[Miss_A]

I feel heart broken, I have paid to go on this skate boarding sessions out of school trip. Then she said that I was not well for going, but I told her I'm better than ever! Still she won't listen. So I was not going to give in or cry. I said ok. But now I'm getting my parents to complain. I need a e-hug from someone, if I'm well for that?

[Merlin]

I so sorry that you are being denied the opportunity to do something you were looking forward to just because you are depressed. I would think going would be more likely to help you than to hurt you, but unfortunately the people in charge don't always realize that. It's ok to cry if you feel you need to. I'm glad your willing to advocate for yourself (or get your parents to) it shows a lot of self respect and self empowerment, both of which are very valuable traits. I'm passing along that virtual hug (((((((Miss_A))))))) and hope you can find a way to be happy.

Laura

[cat_eye]

wow, that really isn't fair! your SCHOOL decided that you're not well? I'd be disappointed too.

((((((((((((miss_a)))))))))))))

[LMo]

Well, I might be unpopular for saying this, but you are getting what you deserve for missing as much school as you did. If you want to be included in the fun stuff, you have to deal with the responsible stuff. Hopefully next time you'll remember that when you don't want to deal with your responsibilities, because the consequences of being irresponsible only get worse when you're living on your own.

[ickydog2006]

Why did the school think you wern't well enough?

[Miss_A]

I dunno but I've been going back to school and a fresh new start been more active and learning. No more crying on my medication and still your not well. I'm feeling great about the fact I was going to go skate boarding with my friend and others. Until she slams down the punishment of your not well so now I feel like I deserve my life to have no fun at all. Well thats ok... because if she won't let me go then I'm happy with it!

[darkeyes]

I understand how badly you must feel, but schools, agencies, even places of employment, are afraid of the responsibilty, liabilities, and legal stuff, regarding the mental and/or physical state of a students, employees, etc. I know that doesn't make it right or wrong, but in a day of everyone sueing everyone, companies, schools, and other facilities don't want to take risks.
Example, if a person is suicidal, takes meds. other than prescribed by docs., or physically handicapped, many trips or outings, can't always support special needs, not being qualifed or even certified to care for people with special needs, this may be a reason why you were made not to be allowed to attend the trip. I am not taking their side but I'm explaining why this refusal was made.
If it is not too late, you can try to get a doctor's note stating you are physically/psychologically able to attend this trip, then they may reconsider, and allow you to go.
One thing, they should reimburse you for the fee you paid for this trip.
Now many schools do have some sort of set policies if a student has caused some problem, such as bad behaviour, not abiding by school policies, they most likely get the final say so. Not knowing what had happened for them to decide you cannot go, makes it hard to come to a valid idea.
By any chance did you have a run in with a teacher or staff? Did you miss a lot of school days? Was any reconciliation made? These are some issues that may have been a factor in denial of your attendance.
If there are no valid reasons, then I would suggest your parents take it up with the school and demand some explanation why the school decided you should not go.
Right now it is hard, but keep in mind there will be other trips, if not through school, through clubs,church group trips, and possible trips with your family.
I wish you some closure on this sad experience.

Take care,
DE

[Miss_A]

Why did I TRY to reach out to somebody and still back fired on me. Why couldn't I just still be here suffering in silence. Why do I make my actions so loud that sometimes even the best hearers can't hear a sound of it. I just don't understand. With quick react all could seem so hopeless. You proberly dunno what I'm on about so whatever nevermind. Just I really want to go its a chance to skate board with others. I'm not planning to do any thing stupid... I PROMISE!

[Myzen]

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You proberly dunno what I'm on about so whatever nevermind. Just I really want to go its a chance to skate board with others.

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Hi Miss A,

I know exactly what you're on about, believe me.

This is the reason that we try to hide our illnesses, because we get treated like outsiders as soon as we admit to them. It's c*** in my opinion. Setting you apart is guaranteed to upset you even more and it makes me furious that this is happening to you. It's a stigma and we don't need it.

Keep fighting, you're doing OK.

Cheers, e

[(JD)]

[quoe]For the love of Jimminy Cricket General Miss_A 06/15/05 03:49 pm
I CAN'T GO INTO SCHOOL TOMORROW THE LAST DAY OK BUT ANYTHING BUT TOMORROW!!! (panic button)

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When did school get back in session? Or was it just you qutting? I'm confused, again.

What did your T say? I hope your meds will soon help you to fit in, not only at school but at psychcentral also. (((hugs))))))

[kimmydawn]

(((((((((((((miss a)))))))))))))))))) i find that horrible! it's discrimination to me, and it's apalling. i hope your parents have the fit of all fits. oh, that just makes me so angry for you! let us know, k?

kd

[darkeyes]

I didn't say you were planning to do anything stupid, I just was telling you some reasons a school may have been in question, and the legal things they fear.
I don't understand you nor why you got all uppity with my reply??
I wasn't going against you, just wanted you to know there may have been various reasons for what happened to you, thats all.
Why post publicly if you do not want to hear others reply?
You make posts, asks questions but seem you only want to hear what you want people to say, geesh
I have seen so many members try to reach out to you, support you, be honest with you and you turn your back on them or get all snippy, I do not understand what it is that you are looking for.
Perhaps, when you grow up you will come to realize everyone is not against you, nor is life.
If you wish to be amongst adults as you have stated in the past, then you need to try to act like one or seek a website more appropriate for your age group.
Best wishes to you and your future, it really can be a good one.

DE

[SeptemberMorn]

I agree with you, Lee Ann. The same things are obvious to me. Wouldn't it be nice, though, if we could all get on the same page??

i've so wanted to say this.......Miss A, you threw a hissy fit about not wanting to go to a teen forum. all of this shows exactly why you shouldn't be here. we reach out..you lash out. we try to point things out to you, we're way more experienced in life, and if it isn't what you want to hear, you whine . i still think you should create your own website/support forum and then you can just hear what you want to hear.

i, for one, think you're a $%#&amp;* and i'm not replying to anything else that you post.

[ickydog2006]

I'm not sure what to say. Part of me says that it sounds like you have been having issues at school and I can totally understand them not wanting to let you go. I think darkeyes made some very good points that also helped me understand lot. I do know how you feel though that you finally get up the courage to get help and all it does is seem to backfire and give you more problems. I'm going through that same situation as well. I don't know you very well, but you have become snippity with me too, and I really didn't appreciate it. I don't know or talk to you enough to completely agree with fayerody, but in this circumstance you are making it look like teens don't deserve to be here. I try really hard to argue against this because I am a teen, and this place gives me somewhere I can chat with considerate people, get advice from people I respect and look up to, and learn a lot about the things I suffer from. But in this case you are proving a valid point against having teens on here and it is really hard to see that happening. I would like to take this opportunity to say though that I think the positives way outweigh the negatives of having teens here. Good Luck.

[Myzen]

Hi folks,

I'm just remembering those teenage years again.

There is a line from a track by 'The Animals' - 'Please don't let me be misunderstood'.

I can remember all those hormones kicking in just at the same time as the panic disorder - Woosh! It was like being on another planet.

Spooky,

Cheers, M