[SoupDragon]

Originally Posted by Ygrec23

Hey, Soup!

I knew I'd run into the problem of people thinking I was advocating "Campbell's Soup" type advertising, something everyone looks down on and no one wants to be associated with. Of course, I didn't mean in any way to drag down the moral value of the reasons and motivations PC members have to seek the input of others. But, unfortunately, getting people's attention and making them desirous of participating relies for the most part on exploiting age-old human wishes and needs that no one has ever done as well as those who are paid to write advertising copy. (And no, just for the record, that's something I've never been involved with.)

You say that there are times when "it is just a case of wanting to know I am not alone on this planet." And that at such times you can't "think objectively." I'd respond, my friend, that it's ESPECIALLY at such times, times "when you want to know you're not alone on this planet," that you need to invest your best effort into a thread title.

Do I realize what I'm saying? Yes. To a great degree. When I too (or anyone, for that matter) wants/desires/desperately needs "affirmation," I (or anyone else) don't want to put on an act, to "tap dance" for insincere reactions. I want people, friends to react to who I really am (are you listening, Mom?), not to some desperately hokey "act" that I put on. Which would certainly nix a Madison Avenue approach.

And yet there's a trade-off here that has to be acknowledged. Unless I get across my message, fewer people will come to my party. But if I'm just "me," without the neon lights of creative phrasing, no one may come. I guess if one is willing to risk that, one can publish the most opaque threads and just challenge people to come. It's kind of a dare. I'll write my thread title in Hungarian and we'll see if people react. If they do, they really care for me. If not, then at least I know the truth.

I wonder. I really do. I wonder if people's participation and response despite impenetrable phraseology means "they care." I've thought about this and I can't answer it right now. I just don't know. I well understand the resistance to "false self" wording, the desire to be affirmed as to who one "really" is. I just don't know if creative titling detracts from such affirmation or just indicates an acceptance of human nature. Only one's mother will/would have/should have loved and affirmed you in that manner. Is it really fair to expect that kind of affirmation from others? Take care.

Yes I do get your point, reading the titles of threads is what I guess most of us do before opening them to read more. I also note that you acknowledge that for some people who are having a particular struggle, it may be difficult for them to think "creatively" about a thread title - I guess in the same way someone with a broken arm turning up at ER would not think how best to convey their pain / injury but may just blurt out the fact that it damn well hurts.

On the days that I feel more robust, I actually search the threads, not by title but by number of responses, as I assume that everyone that makes any effort to post on here has a need for contact as I know I do.

I value the more challenging posts on here too and I have received some great insights from you, but I think there are times when I may find such tough challenges more difficult - for example on a low day reading your thread, I may go into a whole negative thing of how awful my threads are, that I am not wanted / liked etc.. of course on good days I can rationalise this and be interested in your views.

Many thanks - Soup

Perhaps there is a rather simple solution. If the title does not get you saying, "Oh boy! Oh boy! Oh boy, Oh boy, Oh boy!!", do not click on it.

[Open Eyes]

"Most members of PC are not only willing, but anxious, to help all those who present themselves here as desperately in pain and sorely in need of intelligent, sympathetic advice. At the same time, some members of PC appear to want to use their desire to be of service not only to bolster their own feelings about themselves but to declare themselves superior to those not as seriously devoted (they think) as themselves to the welfare of others.

I suppose that having a certain percentage of such self-satisfied, puffed-up members is expectable in any human activity with philanthropic aims. Which doesn't mean to say that their self-attributed airs and graces need be taken seriously by their less inflated co-members who, while doing exactly the same things, don't insistently demand recognition of the absolute purity of their motives or the superiority of their devotion." ~quote Ygre23

Ugh, you mean to say there are politicians here too? LOL

Wow, that is pretty judgemental of you. Yes, I suppose there are some narcissits around and yes, I have seen some highly opinionated posts. But I have to say some of what these posts say have some good advice and a different way to view things.
I have even seen some posts made by those that claim to be psychopaths and I found their views informative as well. And I have even asked questions and received amazingly candid and honest answers. And to be honest I want to meet them all, I am pretty sure I have outside PC so I might as well be triggered and tested here.
And I can assure you I have. And to be honest, for the short time I have been here and the distance I have come so far I can thank both the positive as well as the negetive. And unfortunately no one here can see how things effect me and how sometimes I can get triggered and suffer through a whole day of unbelievable anxiety and stress. But, in order for me to understand the things that truely bother or even frighten me, I have to actually address it. And I would rather find that out in the comfort of my own home than outside PC where I am taken by surprise and had no practice on how to deal with that type of scenario.

