[HJGS]

Hey everyone!

Thought I would write something in here since I haven't been writing much lately anywhere.

I almost made it into treatment....sadly the day before day treatment started my life fell to hell....

I got into a fight with my boyfriend and left him. It was over something stupid like my phone. I can't remember everything that was said, but we both said some pretty nasty things.

I walked out, and lost everything....I had no money, no job, no home, and just the clothes on my back.

I went back the next day, and was able to only get a few items of clothing and a box of music and CDs.

He is now keeping everything....including my bike, my computer, my furniture (a bookshelf and a desk), my books, my cat, and a few other things.

The worst thing is that apparently I owe him for early termination fees on 2 phones, 1/2 the credit card debt, and my child support.

It was his idea to have me take a LOA, and I don't agree with 1/2 the credit card debt as I supported him for almost 8 months as he piddle around with his business which fell flat on its face.

Needless to say, I didn't make it into the day treatment program because of this. When I was supposed to be in the program, I was out trying to get a place to live (thank you to my friends, who had an extra room and needed help with rent), get temporary funding so that I could start looking for work, get a job, and try to keep sane.

So needless to say, I have nothing...and tonight I'm hurting....I'm sad....I'm still trying to figure out what I did wrong.

I hope things get better......-sigh-

[amdx64]

i know most laws (even in canada i think) now require him to give your items back no matter what .. you might call the police and get your stuff. It doesnt matter if he thinks or you ow money.

Just remember your stronger then this .. you will make it and get treatment. I know you will im praying for you.

[jmo531]

(((((((((((((((((HJGS)))))))))))))))

[Ryen]

You should be able to go get your stuff, even if you were not married, you are legally entitled to your things, i would contact the police asap. i know here as long as it has been within 30 days it is still legally your house too and he cannot prevent you from taking your stuff out or keep it even if your name was not on the home it is your last legal residance so he can't keep you out without proof of legal fear for his safety.

I went through the same thing, my ex husband took everything i owned. i was left with no home no money and no stuff just a bag of clothes a bag of change and my car. he took everything.

i would talk to the police and civil court. they can rule to get your things bag and properly split debts so you are not stuck paying more than you actually owe.

i totally feel where you are at. i was there too. still working my way through it. ((((hugs))))

[Fuzzybear]

Sending you hugs and support, you are in my thoughts ((((((((((((((((((HJGS))))))))))))))))))

[(JD)]

Wrong? That is such a strong word. I think you can figure out things that you would do differently in the future? Yeah, living together is highly overrated, eh? I think you are doing plenty right now, getting your life back in order. I agree with the others. Get your stuff. Send him a letter, keep a copy, send it certified mail if you can, return receipt. Tell him you want your possessions (itemize them if you can) within ten days. Then, if he won't let you, call the law. If you find you can't do this. Then write it off. And him. If you can let it go, let it go. Sometimes we have to suffer for others' actions.

Take care of you. I hope you are able to get into day help. Did your T help you at all? TC!

[HJGS]

Thanks everyone.

I haven't had a chance to go and see a therapist....I've been way too busy...trying to get things back together.

I'm going to look into getting my stuff back on Monday.....the only problem is that there's a chance that I may not get my computer back because his name was on the invoice, even though I put all of my next two paychecks on his credit card.

I'll see...I'm going to go down to the family law building and see what I can dredge up, as well as down to the police station downtown to see what I can find out.

[cat_eye]

(((((((((((H)))))))))))))

I'm glad that you're taking care of yourself.

[Miss_A]

You did nothing wrong, your sad for a very good reason more likey should be angry. At least you got some stuff back. </font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font>
"More is less, love is blind!" - Kurt Cobain

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