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Old Sep 18, 2019, 12:08 PM
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i am finding that YOU statements about another person can be
very harmful to the relationship...and good relationships are crucial
in my life...i am missing my friends irl today...it makes me more depressed...
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Old Sep 18, 2019, 12:38 PM
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i am finding that YOU statements about another person can be
very harmful to the relationship...and good relationships are crucial
in my life...i am missing my friends irl today...it makes me more depressed...
Only positive you statements are acceptable.

You are wonderful.
You are supportive.
You are kind and patient.

You are right. Negativity is harmful....

I am sorry your friends are not there to support you LT.
Your friends on the bus are always here for you

Sending hugs to you and everyone on the bus
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Old Sep 18, 2019, 01:43 PM
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thank you TS.....good ideas
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Old Sep 19, 2019, 10:05 AM
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Old Sep 19, 2019, 02:01 PM
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Confessions of little turtle with love #3
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Old Sep 21, 2019, 06:20 AM
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i am thinking and practicing mindfulness every day now....
i need to reduce the stress....i have so many thoughts and feelings
that are taking me down.....mostly about decline mentally and physically...
but i am very old now and i could be a lot worse....i would like to be
more at peace with the AS IS....
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Old Sep 21, 2019, 07:17 AM
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Whatever bothers you little turtle, I wish you peace with it. No human is perfect, bit we are perfectly imperfect. That's something my therapist would tell me to give me encouragement.
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Old Sep 21, 2019, 09:23 AM
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Whatever bothers you little turtle, I wish you peace with it. No human is perfect, bit we are perfectly imperfect. That's something my therapist would tell me to give me encouragement.
thanks 2daffodils......i wish i had some peace about death and dying...
not only me but my two good friends IRL....
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Old Sep 21, 2019, 09:44 AM
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i feel pretty good talking about my faults and mistakes...and weaknesses.....
this idea of sin i don't like it....sin implies some awful diety..
They aren't "weaknesses" they're HUMANESS.
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Old Sep 21, 2019, 09:46 AM
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Well finally inpatient. Oh God, why did I do this? I feel like a fake. There's nothing wrong with me except laziness.
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Old Sep 21, 2019, 09:48 AM
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I appreciate all of you on the bus more than you'll ever know. Thank you for being here.
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Old Sep 21, 2019, 10:22 AM
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Old Sep 21, 2019, 12:27 PM
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I appreciate all of you on the bus more than you'll ever know. Thank you for being here.
Thank you for being here Calla Lily.

Thank you for being here AS IS everyone
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Old Sep 21, 2019, 12:31 PM
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Whatever bothers you little turtle, I wish you peace with it. No human is perfect, bit we are perfectly imperfect. That's something my therapist would tell me to give me encouragement.
Thank you for posting this daffodils.

My mother expected baby TS to be perfect and it went down hill from there... However hard I tried, it was never enough. I did not know what being AS IS was like...

I also wish peace to you Little Turtle and to all on the bus.
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Old Sep 22, 2019, 09:29 AM
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Old Sep 22, 2019, 11:01 AM
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Thank you for posting this daffodils.

My mother expected baby TS to be perfect and it went down hill from there... However hard I tried, it was never enough. I did not know what being AS IS was like...

I also wish peace to you Little Turtle and to all on the bus.
I understand dear friend, PUS and their completely unreasonable expectations, it was us who were 'wrong' from birth

we could never be 'good enough'
or 'beautiful enough'
since we were not the abusive parental unit
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Old Sep 22, 2019, 02:40 PM
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'well adjusted' …

wtf does that mean?

humans aren't ****ing machines …

or are they

some of our parental units treated us worse than furniture

its a tribute to our STRENGTH that we are kind and compassionate and not monsters
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Old Sep 22, 2019, 02:57 PM
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'well adjusted' …

wtf does that mean?

humans aren't ****ing machines …

or are they

some of our parental units treated us worse than furniture

its a tribute to our STRENGTH that we are kind and compassionate and not monsters


We were brought up with no feelings allowed...

Not surprising we struggle to express ourselves now

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Old Sep 22, 2019, 03:22 PM
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We were brought up with no feelings allowed...

Not surprising we struggle to express ourselves now

Sending big hugs to you dear Fuzzybear


big hugs to you dear Thirty shades
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Old Sep 23, 2019, 04:51 AM
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i am thinking and practicing mindfulness every day now....
i need to reduce the stress....i have so many thoughts and feelings
that are taking me down.....mostly about decline mentally and physically...
but i am very old now and i could be a lot worse....i would like to be
more at peace with the AS IS....
Little turtle, can you suggest where I can read about mindfulness? Some book or video(s)?

Much love and hugs to you.
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Old Sep 23, 2019, 05:21 AM
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dear desiree.... i don't know what to say...i am just starting with mindfulness....
i am reading about it by[jon kabat-zinn].....but it is not easy reading..
.but there is some hope for us.....
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Old Sep 23, 2019, 08:49 AM
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oprah interviewed dr dean ornish and his wife ann on super soul sunday...
that was yesterday the 22nd....it was interesting and helpful....
it was about their new book UNDOIT......LIFESTYLE MEDICINE...
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Old Sep 23, 2019, 03:43 PM
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Old Sep 24, 2019, 11:09 AM
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I don't understand people who want to take others down

people (irl) who use YOU statements
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Old Sep 24, 2019, 01:24 PM
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This bus feels so quiet now even the regulars, especially me, feel muzzled
maybe this is a 'good' thing... the bear being muzzled
I know some (irl) would enjoy this
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