Anyone and everyone is bound to have a mixed review in respect to their input. But there is also a way to click on that name and possibly see a disorder of somekind that my lay out the reason for that person's statements as well as those that react to those statements. And in that, there is much to learn and ponder. Too bad it isn't like that outside PC.
But this experience "Can" lend to a better understanding of those that we encounter outside PC.

I "HAVE" seen some members start threads that are very informative and extremely helpful in many different situations (and they have had catchy titles). And I am very thankful for those threads and they have been a good source of debate as well as sometimes a place where opinions may clash a little. But it is interesting even then to see the different views.

Overall from what I have seen, though members make mistakes and may even be very verbal or not, the site is very friendly, supportive, and helpful to many.

It is interesting to consider a catchy title, but most people that come here are not writers, they bravely take steps to ask a question and hope to be enlightened.

Open Eyes

[Open Eyes]

Originally Posted by TheByzantine

Perhaps there is a rather simple solution. If the title does not get you saying, "Oh boy! Oh boy! Oh boy, Oh boy, Oh boy!!", do not click on it.

LOL.....LOL......LOL......LOL..........................LOL....................................

Open Eyes

[Open Eyes]

I know I have joked here. And this morning I posted to a thread and it suddenly dawned on me what motivates me to click on a thread. And to be honest, up until this suggestion I had not really thought about how to present a thread and maybe using a catchy title to draw in comments. And Ygre23, it was interesting to see how your mere suggestion was contemplated and there were a lot of different reactions to that suggestion, including my own.

And I didn't think it was a paticularly offensive suggestion that you presented.

But your thread took a turn and "YOU" were the one that turned it. And I did cite that turn. And I sited that because I felt your comment was uncalled for and a simple suggestion became a statment of judgement about how people respond to threads and how they post.

And because it is your thread and you did add that to "YOUR" thread I want to really comment on it, give you my opinion of your statment. And after thinking about it more this morning, I realized a few things.

Personally, when I came to PC I was in such a personal emotional battle that the only thing I wanted was a place to find support. I was very lonely, very scared and very confused. And, in no way did any kind of catchy thread title enter my mind in any way, I was not in any condition to think about that. And I have to say that a lot of people that are new here are often desperate, lonely, frightened and very lost. And in almost every attempt at asking for help and guidance there is some form of an appology. And in my first days here I was really moved and I saw a lot of sadness and cries for help. And I didn't really know what to think, and yet I was one of those cries.

And one of the things that I wanted to see was why I was so misunderstood and why was I in the place or state of mind I was in. And the only thing I could think of was to just put myself out there and see what kind of response I got. That was really my personal way using PC. So I made attempts to just be me as much as I could, given my intense condition of battling and trying to understand the severe case of PTSD that I had. And I was struggling to even understand PTSD and what it was, what it meant, why do I have it. And little by little I slowly learned.

But what did I look for in a thread title? It didn't really hit me until this morning.
I was looking for "CORE" questions. Because, what I was dealing with and saw other people struggling with as well, were questions and concerns revolving around "PERSONAL CORE ISSUES AND STRUGGLES". And all this time I was looking for these titles that touched on my own "PERSONAL CORE STRUGGLES" but I wasn't "CONSCIOUSLY" "AWARE OF THAT".

