Been called a waste of space!

I hate myself. I had a friend, or thought I did. We drifted apart after I confessed having romantic feelings for her months ago as she just stopped getting in touch. She said I should have known better and since then I've had to give her space.

Eventually I reconnected with her on Facebook to try to see if she wanted to be friends ago, tried to apologise for upsetting her, ended up giving a long apology and saying how I was worried if I'd upset her. She said she never really considered me a friend anyway, found me too much hassle to deal with and told me she didn't care, didn't want to deal with me, then she blocked me on Facebook, stopped talking to me altogethor.

That was a while ago, and today I found out she's been talking about me to her friends, complaining about me, telling people I'm a waste of space and saying she regets ever having been nice to me in the first place. I already hate myself and have horably low self-esteem, I always have. And now she's been saying I'm a waste of space and I think so highly of her, she's so popular and well-liked.

I'm obviously a burden on her. I fear I might be a burden on any woman. As I've never had a woman be attracted to me and I'm in my late 20s I can't deal with these feelings of being so unwanted and considered so worthless.

(((((ForeverAloneGuy)))))

I imagine it must hurt to be rejected. A lot. Seems to me though that this girl is not worth your time, if she is willing to talk about you behind your back. You don't need that immaturity in your life.

Just because you are single does not make you worthless. Don't attach your self-worth on your relationships with others. You are an important person, whether you're married, divorced, single, dating, etc. We are all humans and all deserving of love and care.

Someone on facebook told me I should do the world a favour and kill myself and that hurt. You're not worthless. I'm sorry about what you're going through.

I feel so not only unloved, but unlovable.

It sounds like she's really got her own set of issues if she's that mean to you. I mean I can understand someone saying hurtful things to someone if they are mad or upset with them... but to talk down to you in the ways that she did I honestly don't think you need to waste time thinking so highly of her.

I can't think highly of anyone who can bully or belittle another person in the ways that you described... it's obvious you care about her and value your friendship that you once had but you need to not put up with the emotional beating she is giving you.

You aren't a waste of space and remaining in contact with her is going to continue hurting yourse self-esteem... maybe you should just take a break and try not talking to her for a while and hopefully she'll get over whatever issues she has and apologize to you for how she has acted, but until then I'd recommend keeping my distance. Take care and good luck with your situation

When she seemed upset I asked if she'd like some space (hoping I've give her a bit of time ot get over the shock of me having fealings for her) and she said "yes thankyou" and didn't talk to me, so I left her alone (and she was on holiday for a while and I hid a bit, and managed to avoid her), before getting back in touch about a month and a half later and she'd decided to forget about me, to "drop me" as she said.

I can't completly avoid her, we shae a lot of interests and common friends. I actually tried to shut myself off from all of that about 2 weeks ago until I was able to breifly pull out of the depression I was in, and went back to the things I enjoy.

She's so involved though, any of the charities or groups or meetups and things we go to, she volenteers for some job/role or other, and ends up with everyone there knowing and loving her. People seem to change their plans to accomodate her like she's the star of everything. The fact that somone who people seem to respons so positively to and seem to treat her as if she's so important considers me worthless, so unimportant, I feel like I care much more about what she thinks about me that what I think of me.

Please hold your head up and do what ever you enjoy doing. I agree with melissa previously when she talked about you should not base your self-worth on your relationships. Your are just as important as anybody else in the world. Your are one of a kind. When you avoid people and hide, somebody is really missing out on meeting you. I tell people that the best person on this earth you can rely on to love and take care of you, is you. When you do that, things will start changing for you. You can then open a door to good things and let them in. Head up ForeverAloneGuy, do cool things.

I really can't get over the feeling I'm a waste of space.

I can't believe any DECENT person would say someone else is a "waste of space." Maybe these other folks don't see the side of her you saw. Or she gives them something they need somehow.....

I agree with the other folks. No one deserves to be treated the way she has treated you. I can understand how you would take that to heart, but I agree that you must realize that she does have a problem.

