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I have a question about "acting out", angry oubursts, being reactive, etc. In my case this only happens with people that are very close to me or to whom I feel very attached (basically the same thing). Especially family, partner (when there is any), romantic interest, therapist.
With other people, even with friends I'm very self controlling. I'm suppressing a lot. But with the above mentioned close ones I can get into angry or hurt child mode, get reactive, they see my mood changes and my intense emotions. What is your experience related to this? |
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I think that's good because it means you trust them…
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That is my way as well.
I tend to hold my emotions inside 95% of the time. That 5% is spent on my boyfriend, when I just can't hold it inside anymore. Otherwise, I would hold my fears and hurts (all of those painful emotions) inside 100% of the time. *sigh*
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I definitely get very reactive when close to a person.
When I'm not close to a person, I'm quite calm and collected. I don't express my anger much (if at all, really), or negativity. Those who ARE close to me know that I can become the very opposite of calm. I get angry and irritable over nothing. I say very impulsive things that I wouldn't dare say to someone I'm not close to. I'm doing my best to work on it. It greatly fuels my self-hatred. The last thing I want to do is get angry/have outbursts around or at those I love, but it seems that being close to a person simultaneously brings out the best and worst of me. |
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I've been diagnosed with Borderline traits, and I'm not sure if it's correct.
I am very pleasant, calm, and controlled with people I am not very close to. They really don't bother me. I have no expectations for them...see? The closest ones to me, who are supposed to love me, really press my buttons when they don't act like I expect someone who loves me to act. I am not reacting over nothing, it's over a lot. They are really doing the bad behavior. But my reaction to it is off the charts. ![]()
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I'm visiting my parents right now (after many months) and I've realised/ remembered that I cannot be emotional with them. I autmatically become this poker face, calm/ collected person and cannot let anything get out. It's a torture and no idea why it's like this...and I've really been trying to understand it..
Usually after a few days here at one point an angry/ emotional outbust is expected though...as usual. But only with my mother, with my father I guess I'm programmed to avoid this since adolescence... |
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I think it's maybe about how we were programmed when very young
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OT: It's normal that people who are closer to us, will see our faults more than other people who aren't close. It's a good thing they're being there for us, but at the same time they can't be with us forever. We have to take charge of our actions baby steps at a time. Maybe write down short journal entry daily, to observe patterns?
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