Serious issues

Once again, I have not been able to come up with 3000.00 for my house taxes....my house goes up for auction on september 1st. Im afraid Ive just lost everything that meant anything to me. Im beyond depressed and holding it all in - my husband is being a saint. Dont want to upset him.

Im probably not coming back to pc. I just want to thank all of you for your help over the past couple of years.

I am a failure. And theres nothing anybody can do about it.

Thanks again,

Cthomas

(((( hugs ))))

I don't know what to say. I can't get a house right now and don't know if I ever will, and I'm unwanted where I am, so I kind of understand. I hope something works out for the better for you. If you can't get back to PC, you will be missed.

((((((( Cthomas! )))))))
Whatever a "failure" is, you're not a failure here.

((((((( Rapunzel! )))))))
Here, you're wanted.

((Cthomas)) - you're not a failure even if you lose your house. Have you exhausted all hopes of getting help with this financial crisis? I hope you can hang onto your computer - you need the moral support. Many people have lost/are losing their houses. You're in my prayers.

Hugs for you to ((Rapunzel)) and throwing one in for ((Rohag)) who is such a kind supporter to members here.

Dear cthomas, I am sorry that you are losing your house, but you are hardly a failure. Few people could come up with an extra $3000 a year. $3000? That must be quite a house! Take the money from the auction and rent a nice apartment. No more yard work or responsibilities like replacing the water heater and broken plumbing. There are at least 2 ways of looking at anything. One of my most serious issues is that I have a house, having lived in apts. up until 3 years ago. The pecan trees and household repairs are a constant source of expense and aggravation - not to mention the taxes! Apartments are great! Let someone else have the hard stuff to do! billieJ If you live in Texas, maybe I could sell you MY house!!

Keeping you in my thoughts... with your signature in mind.

Sorry you are going through such a hard time - but please don't think you're a failure. You can keep going. You will keep going. Here's wishing you a better day tomorrow.

Thanks all of you...echoes, rapunzel, rohag, billie, bugsy, lynnp,

Thanks for your replies. But as much as I would like to be around in general, I dont think I can start over AGAIN....Im just done struggling. I feel like most of my life has been a struggle as Im sure everybodys is...

Thing is....I just think my husband deserves better than hes getting. I dont feel im helping this situation. and Im falling deeper down right now. It has taken a lot for me to even show up for work.

I worked for this house.....in a bad way. it was my parents house and my brother was always "there". My parents made me feel insignificant here. but with my husband it became a home after they died. So the good memories that replaced the bad are now taken away. where does that leave me.

I have nothing......

Many are in the same position of not having the money for taxes. Can you get the house reappraised to lower the taxes?....know the values have gone down so low that they aren't what they used to be & with lover value, owe less taxes.

Going through that actually between the house we own in California where my husband lives & only have the money to pay taxes on my farm. He can't come up with the tax money for that house, so will probably loose it. It isn't worth what the loan is for, so can't really sell it for anything either.

We can't blame ourselves for what the economy has done to everything & everyone.....please don't blame yourself for the horrible place the economy has taken us into.

Hope you can sort through your values & get a better understanding & perspective of the reality surrounding your situation.

You are NOT A FAILURE......crap happens & sometimes it seems to keep happening to us, but the tide will turn, one just has to hang on until it does.....IT WILL CHANGE.

cthomas, I hate to see you pigeon hole yourself because the taxes weren't paid. You've worked hard over the years and the house will continue to have many memories, both good and bad. But, you're not a failure! Maybe the economy is a failure, maybe the job market is a failure...but you're not.

There are things outside our control that no one can do diddly about. Even when we can do something, it doesn't make one a failure. Just keep doing the next right thing. Weighing out the priorities and just doing what you have to do. It doesn't have to be pretty...stand tall lady! You will make it through this!

YOU ARE NOT A FAILURE AND PLEASE DON'T GIVE UP! I was in your position not long ago. I don't mean to scare you, but I lost my house and now I am homeless. I lost everything, sold all the furniture and appliances, but if you have a laptop with built in wireless, keep it! It will be your lifeline. I am sitting in a McDonald's, they have free wi-fi. You can find other hot spots like starbucks, hospitals, some banks. You sometimes can sit in the parking lots of these places and pick up their signal. Libraries are a good place to go. Please don't give up, I was absolutely suicidal when I lost my house, but I found agencies in my county that can help me. I started with my Community Mental Health dept and went from there. Now I'm in the process of obtaining housing and probably will have a place by Nov. Don't give up, persevere, we want you to stay here at PC! I'm here if you need some advice on getting services to help you, I did it, so can you, I'm praying for you. Good luck!