[kimmydawn]

i know that losing a parent can really get messy for a DID'er...even when (and sometimes especially when) that parent was an abuser.

i'm scared. my dissociation has been minimal (and when bad, situational). i'm really scared that things are going to get crazy here. i can "sense" it. there's so much going on inside of me right now, and i'm trying so hard to maintain control and get done what needs to be done.

i'm really scared. i've been really dissociative this past week. however, with the progress made, i was able to watch alot of it while standing back. i don't want to lose gobs of time and/or get into bad situations.

kd

[h0kie]

((((((((((((((((((((((((kd)))))))))))))))))))))))) I really don't have any insightful suggestions...you're usually giving me suggestions.

Just know, you can do this. We're behind you to listen and be supportive. Could you put a rock or something comforting in your pocket to remind you that we love you and are thinking of you and hey, it may help keep you grounded too.

Take care of yourself and your family right now. The chips will fall where they may.

Thinking of you.

((((((((((kd)))))))))) <--- one for the road

[Mahali]

(((( kd ))))

I would love to be able to tell you that you are wrong. Unfortunately I can't. It seems that losing my father did trigger a lot of unrest and at times chaos. ( although my dad was not the person who hurt us)

Mostly what it triggered ( as it turns out ) was positive movement forward.

It has not been easy at times but it has turned out to be movement forward and not setbacks as I first felt it was going to be.

You have some positive support at home and heaven knows people care about you here kd.

You will get through this. We will help.

Take care of you and be kind to you and yours.

place

[silver_queen]

(((((((((((((((((((((( Kimmy )))))))))))))))))))))))))

I'm sorry, Kimmy. I don't have any advice but I too hope that things don't work out like that. Place says some positive news about moving forward and I hope that'll be true of you as well. Perhaps allowing your insiders to journal all their thoughts so you can learn what they are thinking and so how to comfort them etc might help... i don't know, sorry .

[misty]

(((((((((((((((((((((((((kd))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
so srry! You will be in our thaughts and prayers. Loosing a parent is not easy for anyone so please be gentel and kind to yourselves.

lrks

((((((((Kimmy)))))))) I'm so sorry you have so much to deal with now. The loss of your father must be so complicated and full of emotion.

Would writing help? Before bed can you help your insiders write or draw their feelings, so they will feel included, but not need to come out during the day time activities? What are your T's thoughts on how to handle all this stress? Have you been able to talk to him at all?

Wishing for one of those magic wands to wave away your hurt, emmy

[wanttoheal]

((((((((((((((Kim)))))))))))))))

[RhysMadison]

I don't have anything I can offer except virtual hugs & a listening ear. Just know you are in my thoughts! I'm here for you as you have been for me.
Love,
RM

[Monty_girl]

((((((((((((((((((((( KD ))))))))))))))))))))))) Love Ya

I wish I could do or say more. But I'm here if ya need me. Your in my blessings and holding your hand. Monty

one moment at a time kd. slow it down so that you don't get overwhelmed. (((kimmy)))

I know that 'sense' you're speaking about and it is one I dread when it comes on for me.

you've done a great job of handling things up to this point....nothing indicates this will change. I hear your fear but I also want to remind you of how able you all are and that you have outlets to come to for posting, PMing, e-mails, etc. There are many ppl who want to be there for you all.

[Fuzzybear]

(((((((((((((((((kimmy)))))))))))))))))))

[(JD)]

((((Kimmy)))) make as many lists as you need, to help you keep on track of what you want/need to do, check them off as you do them, then, if you do "lose time" when you return you will still know where're at on those items.

Please be gentle with yourself. If you do lose gobs of time, remember, it's for a real, and good, reason. If you lose time it's because you need that protection. Don't fight it... work around it as best you can.

[nightdream]

((((((((((((((((((Kimmy)))))))))))))))))))

Thinking of you dear special friend and sending you warm vibes to keep you safe. Take good care of you and all!

nightdream

[Zorah]

I`ve been there too kimmydawn. My mother died in 2003 at 96 years of age. I had to pretend to be ok while she was alive, or "normal" anyway, while she lived.
We never even tried to tell anyone how it was for us until after she died, &amp; you need to remember that DIDs do dissociate more under stress.
We think our mother`s death might have made a new start for us, as someone who can live without being in shadow. She didn`t mean to hurt me I think.

[fgh]

colorurple]Hello. I like you too I forgot to say you in theother place here. I hope you are not scared. You would not be scared of me if we were in the same cirecle. MAY be some body else can do the dead dead part? I do not think about the mother and I do not go there buuuuttt some body else.I thin k I do not talk to doctor why I am then when the mother is gone gone gone MAY be I will.