When bored and alone

Mar 26, 2016, 03:50 PM

When bored and alone, what do you do usually?

Nammu · Mar 26, 2016, 03:53 PM

Stare blankly at a book
Stare blankly at the tv
Stare blankly at the computer
Stare blankly at the wall
Twiddle my thumbs

Nimportequoi · Mar 26, 2016, 06:39 PM

-Daydreaming while listening to music
-Reading (only if I found a good novel last time I've been to the library)
-(unvoluntarily) having eating attacks
-chat with the other Avie guy I found here on PC
-watching TV
-writing/handicrafting/drawing, if my depressive mood isn't too bad at the moment
-scroll threw my tumblr dashboard (tumblr is like really good if you want to kill your time)

Serzen · Mar 26, 2016, 06:42 PM

Read, listen to music, write, meditate, play and sleep with my cat.

divine1966 · Mar 26, 2016, 08:22 PM

When alone and have no chores to complete, I read, watch Netflix or something on tv on Demand or work out/ walk if weather allows, read PC lol. I also like to organize my things and I like to clean, I am neat freak. Also decorate and redecorate and cook.

I was extremely tired yesterday and finally had a day off from my two jobs so I spent most of the day in my robe watching tv, finished house of cards and watched the entire second season of happy valley on Netflix. Never left the house. It felt good.

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Mar 27, 2016, 02:41 AM

I talk to my higher power or God, and tell him how i feel. I feel better afterwards. tc

Mar 27, 2016, 03:11 AM

For me because being alone is an everyday reality, everything I've tried to do becomes boring. I watched movies, I read books, I walked out, I played video games, and I went to coffee shops. All seem good at the beginning, but then everything gets boring.

Thunder Bow · Mar 27, 2016, 12:33 PM

When everything seems boring, that indicates you are feeling depressed. Your loneliness is related to depression as well.

Mar 27, 2016, 01:59 PM

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When everything seems boring, that indicates you are feeling depressed. Your loneliness is related to depression as well.

I guess there is a grain of truth in that. Thanks

seeker1950 · Mar 27, 2016, 02:29 PM

Wandering, I choose to be alone, but I'm probably much older than you. I cherish my quiet time and solitude. I can DO anything I want, ignore chores if I want, take a walk if I choose to, work if I want to, or not. It's precious! After years of striving for a magic relationship which led to a lot of grief, I finally decided to try something different. I will share with you that the most rewarding thing I did was go back to school. If this is an option for you, I highly recommend it. Taking classes gets you out of your own head, plus, you are learning something new! It's very fulfilling and gives you a feeling of accomplishment and increase of self-esteem.

Nimportequoi · Mar 27, 2016, 03:00 PM

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Taking classes gets you out of your own head, plus, you are learning something new! It's very fulfilling and gives you a feeling of accomplishment and increase of self-esteem.

I agree. I'm a regular 11th grade student and even though I can't choose what I learn in school really, and even though I am also afraid to go to school bc it involves human interaction, it also helps me deal with my depression, which always gets worse when I'm in holydays. Don't know what this is, but sometimes I have this that I think depression has drained all energy and vigor out of me, and then I have to learn for a difficult test coming up, or have to choke myself to stay concentrated in class and the fact that I am forced to concentrate on the present and real life problems (even if they're as banal as a test) makes my mood enhance and keeps me from falling into total despair. It's not always like that but I think the benefits outweigh the disadvantages.

Rabbit1256 · Mar 27, 2016, 03:22 PM

I live alone and spend much of my time that way. I try not to be bored when alone. I go for a walk, clean, or write. I joined this site for the duel reasons of being engaged in my recovery and the distinct purpose of not being bored. When I am bored and alone I get idle if I do not correct the situation. Becoming idle is a self-destructive behavior. It causes you to think about things you cannot change and I tend to get lost in my head.

I suggest, if you have the motivation, to do something. The action of doing, whatever it involves, is healthier than being bored. Also, if you feel engaged in any activity that is positive you will feel better and be healthier than you feel when you feel bored.

