They Call Themselves Doctors?

Here is a site to learn about types of therapies and types of therapists. It could be that you would feel better about a different type of therapy or therapist:
www.guidetopsychology.com

I liked the Question&Answer section a lot, and the types of therapies and therapists too. There is just a lot of good information there.

Well, I agree -- this is ridiculous. 22 times a month and lose weight? Please, please, please, get two different counselors. Please ignore this advice, it is totally wrong. I hope and pray you can find someone else who will give you better advice.

First of I have to thank you for your courage for writting this.HuggsDepression dont go away like by loseing weight she dont know what she talking about .You can loose weight and you still will be depressed thats what Iam suffering from Its just like this People who have lots of money are consider as rich and If they have depression they are still going to be sad .huggsPlease change Your therapist.

Hopeless???

I think not...you have a mind and you are well spoken, so you are definitely not hopeless. As far as that "therapist" telling you he knew what was "wrong" with you, but he would wait for you to figure it out, then fire him, he apparently is not interested in helping you, but propping up his ego..

I cannot believe some of the "advice" you have been give. Totally unfair to you. Fire them and tell them that is what you are doing..and advocate for yourself.

Awhile ago, I had a therapist who I had told I had perfection issues. He literally got up from his chair, went over to a picture on his wall and tilted it sideways....like was that supposed to make me flip a nut?

I tolerated him until the next visit when I was really struggling with panic, and it was really difficult for me. I was crying as I described this..and this jerk actually said "Well.... I can't hold your hand through everything." Let me point out that I am extremely independent and have a difficult time saying I need help, so hand holding was not in the cards for me as it was.

At that point, I literally walked out of his office, throwing over my shoulder..."You are fired."

You can advocate for yourself, just keep coming back here and getting support. You know what feels right and what does not. Go with that..you are definitely not hopeless!

Yoda ~ I am glad that the only quacks don't live around me. Glad that I haven't found the only two. Love what you did with a book. Was she a blonde

Echoes ~ Thanks for the site. I am going to spend some time tomorrow looking through it and seeing what intrests me

Sky ~ I can't thank you enough for UNDERSTANDING. I am so sick of the "B" word. People that are not going through this just don't get it. I am so glad that you do

Coko ~ Oh give me a chance to be rich and see if my depression goes away...please?

Kasc ~ OMG your therapist that got up and moved the pictures sounds like something dumb this guy would do . Why do they think they are better than us? There not. We are all human. They just have a pretty shiney degree on the wall that cost them hundrads of thousands of dollars.

Hopeless..

Here's the kicker for me with that guy. I waitressed at the time, and maybe six months later, he and his wife(?) came in to the place I work, proceeded to get completely drunk, and get into a huge brawl...yuck.

My instincts were right on the money...and so are yours. I wish you the best in finding a therapist that works for you, they are out there, and you will know when you "click."

As far as the other comments either of the two docs have made to you, I think they are addressing a symptom, not a core issue...and the 22 times thing, that must be his wish in his life...tell him they call that projection, lol.

Please keep in touch ok?

I am sorry you are going through this Hopeless. I pretty much agree with everyone here and do hope that you are able to find 2 new therapists.

My p-doc, a little more qualified than a therapist, refused to believe that my weight gain was from Effexor and told my husband to set traps to see if I was sneaking around to eat. I have never been to a p-doc since!!

LOL I dunno. She was older and colored her hair. But I am pretty sure her brain was blonde.

She was so strange. One day a girl came for her first day and she was nervous as we all were on our first day. The therapist was really mean to her because the girl was timid and said she would like to just listen for awhile to get comfortable. The therapist kept prodding her and not in a nice way and it was making me mad. The therapist told her, we don't have any secrets in here. I remarked loudly, I have lots of secrets. The therapist just ignored me because so often I would say things in response to her silliness and I don't think she knew how to actually discuss things. She was more, I'm the boss and I'm here to tell you what you need to know and you should accept everything as fact.

I made her really mad one time and it was so funny. I had been in the outpatient program for about two years and she and I had gotten familiar with each other. I took a break for a year and then decided to restart the program again when I switched to a different Pdoc and he thought I might benefit from being there. Well this therapist had the attitude that she was superior in every way to the clients. She was smarter, higher social status, you know. Her car was a convertible and it was okay but it was older and needed waxed but still that was part of her image that she portrayed. When I came back to therapy after the break I had bought an Audi A4 convertible which is my dream car. I came driving in with the top down and music blasting and my vanity license plate that says STFU and boy she was mad. How dare I have a nicer car than she did. I laughed. I really liked the two other therapists there but that one was a froot loop. Once in private one of the good therapists told me that she and the other therapist had "professional differences" with the bizarre therapist.

Another time I spent three months in a different outpatient program which was so so but not really right for me. Most, well all of the other clients rode buses to and from the program. I was dawdling after session one day and a therapist said to me, aren't you going to miss your bus? I said I drive my car. She looked at me with amazement and asked, you can drive? I said nothing but was thinking ummmmm yeah lady I've been driving thirty years, worked fifteen years as a critical care nurse, worked five years as a paramedic and hey lady sometimes I even drove the ambulance and oh boy did I like the siren. Honestly. How can you provide therapy to clients when you know absolutely nothing about them? Yeah lady I'm mentally ill but I'm not stupid.

Mentally ill people can drive? Who would have thought?

hopeless, sounds like you are taking the bull by the horns and not sitting down for this crap from the therapists. you wouldn't go to dentist if he/she were hurting your teeth, so don't go to these two people who are NOT helping you with your situation.