I feel so guilty

I have a friend... well a "work friend" who seems to find problems with things that don't necessairly pertain to her. Well, anyway, I know that she isn't happy with her life, and today she told me that on her lunch hours she really doesn't eat, she just sits and sulks for an hour. I feel bad because I feel like i just blew her off. I just said I do that too sometimes, which she didn't believe, probably because i meet up with my boyfreind a lot on my lunch hour. So i sad yes i do, life sucks. I kinda feel like i blew her off, that and i probably shouldn't have told her that life sucks, i mean i don't think she's sucidal or anything, but i don't know for sure. And besides, there are only parts about it that aren't the best. Well, anyway, i feel horrible cause i feel like someone is reaching out to me and i might as well of said get lost, when that isn't what i want at all.

Audrey, after you have thought this over, remember that if getting involved supporting a person will be too stressful for you or you are reluctant for any reason, it is perfectly OK for you to do what you need to do for yourself. There may be other things you can do such as suggesting other sources of help or introducing her to someone who may be able to be supportive if you think she is really in need.

If you do think that something more personal is appropriate and it is something you are willing to do, there's no reason you can't get past what might have been a "knee jerk" reaction to her earlier comment. Something as simple as asking her how she is, in a friendly manner, after another lunch break, to acknowledge that you heard and understood what she said earlier. And see where it goes from there.

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thanks for your input Dexter. yeah, i am actually am kinda reluntanct about getting too involved. I get along with her and everything and i really enjoy talking to her, and when i get upset about something, it is nice to know that someone else is upset about it as well, but at the same time, i would rather her be happy than upset all the time. Of course, that's not my call to make. But anyway, she just stresses me out so much after talking to her. I want to help her, but at the same time i feel like it would be hurting me, but I want to help her. Well, that is a good idea though. I have asked her if she had a good lunch once before and she told me in kind of a defensive way, but i really don't want to embarasses her. gosh i feel like such a flake, i don't know what i want, well i do, but i can't have both.