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My depression seems to be getting stronger than my BPD lately. I find myself wanting to sleep constantly - just stay asleep and not face anything or anyone. I'm isolating myself - cancelling plans left and right, missing work, etc. Even when I force myself to keep plans with my friends, I feel strange - like I'm spending the whole time I'm with them detaching - not exactly saying goodbye but that's as close as I can come to describing it. I've been thinking about what I would put in my note if I were to write one, how I would try to make sure everyone understood that it is not their fault and that nothing they could have done would have changed things. To be clear, I have no active plan to do anything. Quite frankly it seems like it would take too much energy - it's just easier for me to go back to sleep.
I have a friend who is a t and he thinks I need to go on meds immediately to alleviate some of the depression issues. He's very pushy about this and is having a hard time taking no for answer. I brought it up with my t and he said meds are not altogether a bad idea, although he was quick to point out that they will not change the fact that I have to choose to work through this. What I'm struggling to tell my t is that I am afraid to have any meds of any kind in the house. Both times I was involuntarily hospitalized, I ODed. I didn't have an active plan either of those times either - I just wanted to sleep and kept taking pills until I did. There's something irresistibly appealing to me about forcing myself to sleep by any means necessary because I'm not hurting so much when I'm unconscious to the world. Not sure what to do here. Meds could actually help pull me out of the downward spiral I've been in, could alleviate the worst of the depression symptoms and set me on a healthier path where I feel like I have more choices. But I do not trust myself with meds in the house and going to the hospital is not an option - I would lose my job and that would probably send me right back down the spiral. ![]()
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I identify with so much of this. My (former) T and my pdoc have both been kind of asking if I need to go back to the hospital because of how I feel about wanting to live and I'm adamant about not wanting to go inpatient for the exact same reason as you. That, and even if I didn't lose my job I would lose the pay, and be so behind in bills it would send me into a spiral. I've also OD'd twice in the past. Anyway, I'm not trying to hijack your thread, I'm just saying I get it. It's up to you if you want to try meds, of course, but it sounds like something has to give. I understand not wanting to have meds around, but I think if you're honest with your pdoc they will help you navigate this, if they're any good. They are concerned with your safety as well. My pdoc doesn't exactly trust me with meds, either (can you blame her?) and won't prescribe me more than 30 days worth of anything. And there is a certain class of meds she won't give me at all anymore. Well, she will if I really need it, but she'll give me like, maybe 5-10 pills at a time. Take care, and keep us posted. ![]() |
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Anna, this is a tough situation to navigate. I am not a doctor, and I don't even know if it is possible, but I wonder if a pdoc would be able to set something up with a local pharmacy to give you a daily supply out of a monthly script. Like I said, I dunno if this would even be possible, but I do know that you can get a smaller amount, like Misskeena said about 5 - 10 pills at a time. In any event, I hope that you can find the peace needed to help you get through this.
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![]() I hope this helps, I wish you much luck in finding relief and peace *many hugs* ~S4 |
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Thank you for this - it really means a great deal!
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I don't think that discussing a fear of ODing regarding you starting meds would wind up in a forced trip to the hospital. In my experience (and this is coming from someone who has been inpatient 4 times) a trip to the hospital comes from suicidal ideation with a plan, and/or that you will not or cannot keep yourself safe. That and/or you've already acted on a plan. I mean, I don't know what the involuntary process is in your state, but that's how it goes down here. I mean, you should be able to feel like you can discuss your fears with your T without having to worry that they're going to lock you up. They will probably ask you if you feel like you need to go to the hospital and, if you say no, they will ask you what plan you will have in place to keep yourself safe.
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I agree with MK, you should be able to at least discuss these things. Maybe you could preface it with your fear about how much you are able to say without T reporting you. Last session with my T I said I was going to k*** myself at least 3 times, and I thought I'd better outright ask him if he wanted to or would report me. I got out of that session feeling relieved of that fear.
It's a rock and a hard place, isn't it? I firmly believe meds can help -- they have provided a boost for me in the past that I needed in order to get past just surviving and on to living. But I have also OD'd and continue to be tempted to do so. |
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coming from a person who was only on muscle relaxants to taking 4-6 pills daily trying to cope with depression its reallly beeen tough I tell you my depression really bad these last 7 days I only think that I wanted to sleep I can only do one thing a day before I am absolutely exhausted. I solve all my problems by going to bed, wake up and they still aren't solved. I am not sure if I am spiralling downwards but I am definately really have no motivation to do anything about it but still take my pills. I understand what you are going through and my advice is weigh your options before getting into anything big
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I used to have major problems with abusing my meds but would run out half way through the month. I had to keep going to have my script refilled but in the end he point blank said no! I couldn't believe it but he meant it (dangerous imo) After 3 days I started feeling real bad so went back and pleaded and he gave me a refill but told me never to do it again because next time he wouldn't give me extra! I have never done it since! Do you have anyone that can hold your meds for you and give them when you need them? Or maybe only have a couple of days worth of meds at a time? Whatever you decide I hope you start feeling better soon ![]()
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I agree with you that I should be able to be honest with him and discuss my fears since he should be able to help me with them. I didn't think about coming up with a plan to keep myself safe though...maybe if I have that with me if I talk to him, it might keep him from feeling like he has to have me locked up.
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Maybe if I get the courage to talk to my T about this I can ask him to hold the meds for me and only give me a week's worth when I come in for session. This would serve a dual purpose as it would prevent me from skipping sessions because I feel like I lack the energy to get out of bed. I don't know that he would want that responsibility though. Thank you - this really does mean a lot to me...
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I think that is a fab idea if he doesn't mind doing it for you ![]()
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One option is that your pdoc can write the prescription for only one week at a time. A bit more expensive and kind of a pain to have to go to the pharmacy each week, but you wouldn't have a lethal dose on hand that way.
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![]() I don't think that your T can hold your meds for you. Mine did once, but it was a special circumstance involving the specific med I OD'd on. I can't remember what the issue was, but it was like, a one-time thing because I was having a meltdown and needed that med but they didn't trust me with it...something like that. It was 4 years ago. Anyway. I don't believe they will usually do that because of liability. Your pdoc should write for your pharmacy to dispense a certain number of pills at a time. I don't believe it is really all that much more expensive since it's not a full prescription. Most copays cover a full thirty days' worth. If they were writing for, say, ten pills, I don't think it would be the same copay, but I don't know. That's how my insurance works, at least. |
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There are some places in my area that will "hold" people's meds for them, and people come by to take their dose for the day. It can be kind of a hassle but it can be helpful. Could that possibley be an option for you?
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I can look into it...I think that if I have to take meds, this would be my safest option.
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