicidal and all you talk about with T in sessions is reasons NOT to commit SU.......and T says your reasoning for SU is 'crap'......

I so agree with Laura, this thread is awesome. It not only makes me laugh but comforts me to know that I'm not alone. Thanks guys.

I agree. This is an AWESOME thread.

You know you're borderline when you look at your resume and realize that you've had 50 jobs within the last three years...

When you decide you don't have to worry about being borderline because soon you can become normal with just a few small surgical implements.

http://www.kevinwarwick.com/ICyborg.htm

When you have not been invited (many times) when your sister and several mutual friends hang out or go somewhere and you decide nobody cares and you should just go find a cave to hide in so you don't have to hurt when you get left out again and again

it seems like nobody ever calls or texts you, so what's the point of having your phone around if its just going to "mock" you. So you leave your phone somewhere (I'm great at putting stuff down and forgetting where I put it), when you do "find" it the next morning or much later you've got a few missed texts asking what your up to. Not that this happens frequently, but dang. Then you feel like a total idiot.

Well, I think that you are overthinking it and not consciously thinking through it.

I am not an expert but I have helped different people learn how to work through their conscious protection of their perceived limitations. And this is where I truely feel that people get hung up on their different labels.

I am a very strong believer in the ability of the brain to learn how to compensate for a type of disability. Because that is what a disorder really is, a type of disability. But I don't believe that it means that one has to give into the limitations of a presented disability. "I feel like I am a fake when I feel normal" what is that saying?
What that is really saying is that everytime I get to the point where I feel normal I shut down and give into my disability and consciously decide to re-enforce that said disability.

Consider this, a brain is damaged in a car accident or by a stroke or even an operation. What appears is a new disability or damaged ability. A therapy program begins and the person who has damage is then trained to talk again or even walk again and therapists can only be amazed at some of the accomplishments damaged brains can make. Therefore when asked about recovery the answer is often presented, we just don't know for sure.

We have to take into great consideration at the time span involved in a person regaining either mobility or voice command or other abilities that were damaged. Often the time is very lengthy and the person can go for a long time period without outwardly showing extreme progress. So, the prognosis remains a question. Then almost miraculously a person suddenly can speak or regain the use of a toe or even a sense of balance.

So, what does this mean? Now, I have actually worked with a dog that was presented to me after experiencing a series of damaging seisures resulting in very little capability to move at all. The only thing she could do is acknowlege me and wag her tail, the rest of her body was inaccessable to her brain. And, she knew it and was very troubled by it. I was told that nothing else could be found wrong with her physically, no disease present.

I decided to bring her home and see if I could present a therapy that may restore her abilities in motion. I have to say that it took a long time and I only saw very small signs of any recovered abilities. Everyone around me suggested that I was wasting my time and to give up. But I didn't listen, I proceeded with patience for several months only seeing very small gains. But, then one day she heard my husband come in (he was her prefered human) and she sat right up and had all her faculties. But, that only lasted for a few moments and then she colapsed back into a stooper like condition. She often struggled in regaining her mobilities and wined and paddled her legs. I could see she was struggling and in stress. So I made it a point to talk her through it and proceed with more physical therapy. The first thing that she regained was the ability to eat on her own and even chew a hickory bone that I used to help promote her senses to encourage that initial gain in chewing. I eventually got her to the point where I increased the time of actual mobility of being able to sit up for small gaining incriments of time. It got to the point where she could eat and have enough control to go outside and have enough time to urinate and defficate before once again falling into a stooper of immobility.

Though it took a lot of patience and determination on my part, as well as hers, I SLOWLY increased her moments of mobility. I had gotten her to the point where I could take her for a walk and then took her back to the neuologist who thought her to be forever trapped in immobility, but he did say "No one ever tried to see if it could be resolved". When the neuologist witnessed her regained mobility along with all the staff at the emergency clinic, they could not believe my dog had regained so much mobility. I just want to add that this neuologist is the top neurologist for Canada and the USA.

My point in telling you this story is to help you realize the significance of the capacity of the brain to slowly develope new pathways around a damage or inability to function. But the important thing to recognize is that it is a very slow process as the brain takes time to form a new connection around a damaged connection.

It is my strong belief that if someone recognizes an inability they can work towards a conscious resolve or solution. But, just like my dog that could only maintain certain lengths of time of conscious mobility, so could that happen in the brain of a human.
So, in conclusion, if one has moments of "Feeling normal and stable" only to give into the perception that "Then all of a sudden it comes back" what does that really mean? I believe that if the attitude were to CONSCIOUSLY change to thinking,
"WOW THAT TIME OF FEELING NORMAL WAS LONGER THAN BEFORE, MUST MEAN I AM GAINING GROUND" would be a stronger way to encouraging growth and ability.

If one were to consider that THERAPY is about making a conscious decision to actually create A NEW ABILITY, than it is very possible that ONE CAN TRUELY CREATE A NEW STRONGER ABILITY. But it is a conscious effort and determination that will truely result in actual change and new ability. If the focus was not put on the power of the inability as it comes back but the power of the new ability as it slowly gains, there could be a true gain.

Think about it, Perhaps Dragonrider the quote should say "The Greatest Success is to Live life REALIZING THAT BY MAKING A PERSONAL CONSCIOUS EFFORT TO GAIN IN PERSONAL ABILITIES ONE CAN LEARN WAYS TO LIVING A BETTER LIFE.

Open Eyes

You pay close to attention to celebs who are "borderlineish."

-Winona Ryder: http://www.imdb.com/name/nm0000213/
-Britney Spears: http://www.celebrityfury.com/data/me...ney_spears.jpg

(Every single chick on those reality shows.)

Or you won't own a firearm yourself because you're afraid of what you will do with it.

You think you can actually change our name online and hang out at the same places and no one will recognize your insane behavior.

You create a family tree and all you want to do is take a chainsaw to it.

Everyone you connect to seems to have BPD traits.

When your emotions spin wildly while your head tries to catch up.

You want to balance yourself but you can't. What you want and what you can do are two different things.

My ex-t being the biggest one!

OMG!!!
after reading this thread and lmao i'm sure i have BPD...
my pdoc didn't think I had it but i'm now positive I do..
you guys are so funny

LOL!

(99% of mental health providers have one or more DSM-IV disorders.)

My psychiatrist didn't either. I was pretty upfront about my behaviors:
-history of suicide attempt
-emotional turmoil
-depression
-inappropriate seductive behavior

She said, "You think you have BPD? I don't see it."

I said, "hmmm...OK, how about just writing me out that prescription."

Someone tells you they are Bipolar and are having difficulty with the mood swings and you say:

"Oh please! I just had about 16 different mood swings in the last 15 minutes. Stop complaining."

You "know" you're borderline when...

...you get your diagnosis from Dr. Wikipedia

Which is why they have an interest in psychology in the first place.

You see the cover of the book
"I Hate You-Don't Leave Me" (by Jerold Kriesman)

and you know instantly that's you

abandonment was first piece of puzzel then you complete it.

You know you're borderline when you find out your wedding dress has been discontinued by the manufacturer, so you decide they somehow must have seen your wedding picture and decided you looked horrible.

when you're the last post on a thread and nobody else posts again because (you think) they all hate you

Omg I'm a HUGE threadkiller!

Not as bad as I am I bet!