And, whenever I post, in case you haven't noticed, I do have a lot to say, BUT, that is because of my "PERSONAL CORE HISTORY". And for every post that I make in reply to another's question, "PART OF THEIR QUESTION IS A QUESTION THAT I HAVE TOO IN SOME WAY". And, my personal history, my personal "CORE" has had a lot to do with addressing the "ISSUES OF OTHERS" on many different levels, including a level where I had to learn a lot "JUST TO SURVIVE".

I do not know you Ygre23 on a personal level. But I have come to know others on a personal level here and I have also taken the time to pay attention to not only "THEIR CORE ISSUES", but, "THE MANY DIFFERNENT LITTLE THINGS THEY SAY THAT TELL ME THEIR PERSONAL STRUGGLE". And because of my own "LIFE STRUGGLES" I can often feel where that person is, and understand where that person is. And I can also see how others are often "MISUNDERSTOOD" because of the way they struggle. And one thing I DO know is that I TOO have been misunderstood many times in my life. Other people have often "ASSUMED I WAS SOMETHING THAT I WAS NOT".

And to be honest? When you wrote that criticism about some people thinking they are superior in their posts, I did wonder if you were talking about me. And I did not wonder that because I feel superior in any way, I wondered that because I have been accused of that in my past and I do know that it was not "MY ISSUE" BUT "SOMEONE ELSES ISSUE" that presented that opinion. And I had to learn that in very "UNPLEASANT WAYS".

I do not wish to stand in judgement of you Ygre23, and I do not know you nor have I been following your "PERSONAL JOURNEY" here at PC. But the statement you made in your thread was pretty "HARSH". And, I think you really have to consider "WHERE YOU ARE WHILE MAKING THIS STATEMENT".

Do you really follow the little statements that are made here and there that represent significant clues about the members here? Well, you may not know how to do that, it may be something you need to think about, something you overlook and are not really consciously aware of it. I have had to do just that for as long as I can remember, not in a very nice way, so maybe I am more astute than you are. But, when anyone comes forward and states a condition, disorder, issue, personal struggle, I have to consider and "RESPECT" the admissions of what that person is becoming aware of that is their own "PERSONAL FAULTS or BAD HABITS or ANYTHING THEY KNOW THEY ARE DOING WRONG SOMEHOW". Because, to me, that is a "BIG DEAL" and it tells me that someone is "TRYING TO FIGURE OUT HOW TO OVERCOME THEIR OWN FAULTS OR MISPERCEPTIONS OR LACK OF ABILITY ON ANY SOCIAL LEVEL".

And I "HAVE" and "WILL CONTINUE TO STATE THAT I TOO AM A PERSON IN REPAIR AND I ALREADY KNOW I AM STRUGGLING TOO AND THAT I AM NOT PERFECT IN ANY WAY OR WISH TO CONSIDER THAT I AM ABOVE ANY OTHER PERSON WHO ALSO IS STRUGGLING". I will make efforts to defend my personal core, but I do consider as much as possible the core issues of the other member here at PC. And if I am somehow presented with a statement that I have offended another person in some way, I do try to find out what I said or did that caused that to happen. And I do try to make an effort to come to an understanding with that other person. Does it always come out well? No, but I at least try to make that effort for both me and that other person. And the only other thing I will do is defend someone who is trying to address their issue and somehow they are picked on, because I don't like that, everyone deserves to "TRY".

So, perhaps you can reread your statement that I did point out earlier and really think about what that statement means in a place where it is well known that everyone here is addressing "PERSONAL CORE ISSUES".

Again, I do not know you, nor am I standing in judgement of you as a person Ygre23, and I am sure that you struggle with your own personal issues as well, but I am questioning your statement and it's harshness.

Open Eyes

[Omers]

Well, we see a bit of controversy will get the replies going!

I agree though. I look through the new posts. There are often forums I don't venture into because I feel I would be sticking my nose where it doesn't belong. We do however discourage cross posting and I have read very few posts that fit only into one forum. Sometimes a title can tell me that this need could also be in a place where I have more to offer and so I try.

No, PC is not a popularity contest or a marketing class... BUT it is helpful for people to at least be aware of how titles are received here. IMO

[Open Eyes]

You are always offering your help Omers, your a good poster and always very supportive, I like reading your posts and thinking about what you have to say.