Are you in therapy? I ask because I'm a firm believer in it, and I think it would help you to feel better about yourself, treat yourself better, and ultimately attract healthier, more decent people into your life.

You might have to be in some of the same circles with her, but you can try to keep your contact at a minimum and seek other good places for companionship. I suspect you might have been abused in some way as a child (as many of us were), and so it's easy to accept other people's negativity about you and fit that into your low opinion of yourself.

I just finished reading a book on this type of subject, so my thoughts are related to that. (My self-esteem isn't as good as it needs to be, so I'm trying to work on it.)

I'm distressed that you are having to deal with this issue. Life is tough enough as it is. But I do think you can have much hope that the future can certainly be better!

Hey Forever,

Dusty nailed it on the head. She obviously has her own issues. I can't imagine someone saying the the things she did to you because you told her how you feel about her. It is just well "ODD".

I know that what she said hurts but do not believe it! She is the one with the problem not you. As for you being in you're late 20's, it took me to the age of 33 to find my partner. I used to think what is wrong with me, why can't I find somene to love. Sometimes you have to wade through a lot of **** before you meet someone.

I just never gave up even though I wanted too.

As for being in the same circle with interests, it is going to be hard to face her. But do not give up on the things you enjoy doing, that will only make you feel worse. She was way out of bounds and you can rise above it, give yourself sometime.

Know that you are not alone and that there are people who can support and help you along the way.

When I initially told her I liked her, she didn't say anything mean, just started to act "cold" and drift away, it wasn't until I brought up the subject to see how she feels that she said I should have known better, and then months later when I brought it up again trying to apologise that she said these other mean things and blocked me.

Yes, I'm in therapy now. It's the 4th time now. Although the first 3 times I never mentioned my problem about women and feeling alone, and also they were before I met this particular woman. This time I've been talking about her a lot and I have another therapy session tomorrow. I hope I can forget about this.

I saw her a couple of days ago and we didn't talk, I imagined her thinking "oh no not him", and I was just thinking how pretty she is and trying not to look at her or act weird. Over the last few months, she's probably never even thought about me except on the couple of occations I've messaged her, but I'm thinking about her every day, and I feel pathetic, my life is revolving around someone who at worst hates me and at best just wants me out of the way.

That sucks. I agree with Payne, though, no mature, decent person is going to call someone a waste of space. Not someone to base your self worth upon. I'm sorry you're so hung up on someone so mean, though, that's gotta be tough to deal with.

back it off for a reason....

you have a bad discussion with yourself.......

I wonder if ...and that you don't hate you...but you hate that you hate you..

I suffer from the same thing...

I hate that I cannot perform to my expectations..

If I knew I would be this complicated as an adult

I would have not been born if thats possible...

but it's too late and now I am complicated to the max and living it every day like that

but it's ok matey...

you are not alone

it's ok

You could not possibly be a 'waste of space.' You have a purpose here on this earth, and whether or not you know that yet, posting your feelings is actually helpful to others who can relate to your feelings. There will be a time that you help another person more than you will ever know because of your prior experiences. They hurt, but they make you bigger and better, not smaller and lesser.

I don't have a purpose yet, I need to make it, but that's hard when I'm just sitting here thinking of myself so negatively. I always looked up to her as inspiring as she is making something of herself and I am not. Now she calls me a waste of space. She used to inspire me and now she makes me hate myself more than I already did.

I agree. NO ONE should ever say such a thing about another person.

I don't know, I think if I met someone who was a really horable, awful, mean, nasty, vile person, a low-life, moral-less, criminal who's mean to everyone and so on, I might be tempted to consider them a "waste of space". That's what I associate with that term, but I don't think I'm anything like that.

I do feel like I'm not a positive contributer like she is, I feel non-consiquential, invisable, would not be missed. I wouldn't use "waste of space" like this, but if she means it like this, it hurts because it backs up how I feal already.