[Fallen]

i've always been the one people turned to when they needed help. i am the one that could get them to see the bright side of whatever they are/were going through. only they all forgot i am going through some thing too but i guess it really doesn't matter.

i am suppose to have it all together and not freak out about something so stupid as not being able/allowed to sleep because of the two pets. The one isn't as bad as my roommate's bloodhound. This dog has me at my ropes end and because of the dog I set off a panic attack in my roommate because I lost it and screamed at the dog.

This do has ripped apart a door just so she could be in a specific room...mine. The bottom of the door has a thick piece of plywood on it. She also managed to break the door knob so the door doesn't latch right and after a few pawwing the door comes open. Living in PA has been cold in the winter but this year it is the worst. I'll be asleep maybe5 minutesif I am lucky and she decides she wants in so she opens the door and comes in and lays down on the couch making me get up to close the door. No sooner do I lay back down she is up opening the door to leave. the night before and last night she has done this. I lost it while I was trying to cook and the damn dog was under my feet. I grabbed her by the scruff and shoved her out of the room screaming which Iknow better to do because it sets off my roommates ptsd.

this is just adding to my already feeling worthlessness and i can't even seem to pretend to be happy for anyone anymore. I am having financial problems and no one is willing to help me. Welfare says that I would give my food away to my roommate and I can't get any cash assisance because of the amount my roommate makes in her retirement. Why they are including it in my stuff I don't know. My slap in the face amount of unemployment ended last week and I don't know how I am going to pay my half of the bills with is electric and the phone.

I need a car and any other time I would be able to find one for the amount I have but not this time around. I am frustrated, despeart to earn some cash in almost anyway...but I can't dothat. I know if I could just get some real rest it would help with the level of deprestion I amhaving.

fallen

Do you have crates for the dogs?

[turquoisesea]

Byzantine has a good point. I have had some problems with my boyfriends cats - they chew on chords in order to wake you up, scratch on things they shouldnt - anything to get you out of bed. Of course I snap all the time.
Current solution: they can't get into the bedroom (we used to live in a studio apartment)... we also have crates and that used to help some as well.

You need sleep, and the dog needs to be ok too.
Can you talk to your room mate about possible solutions? It's important you talk about it sooner rather than later - the longer you wait the more angry you will get.

[Pomegranate]

Getting a good night's sleep is very important. Especially if you have a lot of stress going on in your life.

A crate for the dog is a good idea.

Talking with your room mate is a very good idea also. You should impress upon her that it is HER responsibility to take care of her dog. Let her know exactly what the dog is doing that bothers you - it should be HER job to keep it out of your space, out from under your feet and what ever else you need.

Try not to take your frustration out on the poor dog. It's not the dogs fault it has a thoughtless, selfish owner who won't take proper care of it and not take the time to train the dog.

I certainly do not understand either why any financial assistance you need would have to take into account your room mate's financial resources!

[BashfullOne]

Fallen, I'm sadden by your situation. I hope that by posting it has helped somewhat. I hope that your search for a car turns something up for you soon. Please try to find a pet carrier or crate for the dog and try not to take your frustration out on the pups. I know it's easier said than done... You might be able to find one at a ped shelter - and maybe even volunteering there could lead to a new career move for you in the pet field. Please keep posting. We do care about you...

[Junerain]

You do not need to pretend to be happy for anyone

You need to reach for happiness for YOURSELF you matter!!

Perhaps we can be your support group here at PC

We can be your happy juice

[Fallen]

Too all that have asked about the pet carrier/dog crate yes we have one for the good it does. This dog can open them too easily I mean this dog was at the vets overnight once and we told them they needed to paddlock her kennel, we got told she couldn't open the lock they arrived the next morning to her meeting them at the door and from the looks of the place had been out all night. Needless to say she has a large red note on her file for her kennel to be paddlocked. thankfully last night my room mate took care of the mutt and I got a blissful amount of sleep and surprise when I woke up unemployment has me on the next tier. So I have that back. Now if the snow would just go away it would help a lot. But it dumped like 4 ft while I was sleeping. Getting some sleep and even the small amount of money has helped bring my happiness level up a litte. Also being able to let my two fur kids (ferrets) out to play made me laugh which always helps.

Thank you all for your replies.

fallen

[Fallen]

Originally Posted by Pomegranate

Getting a good night's sleep is very important. Especially if you have a lot of stress going on in your life.

A crate for the dog is a good idea.

Talking with your room mate is a very good idea also. You should impress upon her that it is HER responsibility to take care of her dog. Let her know exactly what the dog is doing that bothers you - it should be HER job to keep it out of your space, out from under your feet and what ever else you need.

Try not to take your frustration out on the poor dog. It's not the dogs fault it has a thoughtless, selfish owner who won't take proper care of it and not take the time to train the dog.

I certainly do not understand either why any financial assistance you need would have to take into account your room mate's financial resources!

We have discussed it and usually she is capable of takeing care of the dog the problem is she has ptsd and has been having some really bad episodes latly which just makes the dog unable to deal with her is what I think part of the problem is. I also don't think my room mate realized just how big this dog was going to get. Before Trixie she had a basset hound and while he could be a pain in the butt he was easy to deal with.

I think part of the problem for us all is being cooped up in the house critters included. All this snow keeps us from letting the dog out to get rid of her energy and when my SAD is bad everything gets on my nerves I think I just got over loaded and lost it but I think I should be able to loose it once in a while. Again thanks all for listening to my rant last night.

fallen

I am happy you got some sleep and had a better day.