[Chris05161967]

I am majorly depressed because, my fiance n' I have ended things ater, nearly 4.5yrs. together.

I know I shouldn't base my life on the existence of that relationship but, I am in so much emotional pain.

[Christina86]

You have every right to your pain right now. You really do, I can't even imagine how you're feeling right now.

Take it one day at a time.

Take care of yourself, you're important - you really are.

[wally]

This too will pass... OK?

[Chris05161967]

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You have every right to your pain right now. You really do, I can't even imagine how you're feeling right now.

Take it one day at a time.

Take care of yourself, you're important - you really are.

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I am trying very hard.

[(JD)]

(((Hugs)))) Many here understand this pain. Allow yourself to feel it, but don't allow it to take over your life. Try not to dwell upon it specifically...but let it "be"...

IMO when something like this happens we tend to tell ourselves all sorts of lies about it. I think that is the depression. We don't think straight. We can't seem to find any "good" answers.

These feelings can be handled. This might turn out to be good. Right now all you see and feel is a "finality" of it all.... and that might not be the real ending to the story... I know it's hard to have any hope right now... but keep on and work through this, and become a better person from it... and then take the future as it waits for you. TC

[Chris05161967]

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(((Hugs)))) Many here understand this pain. Allow yourself to feel it, but don't allow it to take over your life. Try not to dwell upon it specifically...but let it "be"...

IMO when something like this happens we tend to tell ourselves all sorts of lies about it. I think that is the depression. We don't think straight. We can't seem to find any "good" answers.

These feelings can be handled. This might turn out to be good. Right now all you see and feel is a "finality" of it all.... and that might not be the real ending to the story... I know it's hard to have any hope right now... but keep on and work through this, and become a better person from it... and then take the future as it waits for you. TC

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Ok

I am just in so much pain.

[(JD)]

I know. And members who read here know. PC is here for you. Don't deny the pain, you've invested in this relationship and it hurts that, for now, it's gone.

I think we all had a "crush" or went "steady" with someone when we were very young... and when it ended it was devastating and our world "ended" for a bit... while the experience was difficult, it was necessary to help us with finding out who we are and what we needed in life... but it wasn't the final relationship like we expected...

Hang in there.

feeling the pain means that you're functioning okay.........write a lot........fill pages with the hurt.........that always helps me.

i gotta go to work. talk to you later.......pat

((chris)) Its hard I know. Take care!

[Soidhonia]

Hello I hope things get better for you soon. It takes time to heal from being in a relationship, and it is okay to fel the pain. Pain is not weakness it is humanity, and needs to be an issue that is addressed when necesssary. I hope you feel better soon. Take care Soidhonia

[Boopers]

Chris,
I'm sorry you are in so much pain. It just one of the processes you have to go through when something like this happens.
Don't be surprised if you also go through a time of anger. It's all a natural process.
I know you are hurting and it's ok to feel the way you do.
The best thing you can do is stay busy. If you keep your mind busy, then you tend not to focus so much on the breakup.
I wish you all the best!!
Hugs,
Linda