angry

I was sad this week and now I'm very angry. My parents are to blame, mainly my mother. They needed to use my new car and they treat it like junk. The stop and go quick, don't know how to use the controls, move seats and mirrors. I can understand some of the things, but they treat it ruff. In a few hours they put 120 miles on it and they didn't say that they would put gas back in it or tell me where the went. Mostly it is my mother, she does not have any value for anything (money, time, ect) she does not know how to drive anymore. we were to take my cat to the vet and she set it up for 4:30 and I don't get home until 4:30 it takes 20 minutes to get to the vet and she knew that. she would not call the vet and say we would be late, so we got there and the doctor left and the staff was upset because we were the last ones and they had to wait on us. my mother really bothers me know, she has no respect for others and it is all her. all she does in sit, watch tv, eat, talk on the phone and paint the kitchen over and over. I'm just so angry!!

Can you write a list of how you would like things to be?

Would it help to try to talk with your Mother and straighten things out?

Or would it be a good idea to move away so that you have your own space?

Just some questions for you to think about, and maybe enable you to make some changes.

My thoughts are with you.

I'm sorry your mother isn't being the most respectful of you and your time. Have you thought about moving away from them, or not allowing them access to any of your stuff or allowing them to run your life? It's hard, but maybe something like that would work, if you've already sat down and calmly explained your point of view on things that have been happening.

They should really respect your property. Thats just wrong. I hope the situation resolves.

They sound immature.

hm. lovely mother. u need o tell her she needs to pay more respect. dont yell it to her. it wont go in. dont do it in a way that might be seen as an attack or humiliation to her. which is hard, i know. but that way its more likly to get into her.
good luck
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I tried nicely and calm and a bit sad, and she said "its not me, it is you and what you been through, you not the same." HOW RUDE. I'm on medication now and I'm more "normal". and I know that "normal" people do not act like this. I asked her to spend some time with me in the basement and she said her shows were own and will be down later. I've asked her many times and her shows are always on, and when they are over it is time for me to go to bed. And every time the mail goes, she will not walk down to get it and makes me get it or she drives down. And lately she keeps asking me if I got my tax refund yet. What does it matter if I got it, it is not for her, but I know she will ask me for some. And today, she got another phone call from jamacia (they always call, but she denies it) and I listened in and they were cons. Asking for money so they can ship her lottery winnings. Come on! and she fell for it before, so she will likely do it again. it makes me so angry and sad at the same time, and I don't know how to deal with it. I would love to move away, but don't have money saved, or a good job and I'm scared.

aries, maybe the reason you cant seem t get away is because there is some 'issue' where you are that needs to be dealt with?

anger is a hard one.... you sound like you have some good feelings tho.... the sadness part makes mre think that you want it all better... and feel overwhelmed... )brilliant einstein)

could you nurture the good feelings? set aside the pain? ... let the pain process little by little and stay goal - oriented towards a good outcome for everyne, even tho its frustrating and painful as heck?

sometimes it seems we really have to be the light of our own spirit... but, sometimes 'little' things occur to keep us hopeful.... having any of those?

hang in there....

I'm sorry this is still going on. Please take care of yourself.

hey if you have to blow some steam, grab a pillow and beat it up.

Nothing helps. I listen to music, write, talk to myself and my pets. I just want to cry, but can't. I wish...