[Clara22]

Hi Friends,
Perhaps regrets make us sink into depression. I wish I had been more patient towards my mom when she was sick. Also, when my dad was terminally ill, once he tried to reach my hand but I could not take his hand, I think I was paralized by fear. These are useless regrets because I cannot go back and fix what I did wrong.
Also, I think that sometimes I blame other people regarding the past because I do not want to think about regrets I had, and my own responsibility. The worst thing would be to have to acknowledge that somehow people that criticize me are right, at least a bit.

What are your biggest regrets?

Hi Clara,

My biggest regret is quitting a job that I loved to run away to the westcoast where I could climb, hike, tent, and kayak to my heart'd content. It never panned out and I live in the circumstances I now do as a result. I was pretty manic back then and didn't realise that was what fueled such behaviour. But people DID question my choice(s). I regret I did not listen.

[bornunderabadsign]

Hiya Clara!

My biggest regret was not taking the initiative to take control of my own problems sooner. I was a brat. I asked for help but I don't think the people in my life were equipped to handle my issues or even knew how to put me in contact with people that did. I believe that had I done so I would be further along my life path instead of taking so many detours that I got lost.

My second biggest regret is much like your own. I wasn't there when I was needed but I did and do have the opportunity to set things right.

I think that regrets are a unescapable fact of life. All I can do is try to make it right and if I can't well then I will just have to learn to accept it.

[JustJace2u]

My biggest regret is not going to college sooner.

[MtnTime2896]

Being incapable of helping and rescuing the people closest to me. That no matter what I did, it was never enough and I just ended up getting hurt in the process to no avail.

I regret not protecting my little brother from the things that was happening to him. I should've noticed and I should've picked up on it. I should've known and I should've stopped it all from happening. I should've shot that little prick in the face before he ever had another chance to touch my little brother again.

I regret a lot of stupid things I've done and crimes I've committed in the past. I regret hurting people for no other reason than I was hurting. I regret letting those people get to me and not being the bigger person and walking away. I regret not being there for my uncle when he died and for not being there that night my friend died in August. If I would've just shown up, that accident would've never happened.

I have a lot of regret and I'm pretty sure I'd write a book before I was finished.

I'm sorry about your parents.

[Turtlesoup]

Mine is not going to see my maternal grandmother before she passed away. She raised me & we were incredibly close but after having a hip fracture my Mom basically made the decision that they needed to move into assisted living. She did ok first couple of years but then she became very angry about not being able to go home & continue to live her own life. When I would go see her she became increasingly focused on having me take her home (she didn't know her home & business had been sold) & that was all she would talk to me about. So the last year or so I stopped seeing her-I was also going through a lot during this time-bad marriage coming to a grisly end, working long hours & trying to keep a stable home life for my daughter. I am so sad now that I didn't continue seeing her & it truly is my biggest regret in life.

[a1anda2]

Being without a presence.

[Clara22]

Originally Posted by a1anda2

Being without a presence.

Is this something that can be changed?

[Unrigged64072835]

That I met and dated my ex-fiance. That ended up being 4 years of hell for both myself and my daughter. We both have issues now. They're starting to get better with this marriage, but there's still a long way to go.

[Clara22]

Originally Posted by Fharraige

That I met and dated my ex-fiance. That ended up being 4 years of hell for both myself and my daughter. We both have issues now. They're starting to get better with this marriage, but there's still a long way to go.

This is good because you are trying

[leejosepho]

Regret', noun
1. Grief; sorrow; pain of mind. We feel regret at the loss of friends, regret for our own misfortunes, or for the misfortunes of others.
2. Pain of conscience; remorse; as a passionate regret at sin.

Websters Dictionary 1828 - Webster's Dictionary 1828 - regret

I regret having failed so miserably as a husband and father, but my regret no longer drives me to drink myself to death in pursuit of relief.

[Clara22]

Seeing the definition of regret was very helpful to me. Thank you!
Thank you to all who shared your regrets, it means a lot to me
And thank you to all my friends in PC

mine is, I guess, not taking life seriously

before I was diagnosed with mental health issues, I had no thoughts about the future, no real goals in mind, etc.
of course, now I have my MI issues, and now I am getting older (slowly), I sort of need a distraction- something to focus on or something to work towards, but I have nothing.

because I can't think

because as charleen said in her 1982 single,

" i've never been to me"

my other regret I guess is not paying much attention in school.

sure a lot of it was taken up with hospital visits, and I moved schools a lot

but still, the bits of stability I had where I could have payed attention... I feel quite thick now, and I don't know a lot of stuff that I actually should

another thing is, saying no too many times when an oppotunity presents itself.

I say no, and don't give it a chance

I regret not taking my depression more seriously, but it was a mistake caused by the combination of my personality and ignorance. Like Shattered sanity, I sometimes haven't taken life as seriously as I should. I certainly am living with many of the consequences of not treating my MI but since I am not currently depressed (and I am extremely thankful for this), I have goals that I am working toward and I also try to do nice things/reach out to people. It's important to reach out, you never know when someone you love could leave you (either permanently or temporarily). Physically, I can't do what I used to so it is important to me to enjoy the activities I am still able to do. I agree with Clara, that when we constantly think about our past mistakes instead of the future, it makes us more depressed.

[Clara22]

I thought that taking one self too seriously was a mistake, although I have problems with my self esteem and I don't take care of myself

[Yellow Knight]

My biggest regret is gettting dismissed from my university. 3 and a half years later I'm starting to take classes again. There have been a lot of things Ive said in the past that I regret and in some cases I've apologized 10 years later. I'm making an effort to fix everything.

[Clara22]

Originally Posted by Yellow Knight

My biggest regret is gettting dismissed from my university. 3 and a half years later I'm starting to take classes again. There have been a lot of things Ive said in the past that I regret and in some cases I've apologized 10 years later. I'm making an effort to fix everything.

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