No wonder I spend so much time in World of Warcraft!!

With a 60 on the Depression Screen Test, it is no wonder why I spend so much time escaping to Azroth, playing as much World of Warcraft as I do.

Might also explain my 36 years of virginity.

(((Ripper)))
My husband is a big fan of war stuff as well, and I know how depressive or even agressive he can be at times.
Maybe going out into the real world is the scariest thing but at least you would find people that feels real and that you can't get it anywhere else.
Best of lucks!

Maybe you should try to go out into the real world and try somthing that you have never done before and see if you like it. But then again if it makes you happy to play games all day then go for it. Just have some fun!!

As do many other depressed people.... one addiction is as bad as the other.

Venture out side for an hour a day and ENJOY nature and the sun light..... the two can and will greatly lift ones spirit.

LoVe,
Rhapsody - ((( hugs )))

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The many yrs of virginity and staying inside is the symptom of the disease / disorder.... What are YOU actually trying to HIDE from?

Bla, bla, bla... go outside... bla, bla, bla... get a life. Heard it all before and it means NOTHING to me.

Don't you think if is was as simple as going out into the real world, dancing on the green grass with the butterflies and fairies, where I would meet the girl of me dreams and live happily every after... I would have DONE IT BY NOW!

Get a clue people... I am a dysfunctional 36 year old male virgin, who lives my life though computer games as I unable to deal with people in the real world. How the f&@$ do you expect me to magically turn into a Robbie Williams social god and mingle with girls on my arm, when I am incapable with all but basic face to face communication.

So stop with the abstract "warm and fuzzy" feel good BS and provide some concrete information that is applicable.

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The many yrs of virginity and staying inside is the symptom of the disease / disorder.... What are YOU actually trying to HIDE from?

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Well, where to begin...

#1 Fear of rejection.
#2 Fear of women, mostly born from my mother who was a BD mistress.
#3 Hatred of self, born from abuse in high school from peers.
#4 Bad self image. Big, fat, ugly... you name it.
#5 Hated of humanity, an defensive measure to deal with above issues.

So, I find it better to live in the virtual world. Where I can not be me, and I can control what happens around me.

Besides, what do you care whether I live or die? Get off about trying to be a hero or something, to compensate for your own shortcomings?

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Get a clue people... I am a dysfunctional 36 year old male virgin, who lives my life though computer games as I unable to deal with people in the real world. How the f&@$ do you expect me to magically turn into a Robbie Williams social god and mingle with girls on my arm, when I am incapable with all but basic face to face communication.


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I was not suggesting that YOU go face to face with other people when I said...... Venture out side for an hour a day and ENJOY nature and the sun light..... the two can and will greatly lift ones spirit.

I was just saying that being, going outside in the sunlight with the beauty of nature around you can and will help to lift your spirits (and) and when ones spirit is lifted then one might feel like doing some thing else that particular day.

LoVe,
Rhapsody - ((( hugs )))

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Well, where to begin...

#1 Fear of rejection.
#2 Fear of women, mostly born from my mother who was a BD mistress.
#3 Hatred of self, born from abuse in high school from peers.
#4 Bad self image. Big, fat, ugly... you name it.
#5 Hated of humanity, an defensive measure to deal with above issues.

So, I find it better to live in the virtual world. Where I can not be me, and I can control what happens around me.

Besides, what do you care whether I live or die? Get off about trying to be a hero or something, to compensate for your own shortcomings?

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Ok - I am backing OFF and will not try to give any more advice, because from my side of the fence it does not seem as though you are ready for the help or for straight forward help / caring heart of another person that does not know you personally in real life..... I am SORRY!!

Please take care and try to believe that many here on PC do indeed care for the other members for we too have been hurt, sacred and abused, therefore, we understand.

LoVe,
Rhapsody - ((( hugs )))

(((((((( ripperjack ))))))

that sucks dude, sorry to hear that

Let me slip into my super hero cape for just a minute and try and compensate for some of my own shortcomings....Since you've heard it all before, feel free to ignore it.

Good to see your fear of rejection shining through. Antagonizing people is a sure fire way to get rejection if that's what you're looking for. Maybe you could give some thought to just what it is you ARE looking for, then we can tell you what you want to hear. (This is where you say, "if I knew what I needed, I wouldn't be here.")

People can only say what works for them. Maybe it's helpful for you, maybe it isn't. And, it can be hard to say what's going to work if you haven't tried it. Maybe you've tried things and they haven't worked. OK. skip those. But, not doing anything about it will certainly not work - though you might at least get the satisfaction of being able to say it doesn't work and you are still miserable - which is, after all, saying something.

Concrete information that is applicable to one person may be the last thing that works for you. You might as well resign yourself to having to sift through lots of concrete information that you won't like that might not work for you. If you want a guaranteed magic bullet, you might want to check out some infomercials.

Continuing to do the same thing, though, is probably not going to result in the kind of changes you seem to be looking for. Maybe give some thought to what sorts of things you're willing to try changing in the hopes of seeing some results, whatever those results might be (do you know?). Maybe it's dancing with butterflies, maybe it's taking a pill, maybe it's finding a therapist, maybe it's surfing PC to reread all this stuff you've heard before.

And you might be surprised that there's more than one person on PC who really does care whether you live or die.

Sorry you're depressed. Things sound crappy. My piece of concrete advice (feel free to hurl it at my head) is <font color="red"> do something, anything </font>

(((real hug)))) I have never scored below an 83 on the depression scale here

I have been celebate since my divorce, many, many years ago. I find that, while it would be nice to be able to enjoy this experience, it isn't worth worrying about for the time being... however long that will be. There is much more to find in life than that. Once you begin to work on yourself otherwise, this will follow, imo.

Distraction is good. Depression is not good. Distracting yourself away from the reality of your depression is a good coping mechanism, but it does need to be controlled so it doesn't totally control your life. We all need to push ourselves to try and do things, even if we feel we are just going through the motions. Eventually, the motions aren't so bad.

TC.

(((((( furry hug ))))))

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Hummmmmm. Fuzzy.