Hey everyone, firstly I wonna say I'm sorry if this post will seem thrown together I've had a stomach virus since thursday so I have a lack of energy.

Most kids my age (17) are extremely outgoing, and adventourous. From what I see they enjoy it. When I go to call a friend I find 9 times out of 10 their gone(except for 1 friend). I also have friends who I speak to over Myspace, I find their reply being days before I recieve it, while me I sit checking every hour, and reply almost immediatly only to continue the cycle.

Its difficult for me or anyone with depression to WANT to go out, and at 17 (me atleast) I don't have my drivers license(dads to busy to take me to get them) and I have no job. I wonder an awful lot as to what I'm turning into....I'm so lonely, bored , and down that I find myself even on days I'm sick wanting someone to hold me.

So whats the trick? I've never been invited to go anywhere by friends, so I dunno how to get myself "out" their and if I did who knows how I'd react.
Thanks for reading

[bipolar_bear]

What type of interests do you have Moonkin? A lot of tmes people find friends with people of like interests. I believe that there are chess clubs, debate teams etc. if you are not into sports

It is hard to change how you react with other people and can be very uncomfortable. I really think it would help if you could stick with a t who can help you work through a lot of this. I know you feel they don't care. They aren't a friend but like a guide to help you through whatever you may want to change.

I wish you good luck and am sorry you are struggling so.

BB

[Wants2Fly]

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Most kids my age (17) are extremely outgoing, and adventourous. From what I see they enjoy it. When I go to call a friend I find 9 times out of 10 their gone(except for 1 friend). I also have friends who I speak to over Myspace, I find their reply being days before I recieve it, while me I sit checking every hour, and reply almost immediatly only to continue the cycle.

Its difficult for me or anyone with depression to WANT to go out, and at 17 (me atleast)

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I think you may be intepreting what you observe through the lens of your loneliness and depression. I'm not so convinced that all young people your age ARE so unselfconsciously easy with each other. I teach communication at a community college; I read many essays where young people self-analyze, and there are lots and lots of young folks more like you than you may think, Moonkin.

As well, perhaps all these folks whose responses you are waiting for on myspace are in their own depressions, and that's why they have trouble responding. Or perhaps their parents are monitoring their computer use, so they can't be online all the time. Or perhaps they are studying for exams at this time of the year. It's probably best not to jump to conclusions that cause you pain, when other equally reasonable interpretations are available.

Hugs and hugs.

[MissCharlotte]

((((Moonkin))))

First of all sorry you haven't been feeling well. One thing in your post that popped out at me was that you mentioned you don't have a job. I think a part time job might be just the thing to get you out into the world. It doesn't have to be anything that defines your interests or too demanding. Maybe at the mall near your house or a local deli or even a McDonalds where you will see lots of people. There you can practice social skills without the pressure of an expected personal outcome and observe other kids and how they interact with each other. Anyway, just a thought....
Take care.

[Direction]

Both suggestions are great...I'm sorry you feel the way you do...

[Soidhonia]

((((((((((MOONKIN))))))))))
I am glad to hear that you are trying to overcome the Virus. It is good to see you posting. I agree with the above advice perhaps getting a part time job for the Summer will help you meet new people. There may also be groups in your area to join as well. Karate is a good sport to join to make friends. When I was young I used to Skate and usually there were a lot of us that for to know each other at the rink. Take care and good day. Soidhonia