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Feb 15, 2012, 01:29 PM
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So we have all heard the question to be or not to be... well here's my twist on it... TO talk to people or to not talk to people..... That is the question.....
I keep getting lectures from a lot of people about how this depression isn't my fault, and they blame it on the ultimate evil one, the devil.... I say otherwise.... What I say is, this is life, these illnesses happen, it's a chemical problem, but I keep getting told I"m wrong.... and by now, I hate being told this.... So the question is, do I actually talk when things go amiss, and the depressed thougths come....????? I started to talk when things are going wrong but, now, why should I? If I get lectured about the devil everytime, and she tells me that I can have that power out of my life... well guess what I've already tried that one... about 2 years ago... MDD is my trial, and it was given to me, because I can handle it, and I can help others to know more about it by becoming knowledgeable... But I feel as if I can't say that to her, that it just goes in one ear, and out the other... I'm just so tired of having to fight the thoughts, fight the depression so much that I can't live as well as I would like... I'm so alone in this, I can't turn to my family anymore, I have a friend I can talk to, but he doesn't talk back... I just dont' know what to do.... My docotr thinks that it would be good for me to go back to the hospital, but I can't do that, it would make things worse with my family, since I can't have my cell phone... I just don't know weither to talk to my family or not.... and that's the quesiton I ask... do I talk to those I love, and get lectures from them, or do I just handle things on my own.... that is the question? |
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Feb 15, 2012, 01:47 PM
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Puzzclar, are you concerned that if you handle things on your own your family will penalize you for not accepting their view of your illness?
From your description I fear your family's view of depression is bound up in their larger world view. I am aware of unfortunate situations where depressed individuals have been marginalized by their own families when they did not respond the way they were "supposed" to respond according to their family's views.
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Feb 15, 2012, 03:47 PM
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This sounds like a fundamental family on religious views to me. A family that is using
religion to twist the reality of what is going on with you. Talking to someone about something requires your discernment on who can answer your question without bias. Do you have access to therapy? I don't mean to knock your family members, but they are not wise in their interaction with you. There is an art in knowing "who" to approach on something this important for your well being. If at all possible contact a specialist. Chemical balance is one of the truths in mental health. Hugs, bj
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Feb 15, 2012, 04:08 PM
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Yes it is a religious issue... one that I really don't want to deal with... I am in therapy right now, but nothing seems to be working to get be back to where I have been (meaning happy).
My parents called me, and honestly I just don't want to deal with the drama inbetween my sister and me, and having them run in the middle... At this point in time, I've lived 6 years with depression, and have been on 20 different medications, and none of them seem to work.... I'm slowly giving up hope on medication, but I have been told by God that it's through medication and therapy that the right mix will come by, and I'll have some hope of having the depression lift.... The thing is, I don't know if my sister will listen to me. The only way to get to the mental hosptial, if need be, is to get physicaly hurt, or have some possible threat to my physical well being... it's not about my mental and emotional circumstance... So, if that's the place I feel like I need to be, then I have to hurt myself inorder to get there... sad right... and how is this going to help me, if I can't get get the professional help that I need.... I do have a pdoc and a T, but right now both of them are worried..... this is a never ending problem.... I am doing all I can, but what it seems like is, the fact that I may have to hurt myself, in order to get the help I deserve..... Does this sound wrong to anyone else??? It does to me.... Well got a test in like 20 minutes... and I have to have a clear mind to take the test... oh joy. |
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Feb 15, 2012, 07:17 PM
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The thing is, I don't know if my sister will listen to me. The only way to get to the mental hosptial, if need be, is to get physicaly hurt, or have some possible threat to my physical well being... it's not about my mental and emotional circumstance... So, if that's the place I feel like I need to be, then I have to hurt myself inorder to get there... sad right... and how is this going to help me, if I can't get get the professional help that I need.... I do have a pdoc and a T, but right now both of them are worried..... this is a never ending problem.... I am doing all I can, but what it seems like is, the fact that I may have to hurt myself, in order to get the help I deserve..... Does this sound wrong to anyone else??? It does to me.... Well got a test in like 20 minutes... and I have to have a clear mind to take the test... oh joy. _________ Both of your docs are worried? Is it because none of the meds work or is it another reason? YES, it sounds wrong that you would have to hurt yourself to get to psych help. It also seems wrong, and I say this as a Christian, that God told you to get on meds. My way of understanding this, is the psychiatrist does the diagnosing and not the patient. God did give us medical people to rely on. Hope you find help soon, you sound almost hysterical here. I'm sorry this is happening and it has to be pretty annoying when you are trying to keep your grades up and stuff. I hope you find relief soon. You must be outside the USA, because what I understand here, you can put yourself into a psych ward at your own bequest. hugs, bj
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Feb 16, 2012, 05:34 AM
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handle things on your own if possible
that is the only way I have learned people get better NOTHING will ever work on its own- meds only mask a problem or take the edge off not erase it, therapists only make you aware of the problem not fix it It is up to YOU to conquer these things yourself avoid the hospital...it only weakens your progress it only teaches your mind that you are too incapable, too weak, too dependent help yourself, you are worth it all the best |
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