Lost

I have lost my direction in life. I feel like Iam going through life with out ever living it. Before my eyes my friends are getting married, having kids, getting a job. Here Iam still at college without a job, or relationship. Iam just existing, I want to be more than what Iam, I just don't know how. It seems everyone else has a direction, they know where they are going, and how to do it. I can barley get up in the morning and make it to school. I just take one hour or minute at a time. Iam at a loss for what Gods purpose is for me, and why he put me on this earth. I just want to find the right path, whatever that may be. Thanks for listening.

sounds like depression..........have you talked to a doctor....preferably a psychiatrist? i'd go that route and see how that works for you.........good luck, pat

Hi Daisy,
Wow, hon, this could have been written by my 21 year old college daughter!


First of all, as a daughter of God, you know He will always be there with you.....

I wrote this for my 21 year old daughter who seems to be going through a tough time in her young life. Often, I am at a loss for words but when I am still and quiet, I can hear His whispers to me....... psssssst, Patti....... try this........
:-)

In Psalm 42:1-2 King David cried out, "As the deer pants for streams of water, so my soul pants for you, O God. My soul thirsts for God, for the living God. When can I go and meet with God?"

A hunger for God; an overwhelming desire to please Him; an anticipation to meet with Him; a thirst to drink from His Word -- are these things that occupy our minds? Or do they get squeezed out by the busyness of life?

Is hungering for God important? Well, if He is our very life, and apart from Him we can do nothing, and without Him we will not see success, and in Him alone we find joy, hope, love, peace and purpose, then we might want to make an appetite for God a top priority.

Why is it so difficult to maintain such a hunger for God?

The most deadly appetites are not for the poison of evil, but for the simple pleasures of earth. For when these replace an appetite for God Himself, the idolatry is scarcely recognizable, and almost incurable... These are gifts from God. They are your basic meat and potatoes and coffee and gardening and reading and decorating and traveling and investing and TV-watching and internet-surfing and shopping and exercising and collecting and talking. And all of them can become deadly substitutes for God.

God's desire is that we enjoy Him so that our needs will be met. He loves to reward us as we find our joy in Him. Is something or someone else replacing God's place in your affections? Does something else occupy your mind and energy day by day? Even the best of things in life can give you and me a false sense of fulfillment. Ultimately only God can satisfy. We were created by Him -- to honor Him, to serve Him, and to find our life in Him alone.

Hi Daisy,

I agree with Pat. It sounds like you have depression and you should get help as soon as possible because if you don't, it will continue to get worse.
I have suffered with severe depression for 38 years and am on two different anti-depressants.
It may take a while to figure out which works the best for you, but when you do, it's like a lifting from ones shoulders.
I wish you all the best.
Hugs,
Linda

Thanks for listening. I agree I am looking too much at the material things in life, and not the things that are most important, like the people I care about. sometimes I get so consumed in my own life, I forget to breathe. Iam seeking counseling for the comming semester, by Gods will I should be reaching the right path.

Daisy, I remember feeling that way at your age. My high school girlfriend and I graduated from the University of Maryland together and she got a good job, went to grad school and decided to get married so went out "looking" and found a wonderful husband, had kids, etc. and I just drifted along. Therapy and meeting my own husband helped me the most but now that I'm 56, looking back I see it didn't turn out quite how I felt it to be at the time. Twenty-twenty hindsight is easy but I find it also comforting. Everything came out all right even when it didn't look like it would. If I could tell my 20-30 year old self one thing and know she would believe/act on it (because I'd meet with her and she'd know I was her :-) it would be, "It will be all right" and think that would have helped me try new things and be more hopeful. The older I get the more I realize how important hope is to feeling good, and work at getting it anyway I can. I use my message now because I can look back and know that it is/will be all right so I try/risk more now and relax better. Life is more interesting and fun.

I know that feeling. I feel like I'm a bit on a see-saw - sometimes I'm ok and sometimes i feel like the ceiling will fall... I think we make our own purpose, and part of it is to look for tiny joys. I am seeing a very good psychologist who is really helping (and I've tried everything - meds, a psychiatrist and several other therapists) - counselling is wonderful... maybe your purpose right now is to finish school. I too am not married and most of my friends are - but who says we're racing anyone? what's the real timeline? I'm having a good day, so I can be all cheery about talking about the purpose of life -but of course, I know where you are - i go there myself (often too often). Ok, I'm babbling. Just trying to help! but i do understand

I agree with you. Why rush things, we all have our own pace in life. Sometimes it is hard to see that. Come to think of it, I like being single, one less thing to worry about. Thanks for listening. Its better to be yourself, than trying to be like everyone else. Sometimes I just wish I had more confidence in myself. I guess that is what life is about learning your strenghts and weakness and learning to cope with them through out your life.