And I guess controversay will always take place and can even be a draw. And I don't always think it is bad because there is always an opportunity to learn in every interaction.

Open Eyes

[unaluna]

You can't judge a book by its cover.

[Ygrec23]

I apologize to all of you folks. In starting this thread I didn't approach it correctly. I didn't approach it correctly in the sense that what I said in the first post didn't really correspond to what I was thinking very well. I overemphasized what is in reality a very minor point, though I still think that very minor point would have value to several PC members. And the words I used were just inappropriate for the PC community. So because of my choice of words and my overemphasis, my post was read to say things I really didn't intend to say.

What I should have said was simply: "Some thread titles don't give a clue to what the OP is saying in their post. OP's may want to write more informative thread titles to make it easier for people to find posts to which they'd like to respond." And that's it. That's all I really wanted to say.

Take care!

[Ygrec23]

Originally Posted by pegasus

Sounds like a lecture to me. How do you know that some or most PC members feel this or that way. These feelings you have of certain members who you think are 'self-satisfied' or 'puffed up' or declare themselves more 'superior' than others? I have to say I have read an awful lot threads over the years here and it really didn't matter what the thread title was. I wonder why this matters to you so much. Let's not lecture people here, any thread title will do, even a '...' thread title is better than keeping all those feelings inside. PS. You will note that I'm not underlining any of my views in red. Take care.

You're right, Pegasus, it does sound like a lecture and it shouldn't. As far as the way some or most members feel, my knowledge is the same as yours, derived solely from reading thread titles and posts here on PC, as well as some PM's. As for people privileging certain specific kinds of knowledge (which they either assert or imply that they have), I see that (and perhaps many others wouldn't) in only a certain minority of posts, and it does seem out of place. If you don't see it, it's nothing to worry about.

And you're right, thread titles aren't a terribly important aspect of what goes on here on PC. They're quite a minor matter. I overemphasized their importance in my postings here and am sorry I did so. I was shouting when conversational tones would have been the only appropriate manner in which to refer to this issue. I do think that people should spend an extra ten seconds on the title when they're opening a thread, but it's by no means a big deal. As far as underlining in red, I do love to use the colors available here and would really enjoy reading other people's colorful posts.

Take care!

[Ygrec23]

Originally Posted by lizardlady

Ygrec, what about when the poster does put thought into a "catchy" title and they still don't get many responses? It's happened to me. I tend to get discouraged and wonder why I bothered.

That happens, Liz. I don't know why. But I don't think you should get discouraged. Some things work and some things don't. But on the whole, I think that the most informative title is the best title; it gives you at least a fighting chance. Take care!

[Ygrec23]

Originally Posted by krisakira

I usually go to the "Today's Posts" list, and from there, hover over each one and the beginning of the thread shows so that i have a little more understanding of what the thread is about. It helps me choose which threads to read.

You're right, krisakira, the first sentence of the post, the one you can read when you hover, is probably just as important as the title. Take care!

[Ygrec23]

Originally Posted by Open Eyes

And Ygre23, it was interesting to see how your mere suggestion was contemplated and there were a lot of different reactions to that suggestion, including my own. And I didn't think it was a paticularly offensive suggestion that you presented. But your thread took a turn and "YOU" were the one that turned it. And I did cite that turn. And I sited that because I felt your comment was uncalled for and a simple suggestion became a statment of judgement about how people respond to threads and how they post.

You're right, Open Eyes, it WAS a judgment, and it was a judgment I still think is valid. No, I'm not a "captain-going-down-with-his-ship" kind of arguer. I'm normally quite willing to consider different points of view and back off when I'm persuaded otherwise than I originally thought. But that's the point. I get the impression (right or wrong) that there are a few folks here who DON'T value other peoples' points of view as highly as their own. And I do think that's inappropriate. This is a "peer support" kind of place, and to me, at least, that means we're all equals and all of our points of view have equal validity simply because we have them. All of us, including me, are wrong from time to time, and the multiplicity of points of view assures us that, when we realize we've been wrong, there are plenty of other possible ways of thinking from which we can choose what we like.