Mar 27, 2016, 03:27 PM

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Originally Posted by seeker1950

Wandering, I choose to be alone, but I'm probably much older than you. I cherish my quiet time and solitude. I can DO anything I want, ignore chores if I want, take a walk if I choose to, work if I want to, or not. It's precious! After years of striving for a magic relationship which led to a lot of grief, I finally decided to try something different. I will share with you that the most rewarding thing I did was go back to school. If this is an option for you, I highly recommend it. Taking classes gets you out of your own head, plus, you are learning something new! It's very fulfilling and gives you a feeling of accomplishment and increase of self-esteem.

Thanks. I have the highest academic degree that anyone can get. This is the thing, I don't want to be alone. I want something different, like a relationship. Opposite to you.

divine1966 · Mar 27, 2016, 03:32 PM

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Thanks. I have the highest academic degree that anyone can get. This is the thing, I don't want to be alone. I want something different, like a relationship. Opposite to you.

I know you've been trying social groups like meet ups etc and it is awesome, have you tried online dating? I don't recall if we talked about. Maybe give it a chance? It might open a possibility....

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Mar 27, 2016, 04:12 PM

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I know you've been trying social groups like meet ups etc and it is awesome, have you tried online dating? I don't recall if we talked about. Maybe give it a chance? It might open a possibility....

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I'm still trying to find the right group and adapt to the ones I singed in for. I've tried online dating sites, and I'm on one right now. Thanks

divine1966 · Mar 27, 2016, 06:20 PM

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I'm still trying to find the right group and adapt to the ones I singed in for. I've tried online dating sites, and I'm on one right now. Thanks

Good luck! Try eharmony ( just saying

)

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TrailRunner14 · Mar 27, 2016, 06:54 PM

Just got through with this! I found these journals that have pictures to color scattered through them. It is very "no brainier" to me and shuts down my thoughts when they are not good or helps me sort them out when they are scattered.

Volunteering somewhere is really drawing my heart, but I don't know where that would be right now.

My favorite thing is to go to my trail, put my earphones in my ears and walk or run. I basically kind of lose myself for a while. When bored and alone

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Mar 27, 2016, 09:41 PM

Is this an adult coloring book? I recently read an article about this, where it was said that this is a good way for the elderly (the article was targeting a certain age group because they are the most affected by loneliness in today's culture) to pass time in their loneliness, and they engage in something not heavily demanding. I guess all ages can engage in it as well if they find it useful and kills the time for them.

TrailRunner14 · Mar 27, 2016, 10:04 PM

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Originally Posted by Wandering Soul

Is this an adult coloring book? I recently read an article about this, where it was said that this is a good way for the elderly (the article was targeting a certain age group because they are the most affected by loneliness in today's culture) to pass time in their loneliness, and they engage in something not heavily demanding. I guess all ages can engage in it as well if they find it useful and kills the time for them.

Yes! It's actually a journal I found at a local store. It's very calming to me to color.

I started out a few months ago with a preschool coloring book that were very basic pictures, that had the color by numbers thing in them. That way I didn't have to put any mental processing into it. It was just somethings to calm the stress in my mind. I've bought adult coloring books that are more in the simple side as far as picture design.

Not sure the science/brain thing behind this, but when I'm trying to sort something out it helps me. It helps me when I can't get out and I'm trying to find something productive to do, if I have nothing else.

I've done so much reading about the brain and memory storage. There is something about the left brain right brain thing and creativity. Can't really remember specifically but I do know I enjoy it and it helps me.

Hope it helps you!!

Mar 28, 2016, 05:50 PM

When Bored and alone... I clean my apt from top to bottom, call a good friend, surf the web, watch funny sketch on You Tube/subscriptions or do paid online surveys on different sites.

kgray · Mar 28, 2016, 06:42 PM

I met my hubby on EHARMONY almost 9 years ago.

divine1966 · Mar 28, 2016, 09:23 PM

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I met my hubby on EHARMONY almost 9 years ago.

That's where I met my fiancée

kgray · Mar 29, 2016, 11:14 AM

That's cool!!

emijec · Apr 02, 2016, 09:58 AM

I take a walk around the local park/lake, walk a short trail. grab a coffee afterwards sit and browse my phone or read something while at the coffee shop. breaks the routine of staying home in bed.

PianogirlPlays · Apr 02, 2016, 04:03 PM

Getting outside and seeing the world around me. I fortunately live in a pretty area with trees, mostly sunshine, flowers and nice neighbors.

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