[Betty_Banana]

I don't know what I'm feeling and I dot know how to express myself, and so it all comes out in rage.

I have been talking to my therapist about this rage and the 'fits of rage' I have been having, but I really don't think he gets it. He doesn't seem concerned, he doesn't have suggestions or advice, he just listens to me talk about it. This in itself is getting frustrating, and I worry I will have a fit of rage during a session, which I definitely do not want to do.

Just thinking about the way I feel causes anxiety because it feels a little scary to not even know what it is I'm feeling(did that even make sense?)

I really worry I will do something very stupid during the rage because it is getting out of control. It's like the rage completely takes over and I'm not in control anymore.

Any suggestions?

[Betty_Banana]

What? Nobody else has rage?

[Mysterygirl202]

I think you need to find a healthy way todeam with this anger. Since you do not know what your feelig fid a sport, activity, or idea to help you get that emotion out . If yor creative maybe paint what your feeling or write it out throgb words. If your mote physical type try punching things or running. Once youfind a way to control it try to look at yourself in a different perspectie and figure out whats going on in your heart that is creating this. Not all at once.. It may take time.. But little by little it can be revealed what is truly making you angry.

[Betty_Banana]

Thanks.

I have been trying to find healthy ways, but it's not really working. It seems like the more I try to control it, the worse it gets actually.

I don't think this is something that I can slowly figure out and work on because it's such a major issue right now. This rage is affecting my home and work life and I have to do something ASAP.

[LyingSweetie]

Are there any triggers than you can see? causes? etc. or does the rage come on randomly

i have issues of rage related to complex PTSD. rage is nothing to fool around with. i suggest you see a therapist as soon as possible.

my experience is to distract my self from the thoughts that cause the rage. listening to music is my number one distraction. exercising - especially bike riding - also helps. any good hobby in which you can immerse yourself helps. you need to see a talk therapist and find out the cause of the rage and try to defuse it and understand it.

[gma45]

Rage is scary makes me feel like I am going to lose control.Which I never really did felt like it though. You should copy your post and let your t read it. when I figured it out I was usually mad at someone. My old t told me to dig in my garden I had some of the best soil around when I was p....off! Music works for me also! I also would write. just a few idea's you might want to try. Will be thinking of you and sending good vibes!

[Mysterygirl202]

I agree music is my favorite wyto get anything out

[tattoogirl33]

When I'm in a fit of rage the LAST thing I want is someone giving me real advice as how to "cope" with it and make it better.. I want to live it, feel it, it's my only outlet at the time and I just want to have someone there to listen.. to understand and to not judge me. I'm sure this is in no way healthy but it's what I personally "need".

I'm so sorry you're feeling this way, I know it sucks!

[gashly]

I lose my temper sometimes, or sometimes verbally attack others. For me what is underlying the anger is when I'm upset with someone and feeling deep hurt. When I try to explain what is happening to someone, and they don't understand, or invalidate how I feel, it makes me feel more alienated, and angrier, which in turn makes me feel more out of control and frightened by it.

My ex couldn't understand why I "hated" him, when he was always just happy to see me. And didn't understand what I was so upset about, that there's really nothing worth getting upset over.

I "hated" him because I felt he pushed me away and rejected me. I kept trying to tell him what was going on, but he just would push away more. In the end I felt like I was set up, he telling me that he loved me, then when I told him that I loved him it was "too soon".

Stuff like that.

The more hurt I am, he angrier I get.

I also get angry when I'm frustrated with something, and feel like a "loser who can't do anything right".

A lot of the time I feel like you where I am so upset, but everything is jammed up inside and I don't even know what's going on anymore. Time outs and physical activity to take my mind off it can lower it. If I can distract myself from ruminating about things it can help me feel better.

Though I'd rather be angry than feel deep pain.

I don't know if any of that helped.

[InnerPeaceSession]

There is anger, and then there is anger directed at the self.

First off, there is no such thing as a perpetual "loser".
You will loose some and win some.

At some point, you will have to find a workable way to express the anger.
It has to go somewhere.
It does not have to harm you or anyone in the process.

Eventually you will see the grief and sorrow behind it.

It is time to respect yourself.

[GingerBrandy]

I see these are old posts, but I am currently experiencing lots of rage, so I thought I'd post. A lot has happened lately: an unwanted out of state move, (hence, loss of friends), searching for a house, being closer to my mother (we have a terrible relationship) and weaning myself off Effexor. The rage scares me, I feel I could really do some damage when it happens, and there's nothing I can do at the time to stop it.