But what did I look for in a thread title? It didn't really hit me until this morning. I was looking for "CORE" questions. Because, what I was dealing with and saw other people struggling with as well, were questions and concerns revolving around "PERSONAL CORE ISSUES AND STRUGGLES". And all this time I was looking for these titles that touched on my own "PERSONAL CORE STRUGGLES" but I wasn't "CONSCIOUSLY" "AWARE OF THAT".

So, would you say that thread titles referring to "Core Issues" are more helpful?

I do not know you Ygre23 on a personal level. But I have come to know others on a personal level here and I have also taken the time to pay attention to not only "THEIR CORE ISSUES", but, "THE MANY DIFFERNENT LITTLE THINGS THEY SAY THAT TELL ME THEIR PERSONAL STRUGGLE". And because of my own "LIFE STRUGGLES" I can often feel where that person is, and understand where that person is. And I can also see how others are often "MISUNDERSTOOD" because of the way they struggle. And one thing I DO know is that I TOO have been misunderstood many times in my life. Other people have often "ASSUMED I WAS SOMETHING THAT I WAS NOT".

So wouldn't you say that the clearer we are, not just in thread titles, but in posts, the more we can help others and the more help we can receive ourselves? The less misunderstanding there will be? Of course, the majority of us (including me) are still just finding out about themselves, and we can't be clear about what we don't yet understand. But one way or another, I think most of us are striving for clarity about ourselves, even if we don't realize it all the time. And clarity relating to others depends to some extent on those others' abilities to verbalize their situations.

And to be honest? When you wrote that criticism about some people thinking they are superior in their posts, I did wonder if you were talking about me. And I did not wonder that because I feel superior in any way, I wondered that because I have been accused of that in my past and I do know that it was not "MY ISSUE" BUT "SOMEONE ELSES ISSUE" that presented that opinion. And I had to learn that in very "UNPLEASANT WAYS".

Uh-uh, Open Eyes. Nope, I wasn't writing about anyone in particular at all. In our society it's kind of natural for people to assume that some points of view are more valid than others. That what "I" say is more "right" than what "you" say. And not only is that just not true, it interferes (I think) with each of our attempts to clarify our own thinking about our own problems, because all too many of us have low self-esteem and are only too willing to have a more "authoritative" person tell us the "truth" about ourselves.

I do not wish to stand in judgement of you Ygre23, and I do not know you nor have I been following your "PERSONAL JOURNEY" here at PC. But the statement you made in your thread was pretty "HARSH". And, I think you really have to consider "WHERE YOU ARE WHILE MAKING THIS STATEMENT".

Yes, Open Eyes, it was too harsh. I should have said it in a different way. I should have said instead that because of the kind of place PC is, we lose more than we gain by assuming that other members' opinions are either worth more or worth less than our own. This is a group of co-equals, with the possible exception of DocJohn. Regardless of our different educations or capacities, we're here as equals. There's no question at all that, as in all large social groups, some of us are going to get on each others' nerves. For whatever reasons. But that's not a justification to ignore or deprecate anyone else's point of view.

Do you really follow the little statements that are made here and there that represent significant clues about the members here? Well, you may not know how to do that, it may be something you need to think about, something you overlook and are not really consciously aware of it.

I'm very bad about that, Open Eyes. It's part of my own problem. In hiding from people, as I do, I try to (and succeed in) blanking out most of their details of any kind. So I can't say that I'm a particularly perceptive kind of person at all. I'm working on it. But there's a long way to go yet. So in the end, it's only too normal for me to have very confused and distorted ideas about the people with whom I deal, even here on PC.

So, perhaps you can reread your statement that I did point out earlier and really think about what that statement means in a place where it is well known that everyone here is addressing "PERSONAL CORE ISSUES".

I hear you, I hear you. But does the fact that, as you say, everyone here is dealing with their own Core Issues, excuse all of their other verbal conduct? No question that those Core Issues need to be taken into account, but if those Core Issues excuse anything a member will say, there wouldn't be any need for the kinds of guidelines we have about what's permissible in posting or in chat and what's not permissible. I do think that even for members with very tough issues there are rules. And among those rules is "Everyone's POV is equally valid."

