Need Serious Help!

I suffer from depression/bipolar and so does my brother (and father, possibly my mother too). Anyway I thought I had it bad, but I saw my brother lose it an hour ago and I do not know how to deal with it. Today he found out he will lose his job in 3 weeks. He owns money on bills he can't pay, he is aways late on some. All he eats are ramon noodles (7 for $1) he does not clean up after himself, he does not even wash the dishes he uses. (he just uses them over and over without cleaning) he has a cat that is neglected. And Many more problems. When he got home he lost it and started yelling, screaming, getting violent, crying, and many suicide thoughts. What and how do I act with him, I love him, but I don't because he is a stranger to me. He has no friends, no famliy that cares. I care, but don't know how to act around him. I basically leave him alone and stay away from him. I'm lonely, but my brother is 100 times worse. What to do? I think he may be better off if he did die. Then I would have a reason to end it myself. Please help us!

Hi, I'm so sorry you are both suffering so. If he is having increasing difficulties like those you mentioned, it may be best to take him to the emergency dept. of your local hospital to be evaluated. Neither one of you need to die. There is help available, you just need to go get it and the emergency dept. is the perfect place. If he won't go with you, call your local police and they will be happy to take him to the hospital for you. Life can get so much better. Why suffer when you don't have to?
Take care,
Sandy

I am really sorry that you feel this way about your brother. Please just take care of yourself frist. You are the most important person in your life. No one can change that. You need to focus on you and what makes you happy! Once you have found that you truely love yourself then you can help others, but until then just focus on you! Please just take care!

Hun.. hang in there.. I can imagine how difficult it is to look at the brother you love and once knew only to see a shell of that person.. a mere stranger....

I think all you can do is be there... loving him.. let him know that you love him...

I believe everyone has a purpose on this earth and one day both of you will know what that is.. both of you will have some control over this illness...just stay strong...

Thinking of you... Faith

I am worried about you. Do you have anyone to talk to about these problems? Like a T or a family doc? This situation is very serious and you and your brother need help.
Please don't think your brother would be better off if he died. Death is so forever. He just needs help.
Also, you don't want your parents to go through that total sadness if you both were gone. It may just take it over the top for them both.
I hope you can find someone to talk to and get yourself well and then, you can help your brother.
Please keep posting to let us know how you and your brother are doing. I care.
Linda

Update...

I don't know about my brother but today was a great day for me. I got Seinfeld Season 7 (one of the best things in my life is Seinfeld) and I seen many planes flying around while I was working. Just wish I was flying in it!

my heart goes to You and Your brother, know that i am thinking about you and sending much love and positive thought !
ToMMY

Thanks everyone. It is of some comfort. However today, while at work, I heard a lot of employees that I work with talking about me. Telling each other I don't work, stand around, and other things that are not true. Saying I'm dumb because I can't find a job in my field. It really made me mad; I know I do more work than some of those stupid people! I didn't say anything to them, but I will not speak or be as nice to them as I did now that I know the way they feel about me. I thought a few of them where my friends, that is a joke, I have no friends now! They are doing all these bad things to me for some reason, but don't know why. Is it me, is what they say true? Or are they just mean, jealous, immature people? It makes me feel like I’m back in school; I always got picked on, mad fun of, and talked about. I hate most people, those that pass judgment and hate someone just because someone is different!

You are very wise. Yes, these people are all that. They are mean, jealous, and immature. Good for you for realizing that.
I am sending many warm and gentle hugs your way.
Take care,
Linda

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Thanks for all the hugs and support. I've been ignoring those people that dislike me, however within the last hour, I hit a roadblock. I feel helpless and can't get out. I need another job, but I don't know how to get one. I've applied to places had some meetings and it ends. Even had headhunters try to help. No one wants me, I don't know why. No one gives me the chance. Whenever I'm on the computer, I just sit here and stay at the screen, because I don't know what to do. Why can't something good happen to me once in my crappy life, before it's over.