Im dont know why all of the bad things happen to me

So as time goes by since the first thread i wrote here about how bad i hate my life and what has happen that makes me join in here and wrote my first thread.. Im trying to heal my pain, forget what hurts me and move on.

Its been exactly 2 weeks since she dump me and i try move on step by step on every each of days, as im getting better and better in my atempt to forget her and the pain, today "Line" chat application making an auto add friends that causing me and her be friends there..

I tought at first that she add me ( Before i figure it out that it was the auto add features ) so i aproach her to ask about it.. bla bla bla.. shes cursing me and making it all sounds im the one who make her hurts and suffer and so she blocked me again after alot of blaming, cursing and hurting atempt.

So here i am, back at the begining of how i feel 2 weeks ago.. this is not the first time it happens to me and this is not the only case ( its not always about relationship problems ) that i always got hit back down when im trying to get up and getting better.

I trully hate my life more and more as time goes by, im 30 years old now and oh how i wish i dont have to live this life for another year again

Hi Van,

Sorry you're having a rough time. Don't give up because of this setback. Keep doing what is necessary to heal. Apart from your own efforts, have you done any therapy recently? Sometimes this is needed to put things in perspective; so we can cope better with disappointments.

There is none free therapist service in here and also if i gotta pay its too expensive.. and i cant afford it at the moment, but im trying my best to get any help as i could from anywhere.. its just im not really sure how long i can deal with this

I understand. Therapy can be expensive. There are many forums and plenty information at psych central to help you get through this rough time. I wish you the best. We are here for you.

Thanks, thats why im here.. to find some advice, strength and also learn from people who have been in worst moment than mine and survive or even better, be happier now. She has contact me again all of sudden today, saying she miss me but in the end she just yell at me and left again, i feel kinda confused and lonely now.. why cant she just left for good if thats what she really want

Totally understand. Going through the same myself. I'm treading it as if I am an addict. I know keeping in touch with this person only hurts me and yet I go back to him again. I can't understand why he doesn't care about me knowing that I'm homeless and unemployed but I keep staying in denial thinking that he is under a trance that is not making him see clear what he is doing. Making excuses for him when deep down I know the truth. The reason why I see it as an addiction is because like any substance abuse. We know is bad for us but yet we still look for it. Because we don't know any better. We don't know that we deserve better. So I am taking it one day at a time. Just like in AAA. Hello my name is _______ and it has been 3 days since my last drink. As the days keep passing more we built ourselves up. So today. Hello my name is ______ and it has been 2 days since my last contact with my ex. I know is not a lot but every day counts. It holds me accountable. I had tried this for a few days. And I may give in at times and call. But is ok to have a set back. I just start back again when there will be a day that I don't feel the need to contact him no more. Hope this helps. Stay strong and remember you are important. You may not realize it now but one day you will. I keep telling this to myself as well. I understand you and you are not allow. Take care of yourself.

Today shes all of the sudden contact me on Line chat again ( she was blocking me already but seems like she open the block just for a moment cause shes blocking me again now ) said sorry for yelling and get mad at me, also told me how she miss me and cant stop crying ( i dont buy that shes crying for me at all ) i try to calm my self down and pretend that im ok and doing pretty good, so she starts to yell and blame me again then block me again. Now this makes me getting confused and angrier at this drama.. cause on one hand i want her back, the other hand i know that if i keep hoping that or even think bout that.. i will get hurts even more.

So thank you for sharing me your story and the method you are using, ive been using a similliar method but yours seems better and i will try that and hope it helps.

I know that hearing from her and telling you she misses you is all you want. Believe me that's all I pray for every day. I don't know the specific situation but think really hard before you allow yourself to be back with this person. One thing is to love somebody. And again I don't know if she does. And another thing is to miss somebody because they are lonely. And so you become a distraction until they find something better and you will be back to square 1 again. Built yourself up and find real love. Someone that will value you and love you. I know is easier said then done. I only wish that my ex would realize all his mistakes and want me back but deep down I know the truth. I know it won't hapend. Even if he did. So much has happened. So much I had to face alone. Just keep praying for strength and faith to keep going. For the two of us. Stay strong

That make sense, we used to be together every single day for more than 2 years and last time i check ( about 2 weeks ago ) i know she got more than 1 guy and she gets really close with this one guy.. but i guess they dont really be together everyday like we used to be, so she feels kinda lonely and thats why she said she miss me.

And you are right, if i do for real get back with her.. i might go back at my worst or even worst moment when she left me for someone else again.. and i dont want that.

Ill pray for us to have all the strength we need to face this, move on and have a happier life.

I pray for you both (Vantonius & Kindheart). For strength. I know how difficult it is. How I got over my ex?

1. Deleted his number (this worked because I didn't know his number out of my head)
2. Deleted all photographs
3. Deleted all emails and other messages
4. Came to terms with the fact that he may never realize how special I am

We weren't friends on any social networks, so that helped a great deal too.

When they contact you, try not to answer right away or at all. (They do it to us soooo, do it to them too It sends the message that you're not desperate to hear from them and have moved on with your life (doesn't matter if this is not true)

Try to keep this up for at least 2 weeks. It gets easier after that. Good luck!