Hate

Why do people hate? How does hate influence emotional health? Are there ways to ameliorate hate? These articles may provide some answers:

http://www.kaelo.co.za/pdf/Info_Shee...er_%20Hate.pdf
http://tlc.howstuffworks.com/family/....htm/printable
http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/***...2/METHOD=print

Perhaps discussing hate is putting the cart before the horse. A respected authority tells us: “Fear is the path to the dark side. Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering.” ~Yoda

I have known fear, anger and hate. I have lost friends because of my tongue. Coincidentally, that tongue and depression worked to help me become a pretty fair lawyer. The price of winning cases ultimately got to be to high.

Have you thought about why you hate? Many I am anticipating will say they do not hate. Maybe it is a good time to take another look?

i hate liver. really. not fond of brussel sprouts altho it isn't strong enough to tip into hate.

people? i don't hate people (is that a snicker i hear???) my parents were awesome at abuse...but i don't hate them. i certainly don't condone their actions. nor approve of them. iif they were alive we wouldn't be don't family functions.

to me to hate someone gives them power...it sucks energy from you...gives you rage, raw emotion & doesn't allow you to think & sometimes react rationally in times of response. i refuse to hand that control over. it is my power. i fought long & hard to get it & then to say "i hate them" to me it just signs part of it right back to them.

i get angry at them, & at what i have lost...life is not annoying happy, don't get me wrong. but hate filled, no.

my parents are getting theirs. they both have died & have had to face their futures (think quizno's.."toasty, toasty, toasty).

so yeah there's no room for hate long term in my range of emotions. to just act on pure rage puts me on their level & i don't want to do it. i am better than that.

My sentiments exactly Stumpy! I can't waste my time on hate. I don't like liver either!

for (((Roadie))), sorry I deleted before...didn't mean to "mess" with you..I hope this post says the same thing...I just left out some of the actions which cause me to "hate" those I love at times.

"Hate" is a strong emotion. I do not waste my energy on "hating" etc, unless I also "love" someone or something very much.

In my life, I have had many loved ones run me over...my expectations of loved ones is very high...when this happens (yes, it still happens at this great age!), I feel hate...only for those ideas, those souls in my life that I love with equal intensity.

It is not worth my energy to "hate" something or someone who is unimportant to me. So I do not do it...even with those I love, I know how to avoid many crushing blows these days.

And, when I have "hated" those people, places, things. I loved...I did not hate THEM.

I "hated" their actions, not them...I hated because I have high expectations of that which I love unconditionally.......When my expectations are smashed, time and time again...I still love. I guess I'm nuts that way.

What people, the world Does does not define who, what they are...

When I truly love...it is always...amazingly, and I oftimes wonder if this is a blessing to be like this or a curse.

The world, people...my loves in my life repeatedly are as they are...few have changed during the course of my lifetime. I have changed. But that does not mean I can effect changes in others, or in the world...I Accept that...

Life is shades of grey.............once I came to terms with that, it was all easy.

I love. and, I sometimes hate what I love.

I am human...

Well, my hate is not really people but the abuse that people do to each other really and animals.

So yes, I hate abuse, yes, it upsets me to the core, maybe that is not healthy, but sorry I do hate abuse and cruelty towards others.

I do know that often abuse begets abuse sometimes, as well as ignorance begets abuse too. So I don't always blame the person because there is always some reason behind it. And yes, I do know some people are just bad people to be honest.

Before we had animal rights laws, when I was younger I used to horseback ride with a woman who let a man keep his horse on her property. And once a week ,maybe more, all the man would do is come and abuse and beat the horse and badly. I watched him do it and the look of fear on the horse's face will forever be burned into my mind, and the horse never did anything bad. So yes, I hate abuse. Well, one day I asked the woman why she would let such an awful man on her property, and she said because of the money. I told her, that it cost me more to see it happen then what he could ever pay her. The next time I went, the man's horse was gone. But I always felt so sorry for that horse, if only at that time there were laws protecting animals.

So, sorry guys, I am lover by nature so I will always hate abuse. Met so many nice people who truely deserved so much better, so yes, I hate the abuse that was done to them.

Open Eyes

Thank you, Theodora, for putting this up again. I think what you said was important to say, because the line between love/hate is so fine and wobbles so much. So much heartache could be avoided, couldn't it?, if we could keep focus on that separation btw the actor whom we so often love and the action, which we may well hate. Life becomes even more difficult when someone we hate (& I face this bewilderment) does something I love (how is that possible?) well, of course I end up re-evaluating everything.

Actions do bear a relationship to the actor, but we must not confuse or equate them.

Thank you for going to the effort to sketch it all out again. You've said it very well.

Roadie

I don't think I hate...even those who I feel should deserve my hatred.
It's a dangerouse state of mind to be in. I however have difficulty expressing anger..I have read that unresolved anger can eventually lead to a numbness of soul. This in itself can be a living death.
I guess it's something to think about.

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