I'm failing my courses..and I'm hopeless:'(

well...I donot know how to say this...but I really donot know how to deal with alot of stuff that is going on to me
I have alot to do ( assignment,presentations,projects,exams,quizez,.......)
and I have family problems that I cannot handle
I was straight A's students.. and now I failed my calculus midterm and my discrete math too ..I feel frustrated...I do alot of work and study but i'm not getting what i wanna get!!.i'm so frustrated.
I feel that i'm not alive after that shock....I sleep all day after i come from college and somedays i donot eat at all.
I feel that i'm lost.

can you share with us about "that shock"? that may help us to help you.

well...i have not failed a course b4...if i failed my GPA will be affected...and then my acadmic transcript will include that...... and all what i have is my study...i donot have careing friends and familymembers..so my study is all what i have got...if i failed....i donot have anything to live for

((((((((((((((( brokenheart )))))))))))))))))

I am sorry that you are struggling. Do you have a therapist that you can talk about all of this with? I know a lot of schools offer free counseling to there students.

yes...we have it's a new department in our university and no one ever tried to go there...
and i wouldnot...bcoz i'm afraid i'm going to be judged if anyone saw me there and they will say bad thing about me ..i know it is stupid...but counsling andstuff is a new thing for our community and people didnot understand it..
I hope they do one day

I know how you feel, actually. I'm failing most of my courses too, don't have many friends, and am left with just about nothing but my kitties, my gf, and school.

One thing I have to correct you on though is your opinion of counseling. Once I realized how much trouble I was in, I went to my school's counseling department. Horror of horrors, I saw people I knew in the waiting room before my first appointment! It was awkward at first, but if you just start talking to them casually, you'll find you both can relax because you're both there for the same thing

It sounds weird, but it's true. Nobody will judge you. Chances are anyone who sees you is going there too. It's most important to get what you need for yourself, and if that's getting your school back on track, go for it =D

Hope this helps, and good luck with everything ^_^

~TheDeliciousDish

I was actually considering going to counselling just because I've been feeling in the dumps lately. I don't necessarily ahve a background of child abuse or huge family problems but I'm going there just to talk to a porfessional because I am not where I want to be. You're not crazy if you go to a counsellor...actually it's a sane thing to do to go ask for help . Trust me...it will help you get what ever is on your mind out. Counsellors are not judgemental and have dealt with a lot of tough embarrassing situations. everything will be fine...did you talk to your gf about it?

((Brokenheart1))
I'm so sorry you are going through such a rough time...

A few counseling sessions would probably be of help to you.
Look at it this way; the University would not have opened the department unless they were aware the students were in need of it.
It's a new thing and we understand your feelings, but the guidance you'll receive will be of great help. Confidentiality is honored, and you will not be judged because you request guidance from a professional...chances are that counselor knows exactly how you feel because they were students once and will be able to help you sort things.

Please keep posting and let us know how you are, Brokenheart1.
We care

Cap

thank you all for your support...i will try to go there..
Frankly i feel that you guys here care about me more than people who is in my real life...thanks again!
well..I'm a girl

sorry about that broken...i meant did you talk to your bf...i believe you said you had a bf?...maybe I'm mistaken...but if I'm not...you should if you feel close enough to them...I found tlaking to my bf about it helped him to understand me and my needs...good luck

Well...I donot have any friends...I have only class mates..
Frankly...I was pushing away everyone around me...I dunno why!!?
but sometimes i feel that they take advantege of my weekness points.
so i couldnot handle all that stress...(school+family +friends)
i just cannot handle all that...so i cannot let go of school or my family..even if they donot care or love me,,
so lately my friend did something harsh to me beside what she was doing...so i decided to cut the friendship between us, and she didnot say that she is sorry or anything...so i prefer to be without friends to have one who's hurt me and donot care at all...and like what i just said...i have more imprtant stuff to worry about than friendship that is not worthy

Brokenheart1, pushing away people is something many of us do when we are overwhelmed...
Jme, but I'll do it whenever I'm feeling especially afraid of failing at doing something. It doesn't happen often now because I've learned it makes me feel lonely and sad. Being connected to another human being makes things easier for us.
Stay connected with people in real life, and stay connected with us.
Hey, you'll have two support systems!
We'll listen to anything you want to share, and you will not be judged. I've shared about my depression and worries and people here have truly shown me support.

Cap

p.s. I just read your newest reply. I'm sorry about your friend hurting you. I hope you can find someone who will listen to you and show you respect. You deserve to be shown respect.
You still have us as support while you make any changes that will ease your fears...

Broken, I can totally udnerstand what you mean by pushing away. I isolate myself and I start to dislike being around people. A lot of the times I think this happens for me because I feel unappreciated. I feel I put so much into the relaitonship and get nothing back...or the people think I'm bad when i did nothing to them. All I wanted to do was be there for them. Counselling helps you in that you don't commit to a relationship with the counsellor. You just open up about yourself and tell all your problems. It's all about you which may be beneficial for you. This will help you heal and resolve some of the underlying pain....you know that you are a straight A student and it doesn't matter what others think but what you think...you will get what you want from life...just ask for help...please get better

exactly!!
Thanks capp & myoasis98...and all of you because of your comments and advices
I like it here because you all care without judeging each others
like what i have said b4 i really feel comfortable around you guys
Thanks