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Mar 24, 2006, 06:10 PM
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So tired of her. I did like T say and acknowledge her the past few mornings but that didn't seem to help. It just made her want to play all day and be noticed.
So, I sent her away. I hope she never comes back!!
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Mar 24, 2006, 06:14 PM
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Twisted Soul,
Please don't be horrible to her. She is a child and she has'nt done anything wrong!
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Mar 24, 2006, 06:48 PM
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Twisted Soul,
I know it's hard. No one "wants" their littles but that is also one of the reasons we have them. I agree with Pegusus. In many ways, we are the parents. When things are difficult, remember that they need our support and love. I know it's hard and I wish I could make all of your pain go away. Be gentle to all of yourselves, Anne 
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Mar 24, 2006, 10:23 PM
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Sometimes our littles come out to give us time to recoup from a hard and trying day, enjoy the time she gives you this is a well deserved time out for you
Angie
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Mar 24, 2006, 10:56 PM
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I'm sorry Twisted Soul, that you're at this bad-feelings stage... the "little" is still a part of you...I hope you can be more gentle with yourself. It's ok...to have an inner child...everyone does.
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Mar 25, 2006, 10:33 AM
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You all are so right but sometimesI just get so upset and frustrated.
Yeah, I guess I am just as lousy of a nurturer as my own Mother had been.
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Mar 25, 2006, 10:47 AM
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Heck no your not a bad nurturer, your still learning take it slow and be kinder to yourself
Love ya Angie
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Mar 25, 2006, 11:33 AM
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TW,
You are so not the person your mom was. Or, you wouldn't be here and with your T trying to heal from the wrong that you did. I think we're all just trying to give you a little input about the stumbling blocks we've gone/going through to make the hurt not so hurtful. It's not directed at your ability or inability to be a nurturing person. It is what it is. It's part of the therapy process and the learning process. But, you have to do it at your own pace and safety. Recently, in therapy, my T asked me to just "slightly embrace" a feeling when I see it coming. Oh, Boy!!! I didn't think it was going to be so scary and hard and panicky and anxiety provoking and now my friends son died unexpectedly and I'm dealing with anhedonia (the inability to feel whatever). Tough stuff - but that's another story. This is about you - sorry. Maybe ask your T for some guidance. They know you best and in what place you are at and what would be appropriate. I just wanted you to know that these are just suggestions that have helped us get through the tough times and to reassure you that you are not a bad person - because you are a beautiful twisted soul  Safe hugs, Anne and All The Others
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Mar 25, 2006, 06:27 PM
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I know how frustrating it can be. Hang in there! It does get easier. Safe hug>>>>>>>>>>>>> (((((((((((((( Twisted Soul ))))))))))))))
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#10
Mar 25, 2006, 07:40 PM
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I know - I know.
T said to me that just like a parent you cannot neglect a child...she gave ex. of her own young daughter who would need her help in the morning to get dressed and off to school. I get it kinda. But, then it is just so overwhelming. I guess, for me right now, it just seems like it is easier to make her go away. But, I know that the shortcuts I have been making lately are NOT leading me any closer to healing. I do try to care for Little. Then sometimes I get selfish. Thanks for all your support and experiences. They help me re-think things out.
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Mar 26, 2006, 11:35 PM
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Yes, and sometimes when a mother speaks to a child she has to explain things...like Mother can't work when you are "under her feet" or it isn't safe for you to be in the kitchen when Mother needs to cook dinner." That might not fit your situation exactly, but letting the child aspect of you know some of those thoughts... might help both of you not feel so bad?
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Mar 27, 2006, 11:58 AM
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It is so hard to parent our littles... mine are so mischevios at times... You will get better at it... you are not a bad parent..
Lilith
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Mar 27, 2006, 06:11 PM
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I am trying.
It just seems like it is always a battle with her, ya know.
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Mar 27, 2006, 09:17 PM
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maybe cuz she know somehting you dont
maybe she not so bad if you listen maybe she knows what you didnt cuz she wanted to help nobody cares about us |
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Mar 28, 2006, 08:11 AM
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.gif) allie
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Mar 28, 2006, 04:40 PM
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We all care about you Mlyn!
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Mar 28, 2006, 04:44 PM
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((((mlyn)))
safe hugs alice |
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Mar 28, 2006, 05:42 PM
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((((((((((( myln & Littles ))))))))))
We love you. We care. You can talk to me anytime. Many soft hugs, Jan
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Mar 28, 2006, 05:45 PM
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((((((((((((( allie )))))))))))))
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Mar 28, 2006, 05:48 PM
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(((((((((((( mlyn ))))))))))))
safe hugs (only if ok) Fuzzy
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Mar 28, 2006, 05:51 PM
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(((((((((((((((( Allie )))))))))))))))
Safe, soft hugs for you! Hugs, Jan
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