[Fuzzybear]

I think there’s more and more evidence that DBT can be of help with different disorders.

As I’m in the uk (and as I’m a bear ) the doctors aren’t interested in helping me.

I was wondering if people who have found anything helpful in DBT (or any therapies other than standard 3 to 6 session CBT) would add to this thread.

Thank you to all here who are still fighting, and still trying (which includes me although sometimes I don’t know why.. as every time I approach a doctor (irl) I’m ... not helped)

[Sunflower123]

I have no less then 4 books on DBT and went to a weekly class on it including a weekly workbook on working through depression and have let them gather dust despite repeated sources saying it’s helpful. The parts I do practice are mindfulness, radical acceptance, being non judgemental and wise mind.

I think DBT might really help you. I hope you get great answers. ((((Hugs))))

[TishaBuv]

I’ll try reading the DBT Workbook again.

I didn’t like it. Found it boring. Don’t think my thinking is faulty. It isn’t faulty.

The problem with my thinking is, I want people to do and be what I want them to do and be. Of course, they won’t. Then I get disappointed. It’s a control issue.

Then I turn it inward and cry and SH, ever so subtly, no one needs to know the truth any more.

Anyway— i’ll Try the book again, thanks Fuzzy.

I’m interested—anyone recommend a book?

I saw one for bipolar, one for anxiety.

I don’t know, I think anxiety is my biggest problem, but the pdoc said what I’m really complaining about is depression.

Maybe I shouldn’t get a targeted to symptoms book.

[Carmina]

Originally Posted by Jennifer 1967

The parts I do practice are mindfulness, radical acceptance, being non judgemental and wise mind.

Which of course are drawn from many other approaches. DBT seems a bit of a pick and mix approach really.

[markdl]

What is DBT?

[Deejay14]

Originally Posted by markdl

What is DBT?

Dialectical Behavioral Therapy
Marsha Linehan

I watched one of her YouTube videos. DBT is really effective for serious SI

Originally Posted by Deejay14

Dialectical Behavioral Therapy
Marsha Linehan

I bought her DBT workbook today, but I didn’t buy her main book because it sounded hard to read.

I asked my therapist today for a dbt exercise, but I was overwhelmed by the options she gave me (just on one page) and told her I would buy the workbook and think about it.

I bought another book called DBT Made Simple by Dijk. I don’t have great concentration right now, so that’s what I decided on. I need something easy to read!

Since I couldn’t decide on an activity for the “distraction” exercise, my therapist decided I needed to do thought replacement. She asked me what I think about, and I said my boss’ boss hates me, she snips at me, criticizes me, and wrote critical things in my review.

It’s not personal; that’s how she is; she is hard on people. I think she does want us to improve, and she has high standards. She has had high responsibilities in a Fortune 500 company. She is well known for the success of her own company, and I have a high-level job in her co.

Anyway, my replacement statement is, “She is trying to help me improve” and other variants on this.

I need to come up with more—because I’m feeling overwhelmed.

"They" wanted me to do DBT. I refused - I want to feel better, not act better.

[Fuzzybear]

I’m not a “failure” because my body won’t tolerare meds. I “just” feel like a “failure” with this ****ing anxiety and depression. It won’t go away

“They” think I’m worth nothing, ok fine

Originally Posted by Breadfish

"They" wanted me to do DBT. I refused - I want to feel better, not act better.

Not act "better", but different! Science has shown that there is a link between new ways of acting/thinking and new feelings.

A link to some great ways of "deactivating" depression:
https://www.getselfhelp.co.uk//dbt.htm

I found youtube videos that explain the program. See DBT Connections. Gill is not a therapist, she is someone that wants to help others that can’t get into a program where they are. She is someone who has been helped by the program herself.

These are a series of very detailed videos, which I like.

Originally Posted by key tones

I found youtube videos that explain the program. See DBT Connections. Gill is not a therapist, she is someone that wants to help others that can’t get into a program where they are. She is someone who has been helped by the program herself.

These are a series of very detailed videos, which I like.

Thank you so much for the videos! I watched a small part of the first one. That little part impressed me (I guess that if people watch these videos in details and in succession in a rate that is fit for them to be able to learn, they will be good at living in the best possible way with their depressions). Since people will be guided through these videos, they will be fit for people with concentration difficulties as well (I think).

I look forward to see these videos later when I have the time!

Hi Singer! I lost this thread; I’m just now getting back to it. You are welcome

I heard something on the mindfulness video that struck a chord with me. I do make judgments in my thoughts. We are to think what is factual instead.

We cannot know the feelings of others, just our own.

I thought that was interesting. I’m always thinking about how someone feels about me, but I can only really determine what they said or did.

I like that! We have to cope with our own struggles and treat others well. If they don't like us that is their business. We don't have to cling to people that are not interested in us. On the other side we may meet people who feel OK in our surroundings. It would be wasting of time to speculate if they like us or not.

[little turtle]

Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

I’m not a “failure” because my body won’t tolerare meds. I “just” feel like a “failure” with this ****ing anxiety and depression. It won’t go away

“They” think I’m worth nothing, ok fine

where are you at fuzzy with this thread...

Hi little turtle, I didn't expect to find you here, but life is full of surprises ...

[little turtle]

Originally Posted by Singer47

Hi little turtle, I didn't expect to find you here, but life is full of surprises ...

why not me

Originally Posted by little turtle

why not me

It is good to see you , but I'm used to that you use your energy on fighting the system! Of course DBT was not an option when you were younger. It is good that there is development in the treatment section!

Originally Posted by little turtle

why not me

Good to see you, little turtle! Hang out with us

When I asked my therapist for DBT strategies, the first thing she recommended was putting my face in ice water. Well, I’ve done that before for a different reason (to acclimate to ice baths for weight loss—you lose more weight getting cold than you can exercising). Well, I already know I don’t like that.

In listening to DBT Connections, she says to splash cool water on your face. Better! She say this helps if you need to ground yourself when disassociating, or if you can’t sleep, you’re having anxiety...the idea here is change your body temperature, change your emotional state. She carries ice packs with her for when she has a panic attack. Also a hand fan to coo herself off when she starts sweating and panicking.

She also blasts herself with cold water at the very end of her shower (I personally used to love doing that when I was a child).

Cold therapy!!

[FallDuskTrain]

Originally Posted by Jennifer 1967

I have no less then 4 books on DBT and went to a weekly class on it including a weekly workbook on working through depression and have let them gather dust despite repeated sources saying it’s helpful. The parts I do practice are mindfulness, radical acceptance, being non judgemental and wise mind.

I think DBT might really help you. I hope you get great answers. ((((Hugs))))

Can you share the book titles? I am very interested in trying.

I think it's a great idea. Does it work with anger too?