Again, I do not know you, nor am I standing in judgement of you as a person Ygre23, and I am sure that you struggle with your own personal issues as well, but I am questioning your statement and it's harshness. Open Eyes

Open Eyes, I surely hope we get to know each other better! And, of course, just like everyone else, I'm struggling with my own issues. And there's no question but that I could have expressed myself better with regard to the harsh statement. Help me out, Open Eyes! Jump in whenever you read a post of mine you think is out of line! Thanks!

[Open Eyes]

If anything Ygre23 what you did do is see that you made an error. And you provided an example in that you didn't just feel hurt and abandoned by others and yourself and "RUN". And many people do just that, they make a statement, it is misunderstood depending on the struggle of another and sometimes both just "RUN" and opt out of PC. And that is not working through a personal struggle and trying to learn and improve. And in the struggle with any diagnoses that conveys a disorder,
there is often many ways a person can be misunderstood not only by others but themselves.

If anything what your thread did unintentionally is provide an example of how one can be misunderstood and how others can be very offended. And one thing about having any kind of disorder or issue is that people who struggle are often very misunderstood by others and even themselves. I can definitely raise my hand on that one.

When I came here, I was misunderstood and hurt by that, because I was also being misunderstood outside PC, even confused myself about my issue. And JD helped me a lot with that and she has pointed it out in your other thread. Some are 8 years old and some are 5 and at different stages on the road and some are further ahead on that road than others, and it doesn't make one better than the other, they are just at different points on the road.

Now it is understood that your intention was more about how a person might receive better help or more attention by thinking about what that person can put up as the heading of a thread. And you did receive a mixed reaction to that suggestion. But what really happened is that everyone revisited that road and where each person is on that road and what it means to be on that road. And there can be many times that someone may get hurt and misunderstood and think about "running" and that they don't deserve to be on any road. Well here we see that is just not true, everyone deserves to be on that road and take steps in whatever way they can or even have to stop and think about the steps they have taken and what it means.

I would say that not all threads are going to be answered, no matter what the heading is. Many times people are so busy on their own road they might not see the sign of another. And it doesn't mean the sign wasn't important or catchy enough, all it means is that we are in a place where people are struggling to understand what their personal struggle means and it is always very challenging.

If anything both of your threads have given members a reminder that we are in a place where many people truely struggle and it is very important to try to respect that and truely keep it in mind. This is a road that many are traveling and all are struggling and it is all around the world.

You have admitted some things yourself Ygre23. Are some overly judgemental, maybe so, but we do have to consider that it may just be a part of their personal struggle. And it may be something that person has yet to recognise and learn. But we also have to consider the source
and that can be very challenging indeed. I can see that you are an intelligent person, someone who did not have the ability to socialize for whatever reason, but you were misunderstood by others and yourself, you have learned something and are open to learning more. That is a good example of how to "DO THE WORK" that many often say has to be done to heal and improve one's self.

One of the messages I look for is when someone is conveying their faults. That is a very important part of each persons journey to bettering themselves. And as I have said, sometimes it is almost a whisper from that person. And because I have had a lot of my own whispers ever since I can remember, I do hear the whispers, I do understand the struggle. And I have worked with a lot of children that are beginning their whispers, I have even worked with horses and other animals that have their whispers. And I DO know that if those whispers are addressed properly, there is room for a tremendous amount of growth. For me, it is something I have actually seen take place, it is not just and invisible thing that can be a blind faith. Especially with horses that have come to me abused in some way, often I don't even get to hear a history, I am only presented with the way the horse reacts to different situations. And because that horse cannot talk I have to really think about what their body language is saying, very difficult.
And each horse, like each human is very unique. And I can say with real experience that in each case it takes a lot of time and patience but these animals can learn to overcome. Well, if an animal whose brain is the size of a walnut can do it, surely a human can learn to do the same.

