having a heart...

This may make me sound "Narcissistic" - I don't really care. Those who judge will judge, those who understand me (or who try to understand me!) will love me and care...
Having a heart so big and a tendency to believe the best of people (sometimes against so much evidence...IRL). I've had more than my fair share of being used.... For years! And then thrown away and trampled on. A convenient waste disposal unit for someone's demons who won't own their own darkness. I can see this is what has happened to me .. IRL.. By step ***** and others but it doesn't take away the hurt. How not to offend the offenders (IRL) is a dilemma that I'm sick and tired of. And that includes doctors who don't give a ****! GRRRRR

Thanks to ALL here for making this a safe, non judgmental place

** HUGS ** to fuzzy.

Fuzzy - I have to believe that every person here (who knows you) - knows how great of a person you are. You are always, repeat always supportive. You have always been kind and caring.

Sorry that something has upset you. Please know that we all love you.

It doesn't make you sound narcissistic at all! You are always so caring and supportive here, and you deserve the same in return

What UM says!
No, it doesn't.

((((((( Fuzzybear! )))))))

Fuzzy, IRL I have also found trust to be hard to do anymore. I'm not sure what it is that makes people want to walk over others without caring who they hurt. I have a lot of trust issues, too and like you I try to be a nice person and care about others. Sometimes I get hurt, sometimes I don't but I refuse to let fear keep me from trying to trust.

Really can identify with that for sure! Many hugs and support .

Yes, I identify with that as well. It is somehow helpful to hear someone else voicing the same discontent and feeling of being fed up with people taking, taking, taking from and not giving back to or appreciating those of us who are supportive and caring.

I recently helped a friend by doing hours of work for her, then handed the project over for her to do the last bit. The 'thank you'? Asking if I could do even more, when she had clearly done nothing on her own project!

Sometimes I feel on the verge of giving up on helping, and certainly I give much less than in the past.

It hurts to give so much more than you receive, to give loaves of bread and receive crumbs in return.

I know how hard it is to look after number one without being "insensitive" to other people around me. Believe it or not, other people usually don't notice of what I think of as insenstive because they expect people to do what they would do (and put themselves first). So as long as you do your best by other people when you can, there is no harm in looking after your needs too. When there is a "taker" in your life you just have to make sure that they don't get wind that you are putting yourself first for a change, smile sweetly and let them think they have won but go ahead and be yourself when they're not looking. Above all, never, ever feel guilty for being yourself. No matter what c**p the difficult people throw at you, that is their problem not yours. You are a kind, sweet natured, big hearted bear who deserves happiness and hugs.

I have to confess something, there is someone who is using me for money lately. It is really terrible, because this person is essentially homeless, so my money is paying for rent. But, the thing is, I live with my parents because I can't even afford rent for myself, my own place, but I'm letting this person use me for their rent. I know I have to just stop, but I feel so bad for them, I don't want them to be out on the street and get killed maybe or something.

I'm sure Fuzzy won't mind me answering this post here.

Offer them all the practical support you can, are there charities that can help this person, is there any other aid available to them? However, you have done your bit, you can't give what you can't afford, so stop giving them money, they have no incentive to help themselves while you're taking care of their rent. Just be as helpful as you can, if they turn down the help and really do only want money from you, that would be an abuse of trust, don't let them do that to you.

Fuzzy,
What happens to you happens to many people irl. This is because we have been educated in certain way, to believe in certain things that are not totally true. For example, the idea that we can transform everything with love and that love cures everyone and everything. It doesn't. That if you give enough love to somebody that does not know how to love this person will finally love. But it does not work always like that. That if you are "good" you behave "well" always, you never speak badly about others or wish bad things to others. You are always working to keep doing good things but there are people that cannot care less. They only care about themselves, more or less. And, as I see the world evolving, the last group is augmenting every day. We are going nowhere with this egotism spreading but, the whole world cannot be on our shoulders while others just continue living carelessly. We need to find better people to be around and get some solace

Fuzzy you are the nicest and best person. You always offer love, kindness and support to me and others on this forum. I can't imagine why someone would mistreat you. I am like you in that I try to be kind to others and sometimes people just use, mistreat, and abuse. Remember we all love and care for you.

Hello, Fuzzybear. Much respect for the person you are.