coping with my emotions about grandson

watching you grow since your mum was pregnant accepting you would arrive to parents who put there needs first. 6 weeks spent in our home, lives in our hearts forever. 6 long months of assessments. your mum saying she doesn't want your dad not to be apart of 'her' family and trying it alone, but she didn't put her needs on hold while she was in assessment placements. she was reported as being to needy, which would affect little mans up bringing, now everybody looses out, he is more than likely going to be put up for adoption. we wont know until the judge decides. i know you dad has issues i know your mother also has issues, this is the main reason for my referral to social services. did i do the right thing or should i of been selfish and kept quiet?, no i think i did the right thing, your social worker tells me
your parents would have been refereed even if i didn't say anything to them, no i did the right thing first the relationship was volatile your dad has had issues all his life, she had him arrested on assault and sexual assault saying he was touching her in there bed at night while she was asleep. two years on the sex offenders register because he refused legal advice and just admitted everything to get it over with. now who is suffering? a child who they brought into this world, im crying now at the thought of not being able to hold my first grandchild again after the judge decides he will go to live with strangers, daughter tried for guardianship but some negative points made the social services think they were not appropriate to bring him up, our health issues and son living with us affects us, the mother is trying to get another assessment but solicitor says he doesnt think the judge will go for this as she has had 6 months to prove her self so while i feel sorry for my self and my family i know that little man will be brought up by good people and we will be here when he seeks us out

I feel your pain, but I think you know you did the right thing in your heart. I wish the best for everyone involved.

my family is at the age now were they flee the coup, son though returned home after a two year relationship broke down, youngest daughter and partner is looking at a flat in there price range not far away, they been togeather four years so sensable the pair of them, both working so a new chapter in there lives could start soon, whats is confusing me is i brought up four children and had no problems with second eldest and youngest, treated them the same loved them all the same way why have the other two caused so much pain, possibly is it there add/adhd or is that an excuse,

Kathy, I dont know much about family psychology really so take this with a grain of salt, but it seems to me that children grow up in a sort of way like they reflect off each other while they create thier own identities. Its like if one is strong and gets all the attention for being strong, then the other child needs to develop a way to get attention and so they may develop habits of being less independent in order to get the attention needed.

Im not saying anything about the way you parent your kids. But kids may grow up opposite in character of each other as part of the family dynamic and may have nothing to do with anyones failures, its just the natural order of things?

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It's so heartbreaking to me to know what you are going through. I can only imagine the pain this is causing both of you and the rest of your family. I'm so sorry that it's all come down to this.

After saying that, I truly believe that things happen for a reason and that there is a higher power at work here. I know that you both have your grandson's best interests at heart and only want him to know that he is loved and cared for and brought up in the best possible way. I pray that this situation is exactly the best thing for him. I know you will always have him in your heart and hopefully, someday, he will know and understand that. We don't know what the future brings, but living in love can only bring good things.

You are all in my prayers dear ones.....and I am here for you if you ever need my shoulder to lean on.

Oh Dear Kathy,
My heart hurts for you and your family.
If it helps any I can tell you that my bio parents were in no condition to raise me and my sister. This was in the 70s with an open adoption. Now for me it would have been better to let us go because the child will always hold on to false hope. I am 40 now, my bio parents have since passed but I know that they loved me.
Children will always reach out later in life, so the little man is just away for now. Keep a journal for the day he does return so he can see how much he was loved and thought of.
This is all he will need to be assured that he came from LOVE.
Prayers for you and your family,
happiedasiy

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