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Old Dec 08, 2020, 01:01 AM
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I'm having a difficult time this morning. My cat's been sick and I have to take her back to the vet in the morning. It's all very stressful. On top of that, my job search was a failure. No one wants me. I've been away from work for too long. I don't have the latest skills. Other areas of my life aren't going well either. On a good note, I have a home, food, family and friends. I also have two lovely cats. I'm just very depressed at the moment. It's clouding my judgment.
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Old Dec 08, 2020, 09:33 AM
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I've been depressed & down in other ways for a while, but I'm better today. I'm feeling newer & relieved, and thankful.
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Old Dec 09, 2020, 12:21 AM
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I'm feeling better this morning. And I'm happy that my cat is better too. The vet found the problem and was able to take care of it right away. I'm also glad I don't have a job right now. I need to take care of myself at the moment. I have my health to think about.
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Old Dec 10, 2020, 06:59 AM
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Tried to ask for prayers, ( At Jesus feet) not able to for some reason. Would appreciate any if possible. Difficult getting thru each day. Used to go to bed by 10pm. This year 2-4 am each day. Thanks
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Old Dec 10, 2020, 07:23 AM
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Tried to ask for prayers, ( At Jesus feet) not able to for some reason. Would appreciate any if possible. Difficult getting thru each day. Used to go to bed by 10pm. This year 2-4 am each day. Thanks
I will be happy to pray for you! I am convinced that sincere prayer works. Also, I have been prescribed medications that have helped me sleep better. If you have been dealing with insomnia for a long time--have you consulted with a healthcare provider?
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Old Dec 10, 2020, 07:35 AM
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Tried to ask for prayers, ( At Jesus feet) not able to for some reason. Would appreciate any if possible. Difficult getting thru each day. Used to go to bed by 10pm. This year 2-4 am each day. Thanks
Prayers coming your way.
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Old Dec 10, 2020, 10:32 AM
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Tried to ask for prayers, ( At Jesus feet) not able to for some reason.
Did you join the group? Don't think you can post unless you join.
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Old Dec 10, 2020, 10:39 AM
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@Saunder, I just said a prayer for you, too. God bless you & your girlfriend!
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Old Dec 10, 2020, 03:31 PM
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Grandfather was a minister.

''They'' lied to him.......

I have ''always been a misfit'' (as defined by ''family'' ... and much worse)

They were (and are) all perfect.

idk... it doesn't make a lot of sense.

How do I stop poking myself with their stick of blame.

Or is it even possible



Rhetorical question.....

I'm working on it..

And on ''staying alive''

(this is NOT about the situation in the world)
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Old Dec 10, 2020, 03:34 PM
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Tried to ask for prayers, ( At Jesus feet) not able to for some reason. Would appreciate any if possible. Difficult getting thru each day. Used to go to bed by 10pm. This year 2-4 am each day. Thanks
I'm praying for you. I'm a member in that forum. I hope you can post there (I agree with the others posts. Hope to see you there

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Old Dec 10, 2020, 03:34 PM
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Old Dec 10, 2020, 03:37 PM
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Old Dec 10, 2020, 03:40 PM
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Sometimes it's not as easy finding the social groups forums as it once was.... sometimes I forget to go there.

Thank you for the reminder.
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Old Dec 10, 2020, 03:41 PM
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To all the ''misfits'' (like me)

Do you ''suffer from transference''.. if so, what does that mean?

A therapist encouraged ''transference'' (irl...)

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Old Dec 10, 2020, 03:59 PM
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To all the ''misfits'' (like me)

Do you ''suffer from transference''.. if so, what does that mean?

A therapist encouraged ''transference'' (irl...)

I think I have experienced it. I felt like one of my supervisors was a second father to me; I felt like my neighbors next door were grandparents to me.

In psychology, transference is this: (oops, wrong link--just fixed it)
Transference | Psychology Today

Transference can be a good feeling (the examples I cite above); it can also be messy. If you read some of the posts in the psychoanalysis forum, it shows how sometimes people develop romantic feelings for their therapist--we know these feelings are inappropriate but when a person is not used to getting loving attention--sometimes our emotions overreact. We all need love and attention.
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Old Dec 10, 2020, 04:08 PM
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I think I have experienced it. I felt like one of my supervisors was a second father to me; I felt like my neighbors next door were grandparents to me.

In psychology, transference is this: (oops, wrong link--just fixed it)
Transference | Psychology Today

Transference can be a good feeling (the examples I cite above); it can also be messy. If you read some of the posts in the psychoanalysis forum, it shows how sometimes people develop romantic feelings for their therapist--we know these feelings are inappropriate but when a person is not used to getting loving attention--sometimes our emotions overreact. We all need love and attention.
Thanks for sharing. I wonder if in some pre-historic forests irl sometimes ALL transference is pathologized (etc) or misused (not always...)

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Old Dec 10, 2020, 04:14 PM
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Thanks for sharing. I wonder if in some pre-historic forests irl sometimes ALL transference is pathologized (etc) or misused (not always...)

Hope you can escape from the pre-historic forest if you accidentally wander into one.
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Old Dec 10, 2020, 08:53 PM
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I'm a misfit. I don't find .............................................. helpful

I'm a misfit.

I don't like that word.

I am either ''too quiet'' or say ''too much'' - according to those ''wonderful'' ''Experts'' who enjoy listing other peoples ''shortcomings''...



I really really don't like some other words
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Today I visited the Swiss Alps & Scottish islands via tv travelogues, & it gave me a lift.
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Old Dec 12, 2020, 10:51 PM
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Dear @Fuzzybear, you are one of the last members of this planet who would be thought of as horrible. You are so very sensitive! Horrible people & bears are extremely INsensitive! You are keeper!!
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Had my 3 month (virtual) follow-up appointment with my pdoc today. It took all of maybe 10 minutes if that? What is there to say? Nothing really. Everything simply is what it is.
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Old Dec 14, 2020, 06:36 PM
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I'm feeling depressed tonight. I had some bad thoughts come up that haven't been there in a while. It's late in the day. It was gray all day. I feel tired. I think all those things are affecting my mood. The only thing I can do is go to bed. Maybe if I meditate, I might feel better.
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Hi! If you need a place to say what hurts & you don't know where to say it, I hope you can feel comfortable here. I sometimes feel like I don't fit anywhere, & I think that there are others who can relate to that & might feel more comfortable in a thread for us misfits. As for myself, I can do very well, & then I get depressed. It can be quite a struggle at times, & then I'm back on track again. I've been thinking I need a place where I don't feel like a weird misfit. So I thought maybe we could form an ongoing vent place for us types.
This is a great idea.
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