Pain. Real

I have lots of objective things to be upset about and that i struggle with, and at the same time, sometimes they all seem small things that nobody would be bothered about.

Sometimes the pain feels REAL, other times, when it all seems small stuff it feels like all that pain that i felt 10 mins before was fake.

how do you know if your pain is real and you're not faking/exaggerating it?

i have tried through SH, drinking, pills... i am taken care by the mental services and 2 therapists. i should believe i really am not well, but what if i was USING those things to show a pain that is not so real? to get attention maybe. sometimes i feel a fake. how do you know if it is REAL? thanks.

I go through periods like this. Sometimes I feel like I'm simply unravelling. Then there are other times when I feel like I'm just perfectly normal, which causes me to feel embarrassed by things I did or said during times when I felt I was unravelling. There have been times when I have looked at myself in the mirror & thought: "Why do you say those things about yourself... why do you do that? You're just a normal, everyday person." But then, at the same time, I can look back at my history & see all of the secret weirdness that supports the idea I never was "normal".

From my perspective, one's pain is one's pain. One doesn't have to justify it. There is no threshold below which one does not deserve to consider oneself to be in pain. The fact that you've felt the need to assuage your pain via self harm, drinking & pills is proof enough (if indeed you need proof) that your pain is real, regardless of the reasons for it.

I hear you, Sinking. I'm trying to be floating, maybe even a bit of a doggy paddle (to push the metaphor). Skeezyx - unraveling. Yeah I get that. Unraveled and tying the little frayed ends together.
You're not alone, Sinking. Keep posting.

Sometimes i just feel bored of living...

they diagnosed me with somatization disorder... said to me that its when the psychological stuff becomes so much that it begins to manifest itself as real physical symptoms...

i feel alot of pain too.. but sometimes i cant feel anything... its a see-saw that seems to be attempting to drive one completely mad

i feel much shame because i feel like i may be exaggerating things too, but if i was exaggerating then i wouldn't be so debilitated and would be able to "in secret" do things... but my secret is that "in secret" i bleed and cant do anything, worse than when im around others...

If you feel it, it's real. And everyone has their "buttons"--things that bother or hurt some people but maybe not others. I think it's best not to spend energy invalidating your pain and instead focus on understanding what's causing it.

sinking, I think this invalidation of your pain, this feeling like you're "faking it" is a very BPD thing. It's linked to splitting, I believe.

I do it all the time. I sometimes don't even feel like I "deserve" my diagnosis. I have a job and a boyfriend, I rarely cut, I never attempted suicide –– so why should I be borderline at all? Where is my pain, is it real, am I faking it? But deep inside I know I have much pain and that I'm struggling so hard. Everyone can see that.

If you feel pain, then you're in pain, you're not faking anything.

I do not know this would help you but sometimes underestimating or dismissing our own pain and other signs our health is not well is something we learn. My mom would often disregard my pain. Once when I was a kid a doctor was very upset with my mom because she did not pay attention to my complain about some pain I had. It was hernia and I had to have an emergency surgery. Don't think my mom changed much after such a experience. She did the same towards herself. I am not sure why she was that way.
I always have to make an effort not to underestimate my pain, take days off when needed, stop doing stuff and take care of my body