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#51
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This is personal opinion, but I think that self-deviation can cause depression to worsen. This can apply to anyone, if you are one person at work, another at home, and another with peers it seems likely that you'll be less content with your life.
There are measures that are needed to protect yourself, of course, when you have what some here have referred to as a "social stigma". Depression doesn't make up your entire being and it doesn't define your existence. I think 'fake it till you make it' is better applied if you are shy and want to become an outgoing person. |
#52
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One of the reasons is I don't want to be rejected if I unload all my feelings on someone else or have my feelings dismissed/belittled.
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#53
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Actually, depression did make up my entire being and it did define my existence.
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For some...
The fear of rejection is greater than the pain of self-invalidation.
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Not that the point of this thread had anything to do with me, but ...
After 50 comments, I still resent being expected to fake feeling fine so that I don't make others uncomfortable. The only good reason for faking that anyone convinced me of was Venus's, which was to avoid giving someone ammunition to use against me. Now for that I'll fake it till the cows come home. Thanks, Venus.
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#56
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because sometimes its all we have. we tell other to try to convince ourselfs, not that it really works.
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TRIGGER FOR HATE MAIL
I have seen depression from both sides. Viewed from the outside: I don't mind people being sad, but their hopelessness is very hard to take. I expect depressives to have enough initiative to get medication and therapy. That may not be fair, but that's how I feel. An untreated depressive is a bottomless pit. I'm never going to fill it so why should I try? I'm prepared to make an effort for someone who
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faking it . faking to be happy . i do it. for me it is part of denile which i'm being told now feel my emotions. Own them. then let them pass. tis hard to do. i know i've lied to t on everything is ok. think she figured a few of those out. ppl in general yeah. i was brought up in a family to which you didn't share your issues or let alone to admit them. great advice yeah. i know it didn't work for my parents and it doesn't work for me Or my siblings. fake it to make it till you break basically for me
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As far as public interactions go, I feel that if I try to talk about my depression with my friends (who a lot of them are also troubled teens) they will say how self centered I am and that their lives are so much worse. Basically say I have no reason to be sad and I should get over it. I don't necessarily always wear the "happy face" though, only around the people I think would notice and disapprove.
If you're wondering why depressed people don't ask for the treatment they need, I can speak from that angle pretty well. I have no doubts I'm depressed in my own mind, but until the school psychologist (who I see regularly but can't diagnose me) reccomended that I might have depression, I thought they would yell at me or make me feel stupid and say why I don't. I'm also afraid of my parents finding out, because they have high expectations for me, I feel like I would disappoint them or make it feel like it's their fault. I also don't want my boyfriend (and best friend) to find out because I feel he would be uncomfortable with the fact that his girlfriend needs "treatment" or has "problems" because he comes from the stereotypical all-american home. Another big factor is that I don't want my family problems to come out in therapy, because I don't want my parents to be accused of abuse, or the story of my grandfather to come out that nobody knows about. I would prefer to keep all these things under wraps and just get the emotional help. So, I guess a lot of the reason I don't seek actual treatment is fear of now being "emotionally unstable".
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Last edited by TerryL; Dec 22, 2011 at 01:13 AM. |
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