[dcs_no1_fan]

Hi

I'm new 2 this site & just want 2 tell some one how I feel atm

my friends & family all say that they feel I have an E.D but I don't I started a diet 3 months ago I was feelin fat at 9st 13lb & a size 10 I have now got down 2 a size 8 & weigh 8st 8lb (& still feelin fat) they say i have a problem because of how much weight i have lost in such a short amount of time.

I don't eat very much. on a good day as they would put it i would have a small banana & a bit of a biscuit but after havin eat them i will feel realy sick all day & hate my self 4 havein eaten any thing at all everyone says that i will make my self ill & end up in hospital then how would i feel not cin my boys

I dont think that I have a problem im just still fat how can i get them 2 c that as well

sorry 2 go on but I have no-one else 2 say this 2 & they r always on at me.

Cat

cat, I think the answer can be found from your own words "i would have a small banana & a bit of a biscuit but after havin eat them i will feel realy sick all day & hate my self 4 havein eaten any thing at all"
I think that qualifies as a disorder.
What does your husband think? Does he make comments about your weight?
I bet he thinks you're just fine the way you are!
If you focus on the many good qualities about you and your life, you will come to find you mean a lot more to people than how much you weigh. Develop the real, inner "you" and the weight problem will go away.

[dcs_no1_fan]

My husband says he will love me no matter what size i am but he says that im 2 thin he only keeps goin on about me not eatin because he loves me but i cant help not wantin 2 eat even cookin dinner 4 him & r boys 2 night i was feelin sick now he wants me 2 eat & the thought of it makes me ill im not hungery so i dont want any food

[Rhapsody]

Ok - please clear this INFO up for me................. YOUR: Body Frame, Height, Pants Size, Age and current Weight.


LoVe,
Rhapsody -

[(JD)]

http://psychcentral.com/eatingquiz.htm Here's an onsite quick quiz to get you thinking.

I wonder why you would be doubting your doctor. TC!

[dcs_no1_fan]

Im 5ft 4in med frame size 8 im 28 yrs & i now weigh 8st 7lb

[dcs_no1_fan]

I wonder why you would be doubting your doctor. TC!

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I havent seen my dr but my husband wants me 2 go cause hes scared i will make my self ill but he cant understand how i feel & that i feel im still fat

[Rhapsody]

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Im 5ft 4in med frame size 8 im 28 yrs & i now weigh 8st 7lb

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Ok - can you please translate the weight to me in just pounds...... example: 115 lbs.

Thanks....
LoVe,
Rhapsody -

[dcs_no1_fan]

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Im 5ft 4in med frame size 8 im 28 yrs & i now weigh 8st 7lb

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thats 119lb

Ok - can you please translate the weight to me in just pounds...... example: 115 lbs.

Thanks....
LoVe,
Rhapsody -

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[Rhapsody]

Ok - so you are 5' 4" with a medium fame (size: 8) and you weigh 119 pound.... at age: 28

Hmm - well based upon what my doctor has told me I would say that you probably DO NOT need to loose any more weight.... for the range was 120 to 135 to be healthy for your body statistics.

If I may ask? - what exactly is it that you do not presently like about your body image? - hips, butt, thighs, tummy bulge etc.

BTW - - - - I am 5' 2" with a petite frame and I think I look best at 115 pounds.... no thighs then.


LoVe,
Rhapsody -

[dcs_no1_fan]

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Rhapsody said:
Ok - so you are 5' 4" with a medium fame (size: 8) and you weigh 119 pound.... at age: 28

Hmm - well based upon what my doctor has told me I would say that you probably DO NOT need to loose any more weight.... for the range was 120 to 135 to be healthy for your body statistics.

If I may ask? - what exactly is it that you do not presently like about your body image? - hips, butt, thighs, tummy bulge etc.

BTW - - - - I am 5' 2" with a petite frame and I think I look best at 115 pounds.... no thighs then.


LoVe,
Rhapsody -

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thats the thing there is nothing on my body that i do like all i c is fat so i want 2 get rid of it

[Rhapsody]

OK - but in all honesty............ can you even pinch an inch or less any where on your body?

Are there any areas that are bulging out or hanging over.................. Do people tell YOU that you are FAT or SKINNY?

What kind of MONSTER do YOU personally see in the MIRROIR? - what looks back at YOU.



LoVe,
Rhapsody - ((( hugs )))

[dcs_no1_fan]

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Rhapsody said:
OK - but in all honesty............ can you even pinch an inch or less any where on your body?

Are there any areas that are bulging out or hanging over.................. Do people tell YOU that you are FAT or SKINNY?

What kind of MONSTER do YOU personally see in the MIRROIR? - what looks back at YOU.



