Edited Letter

I'm glad that I opened up and told him.

I am assuming the pharmacist is avoiding me. I called for a medication question she said that he was with a customer and she put me on hold. After a few minutes, he was still tied up so I asked her if he could call me. It's been 9 minutes, no call.

I guess I am kind of confused. Whenever I pick up her prescription I rarely ever get to talk to the pharmacist unless I ask to speak to them especially if there are techs there. So I'm wondering do you ask to speak to him each time? I would think that just picking up a prescription does not require you to have to speak to him. If you do ask to speak to him each time that I'm sure he probably knows how you feel.

I had a question about my trial medication and the tech didn't know how to answer it yesterday because he was off.

I do ask to speak to him a lot. Do you think he really would've figured out how I feel?

He still hasn't called. He hates me.

Obviously, my situation is not that important.

Hope, he's your pharmacist. It isn't about him hating you; that's an extreme reaction. But you are simply a customer of his, one of hundreds and hundreds of customers not to mention doctor's offices, etc.

You seem to be really fixated on him, and if he has picked up on it, yes, he is probably going to find a way to put up a boundary there in order to keep the interactions professional. I suspect we are at the same pharmacy at least once a week, and we have been for probably 20 years. It is VERY rare that we specifically ask to speak to the pharmacist about meds. We address our medication questions with our prescribing physician first. In fact, generally when we do speak directly with the pharmacist, it is the pharmacist himself/herself who initiates that conversation simply because of protocols about being sure we know the meds, etc.

You do seem to have a pattern of initiating a lot of contact with authority figures (therapists, pdocs, pharmacists) about things that probably don't really require contact, and in several cases, that excessive contact has ended up creating problems for you with those authority figures (and certainly creates repeated internal stress for you). Have you worked with your therapist on this pattern?

I was calling with a legit medical question.

What was the question? I know it sounds obvious but many medical questions can be adequately answered with a quick Google search. Is it possible that you were just seeking a reason to contact your pharmacist?

I was responding to your statement that you do tend to ask to speak to him a lot. Is it a medical emergency? If so, you need to call your doctor, not the pharmacist. If is isn't, then he'll get to your question when he has a moment to do so. It might be a few hours. If he hasn't responded maybe by lunch time, call back and leave another message then.

I don't have a psychiatrist to ask. Every time I check out there, they ask everyone if they have a question for the pharmacist.

Hope,

I've been there. I've fixated on someone (two years ago) and it drove them away. They never reciprocated my feelings anyway, but the pain I went through was one of the best things that ever happened to me. I think it's best if you begin to detach from him completely. Do not contact him anymore. If you truly care about him, you wouldn't force him to interact with you. The declined FB request was a big flag

My concern is how you are deflecting everyone who asserts that maybe you are fixated on him. You usually retort with a musing of your own, usually self-deprecating. Is this a defense?

Please, begin to let him go. Work on yourself. He is not going to solve your problem.

You do have a psychiatrist who prescribed your medication. You need to call that psychiatrist again and speak to him or his office staff.

That doesn't mean you have to ask him a question every time. R u picking up new meds each time? The directions are on the medication.

It doesn't matter why he declined your requests for contact, but u need to respect his boundary.

Now it doesn't matter because he's never going to talk to me again.

You didn't respond to a thing anyone said again. Can you at least acknowledge this is not in ur best interest and that u are fixated?

So is it really not about the medication? Is it really more about just talking to him? I don't say that to be accusatory, but perhaps you need to be honest with yourself about why you are really calling.

If the question about the med is minor side effect related, like someone else said, you can probably find the answer online (google is our friend) or in your packaging insert (which you can also find online). Again, if it is more serious, you really need to call the prescribing physician. Or, wait a bit and if you haven't heard back from the pharmacist, call back later, your message may have gotten lost in the shuffle of messages on his desk.

I completely agree with lolagrace's posts. Also, can't you see how you are invading him the same way you tend to do with certain kinds of people? Hope, you may not feel this or see it the same way he does or your past Ts etc, the same way many of us also see it on this forum (evident from responses to your posts). But what you tend to do is intrusive, demanding and alienating, and as long as you continue approaching people in this way, it is unlikely that you will develop lasting, fulfilling relationships with them. It is even likely that you will end their good professional services. I have no idea how you could recognize and accept this in a more stable way, but have little doubt that what many of us are saying to you is valid and is the majority perception. You don't seem to seek help or relationships to get out of this and to develop mutually constructive, fulfilling, healing connections. You seem to try to get these people to mirror or feed your tendencies, always try to justify your seeking, and when they don't respond to it, you are disappointed and throw a pity party.

Again, I am not writing this to be antagonistic, but you would really need to change how you approach interpersonal interactions and relationships, otherwise it will likely never work out and you will keep alienating the people that you crave connections with. I recall that one T suggested getting into an intensive program to address your problems, but you rejected it, and you don't even seem to reflect much on your actual T sessions on this forum, more just report perceived unfairness.

Hope, I hope you realize sweetheart only trying to help. You stated that you do ask to speak to him a lot and asked if he really would have figured out how you feel. I'm sure he's come to some conclusions exactly what he's thinking no one can say except him but you have to realize that he has a job to do a very important job. If he is distracted it makes a mistake somebody could die so he can't allow himself to be distracted. He cares because that is his job and people's lives depend on it.

As for what he is thinking who knows I don't know what type of questions you ask him or what you say. He can either be thinking this girl has a crush on me or he could be thinking why does she have so many questions? We are talking about psychiatric meds after all, maybe he feels that the questions are due to a mental incapacity.

Either way I don't think it matters at this point you've sent him the letter through Facebook he can respond to you through Facebook if he wants. I think the best advice would be just to switch pharmacies so you don't have to be reminded of him anymore. Try to move on. At this point it does seem to be on the verge of harassment I remember this is his job, I'm sure he doesn't hate you but he does have a job to do as well.

I know this is caused you much stress and as you stated you don't want to get out of bed. The distraction has also caused you to fail your exam. It doesn't sound like this is a healthy relationship for you. I would suggest working with your therapist and finding a way to meet people that you have common interests with people from school or a club. Developing friends with common interests may help build your self-esteem and allow you to eventually approach a love interest in a healthy manner.

I just got home from the pharmacy with my prescription. I will go back and respond to the posts. I haven't been fixated on him but I was determined to give him a letter which I did today.

I was upset this morning over the same medication issue as I had yesterday but they weren't able to help me until the pharmacy manager was in, which was today.

I bursted into tears with him on the phone. I told him about the problems that I was having getting an appointment and that all I had left is what's left in my ADHD bottle, my anxiety med, 2 sample bottles of a new antidepressant and he filled me a 2 week supply of my Seroquel which I'm supposed to be getting off of.

It wasn't about him. It was about the fact that I'm running out of medication.

I always talk to the entire pharmacy staff. They know me from picking up me and my brother's medications. I know all the techs, both pharmacists, and the Intern. They've always been excellent.

You are absolutely correct. I didn't mean to overreact today, I was just overwhelmed. I cannot get in with a pdoc before late September and I will be out of medication by then. The pharmacist was able to fill a 2 week supply of one medical.

The reason why the pharmacist was helping me with medication questions is because he knew I had a long wait until my Dr's appointment and the medicine was causing side effects.

If I had a current psychiatrist, I would've turned to them.

My therapist is aware of the situation. I trust him a lot

The sample antidepressant causes me vomiting everyday. I wanted to ask him if it was safe to keep taking it and just taking anti-nausea medicine everyday as well.