On the Verge of Tears

I'm having an especially bad morning again. Nothing I do seems to work out the way it's supposed to, my kids are driving me crazy, my husband never understands my point,...God, how whiny I sound. I'm just so overwhelmed with the cranky kids, the messy house, the disagreements, and on and on. I can't see the solutions, and I feel like a big ball of nerves....oh, well the kids are going nuts again so I better go...Thanks for listening.

Sounds like you are very overwhelmed right now. I am wondering if your child's temper tantrums , a husband that never understands your point, messy house, etc are more about you being depressed than about the other issues. Are you being treated for depression? Are you in therapy? Sounds like you really might benefit from either or both......and then perhaps the other issues won't seem quite as bad.........just my humble opinion ! Good luck - and glad you are here where you can talk, whine, or whatever you need to do!!!!!

Thanks for your response. No, I'm not being treated for anything. I was considering some medication last fall but managed to improve things on my own with exercise, etc. Now, things don't seem so great, but it's hard to see things objectively. And therapy isn't something my husband agrees with anyway. (That's why I'm here). And it's hard to know when there is a need of help or it's just a phase that's going to pass. My mood seems to be dependent on the actions of people around me, like my daughter's tantrums (if she's in a good mood, so am I - sort of). Thanks for your thoughts.

Welcome to Psych Central grainsofsand. Like your name btw. Sounds like you could use a day of peace and relaxation. How co-operative would hubby be to give you a full day's relief for one day on the weekend so that you can get out of the house and do whatever you want, without all the ruckus of kids? You mentioned that he is not very understanding. Maybe after spending one day in your shoes, that might change a little. If he's not listening, maybe you could try to be a little more assertive in getting heard. BTW, it's ok to cry when you need to. It's a release. Don't deny yourself that. Good luck. I hope you get a break soon. Oh, and hubby should clean the house on your day away too.

Hello Grains -- Welcome to the Psych Central Forums. I've never been in your shoes, so I'll hold the advice.

to me, you are lucky to have a husband and kids...i'm thirty-two and i've never had a boyfriend..and i cared for kids that called me their mommy and had to leave them since they weren't my own..i would give anything to have a husband and kids.

Grains, I hope you have a better day today. (((((((((((hugs)))))))))

I can understand the situation you're in. Sounds similar to mine. Had two kids only two years apart, worked a full-time job, wasn't dealing with my depression and anxiety (just smile and everything will be fine, after all. Yeah, right), and hubby just couldn't understand why the house was always messy and I wasn't ready, willing, and able to entertain him in bed at least every other night.


I don't have any answers. I'm still trying to learn boundary setting and effective communication so my ex will maybe listen to my point of view. Just wanted to let you know you're not alone.

getting it back to your post, grains....i remember being so frazzled and tired and yucky when my children were young. you have my support and prayers.....xoxox pat