[summeryoga]

The fact that I finally admitted those five words is a victory: I HAVE BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER. I am owning it (finally). Radical acceptance - yes!

The fact that I am trying to learn and understand how to put to use some of the DBT skills is a victory.

The fact that I am not self harming, that I am not acting out on urges (since August) is a huge victory!



What's your victory, however small? (thanks to billi for the idea for this thread ...)

[nicoleb2]

I have not cut this week, and have not needed to contact my t every day to get by.

..I have been understanding better how much I seem to over-react to others....but to me it's pretty normal behaviour.

....and that I am ok with it...just enough to get by....which is good.

[palemoss]

i have kept my calm with my co-worker, even though he made me reallllly angry this week. but i kept cool.

Originally Posted by palemoss

i have kept my calm with my co-worker, even though he made me reallllly angry this week. but i kept cool.

how did the co-worker make you angry?

...I have had probly in actual fact over fifty jobs...all sorts of things to get me by.
some of the people I worked with were like emotional 'magnets' for me...
often they would attract to me...and I never changed much (bpd does his job and thats all)

but when they reverse themselves with problems...I would believe it was always my fault...so I would try even harder!

I was permanently pissed off with most of the people working around me....simply because they seemed to effortlessly share their ******** moods with me!

this would make or break me....

some people are just stupid ...but not us

[B1_NRecovery]

I love this idea! Small victories in BPD are actually HUGE! I realized that when I first started to actually tell my therapist, "I really want to yell at you right now. I'm feeling abandoned and I want more from you. It is hard to not run out the door." Just saying that instead of actually DOING it was small, but huge!

This week I called my best friend and cried on the phone about missing my therapist instead of turning the pain inward to rage against myself. Yay!!

[frowningdown]

I really like the idea of the thread too. It is difficult to think of my successes. The fact that it takes so long to come up with one indicates that I really need to this! Thank you for starting this thread.
My success yesterday would be that I used mindfulness and distraction get through some anxiety without using my meds for several hours. My anxiety meds are prescribed on an "as needed" basis and my pdoc recommends I take them ONLY when absolutely necessary. As a result of his recommendation, my goal has been to find other ways to effectively deal with the anxiety, even if just for a short time. The longer I can postpone taking the pills, the better. So, yesterday's victory was good.

[summeryoga]

Originally Posted by B1_NRecovery

This week I called my best friend and cried on the phone about missing my therapist instead of turning the pain inward to rage against myself. Yay!!

WOOHOO!! That is awesome

[B1_NRecovery]

Originally Posted by frowningdown

I really like the idea of the thread too. It is difficult to think of my successes. The fact that it takes so long to come up with one indicates that I really need to this! Thank you for starting this thread.
My success yesterday would be that I used mindfulness and distraction get through some anxiety without using my meds for several hours. My anxiety meds are prescribed on an "as needed" basis and my pdoc recommends I take them ONLY when absolutely necessary. As a result of his recommendation, my goal has been to find other ways to effectively deal with the anxiety, even if just for a short time. The longer I can postpone taking the pills, the better. So, yesterday's victory was good.

Way to go! So much of recovery from BPD is just finding other coping strategies. We've used pills, alcohol, sex, relationships, or my number 1 go-to: self-hatred. Instead of using those to medicate our anxiety or pain, we can use mindfulness and distraction like you did. Awesome!!

[summeryoga]

Originally Posted by frowningdown

Thank you for starting this thread.
My success yesterday would be that I used mindfulness and distraction get through some anxiety without using my meds for several hours. My anxiety meds are prescribed on an "as needed" basis and my pdoc recommends I take them ONLY when absolutely necessary. As a result of his recommendation, my goal has been to find other ways to effectively deal with the anxiety, even if just for a short time. The longer I can postpone taking the pills, the better. So, yesterday's victory was good.

Oh my gosh, how did I miss your post? I'm so sorry! And, you're welcome. That is a remarkable success, not a small victory!

Hmmm, I challenge you to notice one victory, no matter how small, every day-

[Lexi232]

I cried the hardest I can ever remember crying today... and it actually left me feeling a bit better than I have been..

I still kept the thoughts and feelings of certain problematic problems that have started back again to "not an option" and made it through a few days like such..

[Trippin2.0]

I didn't cut in 2011, and I did N0T beg anybody to change their mind after abandoning me...

[ECHOES]

With the help of my therapy/therapist, my paranoia is less - or notice it sooner, and noticing it means I can challenge it sooner.

I have learned to slow down my thoughts, to give myself room around my thoughts, to be curious about my thoughts. This makes me much less reactionary.

[Lexi232]

I told - well.. more like asked a question with my T last time in Session that HINTED distinctly at a problem i'm having about staying grounded and not being able to keep myself for dissociating now. WHICH IS A BIG STEP EVEN THO IT'S SMALL..

And I survived through another day...

[summeryoga]

Originally Posted by Lexi232

And I survived through another day...

Yes, yes, and THAT is the most important victory of all ...

[summeryoga]

I called my Therapist and have committed to going at least once a week, and I'm starting DBT up again! Yay, me!

Seeing as i recently nearly committed suicide im not sure if i have any small victories id like to report other than...i finally came out as bisexual.

So thats something i guess.

Really glad your doing well summeryoga. Loves ya honey

[RaggedyAnn67]

For those of you who read my thread in "you know your borderline when...", you may remember that I bought an espresso machine and got fed up with it the first day and went back to my regular coffee pot. Well, the next couple of days I struggled with the steamer causing milk to splatter all over me, the counter, the appliances, etc.. Then, I couldn't even get the milk hot using it. Then, I couldn't get the coffee to come out strong enouogh.
So, I am proud to say that after a week of struggling, I finally made a perfect Hazelnut Latte this morning...without tossing the machine through the window!! YEAH! A major accomplishment for me...I was able to follow through with something.

[shipping]

Originally Posted by B1_NRecovery

I love this idea! Small victories in BPD are actually HUGE! I realized that when I first started to actually tell my therapist, "I really want to yell at you right now. I'm feeling abandoned and I want more from you. It is hard to not run out the door." Just saying that instead of actually DOING it was small, but huge!

This week I called my best friend and cried on the phone about missing my therapist instead of turning the pain inward to rage against myself. Yay!!

WoW. That's impressive!

[MDDBPDPTSD]

Today I left my house without any anti-anxiety meds at all before hand. I had them with me, in case, but I made it through dinner with the family at a restaurant without taking the meds! Toward the end of dinner, I was getting pretty anxious and feeling very self-conscious. I started wishing I had not come out at all because the strangers were all around me and I felt trapped. Even so, I made it out and through dinner.

[Forgive77]

I'm still working at mine....I pissed my self off this morning replying to a post that drudged up memories...LOL...I'm trying to clear my head. I have this snarly rage in my chest, but I came on here and laughed. How do you laugh and find something funny mid rage???!!! LOL My small victory will be dumping the rage soon. It's slowly going away....ah..there.....I just can't talk about narcissistic people anymore today.

Raggady Anne.....THAT POST WAS FREAKING FUNNY!! You made me laugh!! TY!

[summeryoga]

Today, I am med-free, and I AM managing!!
And today, my beloved friend and I revisited what a healthy friendship would/should/can be. For a person with Histrionic, this is HUGE!!!

[ChaoticSymphony]

Last night I didn't tell my friend to take the money and shove it up her a*& because she didn't have it for me yet again. I learned just not to lend money to her and then we won't be in these situations.

[ChaoticSymphony]

Oh and I also decided to go back to the pdoc and ask him to test me for bipolar.