I hate when ppl don't mean what they say...

I don't often admit that I care when ppl will say "I'll be there for you." or "if you need to talk...I'll listen." ...or just that they even care.

Where are they?

and hey I can understand they have stuff going on cuz I sometimes tap out, but really what they say and what they mean ...2 very different things.

A bunch of crap really

Did you ask someone for help and they couldn't or to listen and they didn't? They can't mind read, they don't know you're struggling at the moment? Reach out and touch your favorite someone/friend and I bet they grab your hand right back :-)

{{{Eva}}}

eva there was a bit of banter in chat when you came in yesterday, hope that didn't upset you, sorry, like perna said, if you need support all you have to do is ask.

love, jinnyann xoxoxoxo

((( Eva )))

I understand. I have felt that way too. I just try to tell myself that the sentiment behind the offer was heartfelt and the truth.

no jinnyann ...sry I wasn't directing that towards chat yesterday.

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I'm sorry it made you feel bad, Eva. Can i ask a question to you guys who hate that because I also often tell people that but it seems no one ever takes me up on the offer. Is it that you just hate them offering? or that you hate them offering bacause you don't think they are sincere or that they wont listen.
Just wondering sorry.
*hugs*
ev

For me, I believe them and I don't "hate" it, it just makes me feel all alone. And it always seems that when I'm down and out, they never seem to be around.

It's not done on purpose and I'm quite sure it's "magnified" when it happens because of the frame of mind I'm in.

Sry if I made you guys upset or think I meant any of you guys specifically.

I meant that there are ppl in my life who know my "issues" and say that they will be there, but now that I'm doing terribly ... They are not.

Not at all.

I'm sorry if I upset anyone. I didn't mean to do that. I'm just upset myself.

esther ... I have a hard time talking. A lot of times I can't talk at the time someone will ask me even.

I think when you have ppl who care about you ... who truly are your friends ... if they see you kinda are all of a sudden isolating yourself or withdrawing from them...they would make effort to just ask how you're doing ... maybe general conversation?

Not everyone can always handle getting into heavy conversations and be supportive...and I don't really look for it cuz I'm not too comfortable. I look more for just conversation to just try to distract myself and feel better ... hopefully.

I know it's my responsibilty for myself...not anyone else's.

Sorry I'm rambling.

I am so sorry that you are feeling all alone.

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Yes, it really hurts. I wonder why people say that as well.

I'd rather someone not say anything than say they are your friend, they care, blah de blah & then not follow through. Could do without the additional hurt.

Anyway, I'm sorry you've experienced it as well. I don't know what to say except that I understand...

(((( Perna )))) (((( Petunia ))))) (((( jinnyann )))) ((((esther)))) (((( Lost ))))) ((((Wants))))) ((((Always)))))

Ty

yep

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Don't apologize, Eva. I just wanted to get more insight into what was going on. I'm so sorry. I feel the same way sometimes. Would you like to try to build a relationship with some people over time so that those resources are there when you need them? I'm not sure if that was what you were desribing. *Many hugs*

((((((( fuzzy ))))))) ~ (((( bear )))))

Yeah that'd would be nice.

IRL I can't really talk too freely about the way I feel without feeling bad or guilty. I'm not comfortable.

It feels safe here.

I think also I'm frustrated because I don't think my therapist is helping ... and I for the first time in over 10years don't want to go out driving, which is something I loved doing.

That effects me getting to group. it's like too much effort to go. I don't want to drive or go.

This hasn't happened to me in a very long time.

Eva I'm sorry you are feeling this way. I understand what you mean. It reminds me a bit of when my sister died a colleague phoned me to give me her condolences but was on a cell phone and didn't have much time to talk. I would rather that she didn't phone at all. I wanted to be able to talk a little bit about my sister.

Amie2

i can totally understand what you are saying here. but not all of us are insincere when we say it. i also know what its like to want/need help and be afraid to ask or to open up. and for those people that really love you and care about you it is just as frustrating for them when they want to help but dont know how. i also used to think that people close to me should just "know", but unless we ask, they usually don't. we are so clever with our masking the pain its not always so easy for others to see. reach out to someone.

recluse1