LoVe,
Rhapsody - ((( hugs )))

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yes I can pinch an inch on my body
every 1 tells me that im to skinny but i dont c that all i c is fat
i c a 20 stone plus monster lookin back at me if i look in the mirror so i dont if i can get away with it as i c is this fat thing in front of me

[Rhapsody]

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i c a 20 stone plus monster lookin back at me if i look in the mirror so i dont if i can get away with it as i c is this fat thing in front of me

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Have YOU ever heard of a disorder called BDD (Body Dysmorphic Disorder)?


LoVe,
Rhapsody - (((( hugs ))))

[dcs_no1_fan]

Have YOU ever heard of a disorder called BDD (Body Dysmorphic Disorder)?

No I havent heard of that I will have a look 2 c what it is

LoVe,
Rhapsody - (((( hugs ))))

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[dcs_no1_fan]

Hi every 1 I just thought that I would give u an update of whats bin goin on in my life over the last few wks since posting this

as I said i was losting weight at about 1lb a day cause I wasnt eating at all by the end my husband got really worried about me so even thou I didnt want 2 I started eating 4 him through doin this I put 4lb back on & since doing so I have hated my self so much I have started 2 cut down on what I eat again & have lost the 4lb that I put on so im feelin a bit better but still feel fat Paul has got a wk off work then he starts a day job when he goes back 2 work so I am gonna try water arobics 4 times a wk as I have a disablity with my back it is very hard 4 me do 2 normal exacises I just hope this helps me feel better about my self as I hate not likeing my body it makes me feel so sad all the time cause I feel fat every hr of the day that im a wake

[Rhapsody]

((((((( HUGS ))))))) ~ ~ ~ ~ ((((((( HUGS )))))))

Good to hear from you.... Did you ever read the book that I suggested for you to read or look up the disorder that the book was about online for more information?


LoVe,
Rhapsody -

[dcs_no1_fan]

Hi I have had a look sort of at what u said but not in gr8 detail yet I will do it soon its hard 2 do as it upsets my husband when I talk about how I feel so I try 2 do things like this when hes not about

[silver_queen]

Hey Cat,

Congrats on trying to eat again! If you'd continued not eating you'd have found your weight plateauing anyway. Trying water aerobics is a good idea but make sure you eat something light before going in the water - something like a yogurt or a slice of toast. You don't want to go fainting in the water and end up drowning yourself.

Silver

[dcs_no1_fan]

Thanks 4 the advice I will keep u up 2 date with how I go I have just got a bike as well 2 help I hope

[heartspace]

Hi Cat, just read through this. I'm wondering when these thoughts about your body started. Had something happened just before or around the same time as you started feeling this way? Certainly sounds like you have an ED to me imho and if that's the case it's better to catch it as early as possible Anyone who's had an ED will tell you it's not something they;'d wish on their worst enemy.
Best of luck to you.

[dcs_no1_fan]

I havent liked my body 4 yrs my sister told me that I was thick fat & ugly all the time that I was growing up when I had my oldest boy I said that I would lose a bit of weight as I was 10 1/2 st at the time but never did lose the weight & then I found out that Iwas pregnant again so i stayed the same weight so after him I lost over a stone & never really liked my body since havin him 5 1/2 yrs ago in april this yr i wanted 2 lose some weight as I was 9st 13lb & was gettin my wedding blessed (10yrs) & at 1st everything was ok 4 about 4 wks then I started eating less & less till i got down 2 nothing at all I have started eating again but because of this I have but back on a couple of lb & I hate it

[heartspace]

Hi cat, sorry it has taken a while to get back to you. It seems that your attitude towards your physical form and food have a very tangible basis, and not a good one. Your sister was very mean, as sisters often are (without meaning to be), and unfortunately their painful words can, like all things we hear repeatedly when we are children, stay with us. So your sister's cruel words have stayed with you, and when you started gaining weight (even though you were far from fat), you felt fat. At least, that's how it sounds to me. Does that sound like that might be what's going on?

[dcs_no1_fan]

<font color="red"> </font> Hi heartspace

my sister so im told all the time jelouse of me when i was little she was fat & ginger & was skinny & blonde. we never got on (still dont) I think she sort of knew what she was doin as shes 2 yrs older than me she carried it on till i was about 12 then i took matters in 2 my own hands as mum wouldnt help me as my sister has got older she has just kept puttin on weight she must b about 18-20 st now were as im 8st 5lb but because we look so much alike i feel like im look as big as her but i have only 1 friend IRL who nows how i feel as shes feels the same way about her self but shes not as bad <font color="red"> </font>

[(JD)]

Sounds to me that you have disordered eating... wouldn't you agree that your eating isn't "orderly and not a problem" but a constant worry for you? Why not read more in the eating disorder forum, and see how much alike you are of others with eating disorders? I think you can find help there, too TC