How to keep myself from attatching to guys online?

No one can do it for you but yourself. We can only suggest the rest is up to you.

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.....okay then. Suggest changes that I can do, rather than ones I can't.

About 10 of us gave about 200 ideas between all of us, nothing, no change. You can change your online profile, that isn't hard. Others I think gave up and I will soon too, you just don't wan to do anything, then just accept the reality and at least seek therapy. We can't fix your life

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Jobs are useful for more than just financial reasons. They build self-esteem and strengthen you, making it viable to stand on your own which feels fantastic! Perhaps if you could have the experience of living this way, your focus will be less on finding a husband and instead enjoying life. You'll love it.

Excellent post bravo

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Fine give up on me. I thought you cared....

Also, I can't live on my own right now. I can't. I can't. I can't. What part of that don't you understand?

You refuse to listen to anyone and just get hostile with people. I feel sorry for you but it is tiring as nothing seems of interest to you. You'll be posting same things 20 years from now. I need to go to bed as I get up at 5am to get ready for work.

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We gave you suggestions how to achieve your goal of living alone sigh.....

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So now you pity me? I don't need any pity.

I have my own ways for that, and no one seems to be aware of it no matter how many times I post it on here.

All right then. Gotta go to bed. I need to figure out how to turn notifications down they just keep popping on my screen

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Good. Stick to your goal then

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I will. Now weren't you going to bed?

Yup. Trying to figure out how to turn notifications off, I think I got it

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People may be more receptive to you if you try not to be as defensive as you've been here.

Well, I don't trust them. In fact, I don't trust anyone anymore. It's nothing personal. Just been crossed one too many times to be trusting of people.

And FYI, being blunt doesn't earn my trust.

Well, best of luck to you.

I have lots of online acquaintances,but they are just that: acquaintances. For them to be real true friends, there has to be a complete relationship there. You are getting attached to the idea that someone has of themselves that they represent online. If you keep reminding yourself that not everyone you meet online is immediately a good person or an honest person, I think you'll have more luck making real friendships.

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Love might be blind, but someone entering into a relationship isn't already in love with someone - so they're not blind. Not at all. They might be ignorant of the real person they're getting involved with (common because no one shares everything upon first meeting someone) but as they get to know someone, they're more likely to bail out when they see that the other person is totally dependent upon others.

A job, any job, is sooo beneficial. You can put money to thousands of helpful uses - such as participating in things that you would enjoy that might help introduce you to friends or potential partners who have similar interests as you.

And yes, each of the suggestions I've seen given to you CAN be accomplished by you. Not immediately sure, but they all CAN be. You just choose to reject them and don't want to put in whatever work or effort would be required, or whatever other reason.

And no one here probably cares much if you trust them or not... we're all strangers. And you don't seem very receptive to building friendships on this site. Which is totally fine. But the refusal to trust, open up, and be receptive to others would definitely make it a lot harder to befriend anyone in any situation.

Good post red panda. Love might be blind on the first stages but if the person is a jerk and a loser no one will stick around (hypothetically speaking) I fell in love with some losers before, sure it was blind but I left as soon as I saw they are not right people. So it is extremely naive to expect people to blindly stick around for love. The only true unconditional blind love is love for our children, I will love and care for my daughter even if she was a jerk lol but I sure am not sticking around any men who have nothing to offer ( I don't mean financially but in all other aspects)

Also having a career allows one to be able to afford hobbies that open horizons. My hobbies are rather costly ( I paint do scrapbooks and do Jazzercize) if I didn't work I'd never be able to afford them it would take lots of fun out of my life and I wouldn't meet wonderful friends I met through these activities.

Also travel. To travel one needs money to get money one must work. I personally love to travel.
Overall not attempting to support oneself is just not an attractive quality in any gender

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Artchic, I noticed that you mention you already have a job. I assume the job is something you can do from home, such as selling on eBay or writing for a website. Are you able to communicate/network with others who work in your field? If you could work on strengthening you skills work-wise, you may not have time to become attached to people on dating sites.

But then again, I'm digressing away for the husband mission.....

I think what you described might help finding a good husband (knowing more people and having more successful life opens more options for meeting high quality people)

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Your open hostility to everyone that has offered advise is uncalled for. You came needing advice , you have been given more advice off "all" your threads than some people around PC get in a year. If you wont even consider any ones advice, what is the purpose of your posting? attention? You want to just be angry and mean to people?

Sure, it's not something that is easily changeable but may be a goal easier achieved if you worry about your own life and where it's going rather than focusing all of your energy into this one aspect. The more you spend time getting into your own routine and setting your life up for success, the more other things fall in place. Being fixated on one thing in life tends to halt all life moving processes more than you know.

Most people have the same deep desire - to be loved and have someone commit to spending their life with you. I sure do, at my core that's what I want more than anything else.

But it doesn't mean I'm going to sit and wait for it. I'm not a Disney Princess and life isn't a fairytale... no one is going to rescue me and make my life wonderful. That's my job.

There are no instructions for life. Except to eat, breathe, use the bathroom, etc. No one, anywhere in the world, can give you a fool-proof step by step process to landing a man. If you want to try, I'm sure you could find plenty of books online to purchase... they might even have some good advice hidden in there, but still won't make your ideal man show up in your life.

So while no one can give you step-by-step instructions, we've all been giving you the best and most common-sense advice we can think of. Which you reject and for some reason say is impossible. The various things suggested are the goals you can work towards that will help give your life more meaning, open opportunities, lead to a healthier lifestyle, expose you to more people, and make you more of an all-around more desireable person because you'll be independent, successful, and hopefully happier.

As it is, you have two goals: to be a vet tech and to find Mr. Right. But you are just seeming to sit around and be miserable in the meantime. Working towards the vet tech is a good goal - but you seem to have a lot more time so why not pick up more work to be able to afford it sooner? Or apply for a student loan? They are in fact both possible.

Why not get your driver's license since you say you can't walk for 45 minutes, have ignored tips for taking taxis, and won't get a lift in with your family when they go to work both because you don't want to rely on them (even though they pay for everything else) and because you'd be in town for their entire work shift. So, get a license and at least work towards independence where you could at least borrow the car and use it and pay for gas.

Just pick a more attainable, and more immediate goal, to work towards.