I may have repeated some thoughts here, I can do that, but it can be re-enforcing for both me and another member to ponder and find reason to hang in there and let themselves progress and be at ease with the process as you have stated this is something new. When something is in writing it is there to revisit and think about something we have said and if makes sense and is fair and respectful of others.

Open Eyes

[(JD)]

Good luck with this folks... peace.

[nonightowl]

I've found this to be a "pattern" in online communities in general. No matter what I call it, sometimes I get little or no responses. And since new ones are always being started (including by myself of course), that bumps the thread further down in the forums...making it less noticeable.

I just try to keep my expectations low.

[Ygrec23]

Originally Posted by nonightowl

I've found this to be a "pattern" in online communities in general. No matter what I call it, sometimes I get little or no responses. And since new ones are always being started (including by myself of course), that bumps the thread further down in the forums...making it less noticeable. I just try to keep my expectations low.

Hey, Owl, thanks for the post. I understand that there are a number of kind people here who make it a practice to search out the zero-post or low-post threads and post to them when they find them. I try to do the same, but I believe they have some special, technical way of generating a list of zero and low-post threads so they can do it systematically. I wish I knew how to do that. If you ever find out, please let me know.

And low expectations are the key to everything, I've found!

[pegasus]

Unanswered Threads

Click the search tab and then click Unanswered Threads. Doesn't matter what the thread title is, just leave a supportive reply.

[nonightowl]

I recently started two threads about the same time. One got a lot of responses that are still coming in, and the other got none at all. The one that had none was the one I thought people would more likely respond to than the other one. It was about books vs. movie/TV series versions. My thread on Animal Expressions is still getting responses. Very disappointed with the thread on books, but I'm glad this doesn't just happen to me. Even though I don't want it to happen to anyone at ALL.

I do look for threads with little or no responses too. But I think this is the nature of message boards and the short attention spans people have when there's so many topics to view.......(Everywhere, not just PC) And I've noticed once something drops off the first page (which doesn't take long here, LOL), it gets no replies anymore, if it got any at all. Unless someone is searching for certain topics in a certain time frame, they seem to post randomly via browsing the topics. People don't seem to browse past the first two pages......

I posted in a thread that had NO replies, but a LOT OF VIEWS. After I posted my reply, it seemed to open the floodgates. Responses poured in, and they are still pouring in.

[Open Eyes]

nonightowl
A very wise man told me that often people may read something and have to digest it for a while before they can even begin to have an opinion and sometimes that process can take a long time.

So it isn't you, people are often stuck in a ponder without a real response to certain thoughts.

Open Eyes

[Ygrec23]

Originally Posted by Open Eyes

nonightowl
A very wise man told me that often people may read something and have to digest it for a while before they can even begin to have an opinion and sometimes that process can take a long time.

So it isn't you, people are often stuck in a ponder without a real response to certain thoughts.

Open Eyes

A very, VERY wise man indeed!

[nonightowl]

More thoughts.....maybe people are like "sheep" in this sense. If no one responds to something, then no one responds! It's kind of like if there's no customers in a restaurant or store. People walk on by, because there's no one in it. But someone has to come in, to encourage more people to come in.

My initial reply to that thread that had no responses seemed to generate a ton of more responses, but then that doesn't always happen of course.

Hard though....I mean with the thousands of members on this site, I'd think that each thread would get at LEAST one reply, so no one feels left out or ignored. I see there are 200 unanswered threads!

A friend who has a lot of experience with online communities also said not to take them too seriously, esp. when people don't reply or reply and piss you off.

I rarely put a lot of thought into titles and often have threads and posts with no responses. Even so, I found what I was talking about to be interesting. That is enough for me.

[unaluna]

Originally Posted by pegasus

Unanswered Threads

Well, now we have to keep THIS thread active forever so I have this to click on, because my stupid smart phone (get it? I am so proud of my new little joke! altho I think it can be improved upon) doesn't access much on the mobile web site. thanks for pointing this out.

[nonightowl]

Bumping thread for the convenient link to all the unanswered threads on here.